Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

Got a message back from my date saying he's really busy with work and this week is 'already out', in what came across as a slightly snippy tone. Wrote back that I understand work pressures (and I really do) and maybe next week sometime, let me know when's good if that works for you. Silence.

*waves to conrad's girl*

ljub the last time a guy did that to me its cos he was doing the bailout act and was too gutless to just say so. I had to flat out ask him "you're not bothered with this anymore are you" and he then admitted he wasnt, and I just dropped him. I HATE TIME WASTERS.

Yeah, I'm kind of getting that vibe. He was intriguing, but definitely not intriguing enough to chase after.

The second best thing to being told how awesome you are is being told straight-up: "Sorry, but I'm not feeling it." It feels like RESPECT!

It's so great that I message 3 or 4 people a day just to tell them that.

Yeah I've had a couple of recent experiences with - not rejection, but just full on honesty about their situs, and I love it, it is so refreshing.

I haven't been on a date in quite a while, but when I was dating frequently I found that when I gave honest, simple no-thank-yous, the other person felt the same way, and I made a friend after one such disclosure.

It can be a relief, if nothing else, it undoes a level of "what if" thats left hanging otherwise. And yeah I agree ive made/stayed friends with people I *adored* once I 'fessed up and they said no, or vice versa.

Its the ones you say no to who then chuck a queen sized tanty, that you need to run away from (thank u, mister "you're lucky I didnt drive into a TREE after you told me that" gothboy I once knew)

lol-sorta

Jesus.

Somewhere between driving into a tree and "Oh thank Christ" is a good reaction.

[Yeah, I'm kind of getting that vibe. He was intriguing, but definitely not intriguing enough to chase after.

NO CHASING!!

every time i've even half-chased someone, it has only ended in nothing or half-heartbreak

Yep - I chased back in 2009 and got myself into a total state (documented on here somewhere). Once I'm really into someone, I can get ridiculous. But he really sent crazy mixed signals, that 2009 guy.

my friend has the mantra "don't chase them, replace them" and i think it's a good rule to live by. when something clicks you don't have to chase or be chased.

so out of nowhere, i've been seeing a non-OKC girl (i met her through real life friends - a novel concept!) a bunch over the last week. she's really, really awesome!! so it was kind of bad timing because the okc person i saw recently was actually pretty cool and i was excited to see her again, but...gotta follow the heart!

Kind of wish this thread was on 77. Bleh. Sick of feeling like dating is akin to applying for rental properties or jobs! >:|

(as in, I always just miss out... sigh)

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I have an email from someone that I like & want to respond to but I don't go on the site at work, and I'm too tired to be sparkling and witty at night. Shd I email him like one line just to apologize for the delay? I feel responsible. Because a bunch of people haven't responded to me, either, and I'm like, "WHAT? WHAT DID I SAY? I'm too old for you, aren't I. You're 36, you can date 29-year-olds. And you're tall, and thin, and you appear to own at least one suit--I'm sure there's a tall, thin, athletic professional woman with a blow-out for you out there. You know what, just forget it." I'm probably doing this to that guy, aren't I.

Er I meant "athletic, professional," not actually "professional athlete." There's probably not a professional athlete out there for everyone.

email him back imo

if you don't go on the site at work, could you craft a sparkling and witty reply at work and then just log on at home & paste and send?

so there's no okcupid app for droid?

i mean android obv lol

Oh there is but I can't write on my phone. I can't think with my thumbs at a measured pace, and I can't cut and paste when I want to move a though to another paragraph, and etc. It makes me write in l33t speak out of annoyance with the technology.

rayuela has it, I'll write an email in another account and send it later. Now why didn't I think of that?!

My intriguing date met someone else and politely messaged to explain this. I politely responded. Next!

Next indeed!
I'm at a weirdpunk show and i say Go for Love not casual-maybe blahblahblah!

<3 this is the vibe that I'm feeling as well

I'm getting married

just kidding

connie u are such the playa on thyis thread

someone who looks a lot like jeremy sisto has messaged me...but i have this amorphous thing going with someone i really really like and even though i'm not sure where he's at i would feel bad going on a date someone else? i don't know how these things work.

Date attempt #2 tonight! This one is verbally agile, at least. I like that in an internet romance.

good luck laurel!

hey NYC OKC people

I will be in NYC (and DC) in the first half of April

hope we can have a FAP, if not a masssive collective date

I'm sure you will come up with a fabulous venue

pinefox! We're going to be AT the same thing! Of course there will be faps, probably many.

wait, do you mean the chickfactor shows?

[... or do we have a date I don't know about?]

Pinefox in NYC

Welcome Pinefox. Laurel, how was your date?

i really shouldn't get bummed out about okc girls NOT FEELIN IT, but dang, at least have the courtesy to decide you don't wanna go out anymore prior to, like, two hours before date #2

(especially if you're gonna keep blowing up my phone/gchat every day since a fun date #1 like nothing's wrong)

blug

hey pinefox i'm down for a fap! i'm also going to be having a bday party april 13th somewhere or other.

also in a weird twist of internet dating fate, i dated someone off okc who knows the pinefox irl a few years ago.

did he release a classic album on 9/11?

why yes

if it's not Bob Dylan then I wrote a lengthy online article on it

and if it is Bob Dylan then I still wrote a lengthy online article on it

it was totally bob dylan

"OK Computer & Theft"

do you have your article online somewhere (the non-bob dylan one)?

oui

it was in a countdown of my favourite LPs of the 2000s, not in any order save the order I happened to post them

http://reelingatall.wordpress.com/2009/12/31/1-through-small-windows/