Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

I've met some good people on OKC who I'm still in fleeting contact with, but it's mostly been either super flaky people or people I've gone out with once or twice without any indication that there should be further dating (even though roughly half of those ladies seemed wholly prepared to jump directly into Serious Relationship Land, apparently accompanied by pretty much anybody), with the rare detour into longer-term stuff that has melted down. Most of the people I've been the most interested in I've met in real life, where I can get to know them before saddling things with the onus of dating. I just wish that was an easier thing to do once you're no longer in school.

I kinda just wanna delete my OKC profile and hope I bump into anyone who looks intersting in some real world sitch.

% of people that are sick in real life <<<<<<<<<<<<<<<< % of people that are supposedly sick on OKC

He texted me, I texted back, problem solved, no date to scheduled till I get back from upcoming UK flit though

i would be down for vday nyc fap
someone keep me in the loop

I am officially on a declared OKC hiatus.

That's good ljubljana, I think letting things peter out so soon, without a second chance, would have been premature, whatever does or doesn't come of it.

i have already been invited to an anti vday party...but i think a vday fap is the first time i ever met ilxors oh so many years ago.

i'll ask my friend who's having the party if she doesn't mind internet strangers coming though!

Oh yes, I was at that too iirc.

you definitely were!

would be down w/a singles ny vday party & meeting some of yall

I'm there, let's do it.

six singles enter, three couples leave, six very awkward threads the next day

Last night I was logged into OkCupid and I decided to update some pics and some of my profile. Which meant a bunch of freaks then swarmed at me. Some guy was IMing me asking me to go over to his house today and bring sandwiches. When I said I didn't want to do that, he got angry with me. I said that every first meeting has to be in public, and he got all pouty and said he was bummed because then it meant we couldn't "goof off"

Then he said I could treat him to breakfast later.

I kindly informed him that reverse PUA Mystery stuff doesn't work on me, and signed off.

This is hopeless.

I've logged on, looked at people, and just cannot get that excited about anyone. Feel the same way, Mands. Although THAT guy is a real treat, I have to say. Bring...SANDWICHES?

i would totally like a sandwich right now
GOOF OFF EVERYBODY

I really don't react well to pushy people, it makes me highly upset

will date for food

can't believe i can't find macy skipper's "goofin off" on youtube

If we can't crash b_g's party, where should we go? Somewhere more romantical than out usual east village outings? Like, the king cole bar at the st Regis hotel, or bemelmans bar at the Carlyle?

We should take ourselves out for something nice, yes. I like Bemelmans, everyone likes Bemelmans.

Alternately we could go to the Subway Bar by Bloomingdales. A dive bar home away from our normal home in the EVil.

i am single fyi

my V Day joke is "Or as they call it at my house, Passover"

(old Bob Hope Oscars line)

the constant presence of "make me a sandwich" in the meme arsenal of internet misogyny-lite banter is steadily ruining sandwiches for me tbh. :(

i am thinking of returning to my okc profile just so i can change my description to "five foot five with dimples, potential wife credentials" and veto everyone who seems not to recognise it (i suspect this might be everyone)

Dr. M., will you hang out with us and make my v-day complete?

Maybe we could start at bemelmans and move on to subway after we've thrown all our money away, or the cover starts, which ever comes first.

I have to say, this thread is not inspiring me to un-suspend my profile.

what is the "make a sandwich" thing? i have googled that and "pua" and come across some incomprehensible posts about it

wd hafta check film schedule

xp

it's a dumb thing where guys respond to women making an intelligent point by saying "yeah, why don't you make me a sandwich" i.e. women belong in the kitchen yuk yuk

???? surely no one actually does this

let me introduce you to the internet
http://bitchmakemeasandwich.com/

ok hate everyone now, thanks

Tracer, there was a mini-furore recently when it turned out that if you set your facebook language to 'l33t' the genders were not 'male' and 'female' but 'male' and '54ndw1ch m4k3r'.

ew about this sandwich stuff! i'll find out if party crashers are welcome and let you all know...it should be full of cat-owning ladies in their 30s who spend their weeknights watching downton abbey and cooking lentils (describing self here).

attn mookieproof: i webmailed you re. your trip to seattle.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=94IdL3djJVU

Uuuuuugh. Fuck that PUA shit so hard. I was so completely oblivious to it as a movement until female friends started pointing out when guys were pulling those particular moves. It was like putting on the They Live glasses.

met someone really nice off of okcupid

Got into a message war with a sleazeball, avoided OKC for a while. I don't know if I'll ever be able to do this dating thing, I can't even chat comfortably.

Lawks, sorry conrad, I'm so busy feeling grumpy at the memory of the skeezedude I'm being rude. Glad for you.

B_g, bring your friends for a romantical gin-soaked evening at the Carlyle.

not at all - sorry the lamers get to you

i think the carlyle is a little rich for their (and my!) blood!

especially with the amount of gin we all likely need to consume on this most alienating of holidays

Wait so is ilx valentining on Tuesday proper? I have to plan.

I think the PUA stuff may work on girls who are really iused to being hit on ALL THE TIME and are super hot and need to be knocked down a peg. However, I am NOT one of those and when someone is being an asshole I generally start to believe that they don't like me.

I think it works for people who are way self-absorbed or just so goal-oriented that they have to be challenged all the time or see all other humans as competition.

The targets are either of a similar mindset, or are easily bullied, or are looking for a "real man" or some horseshit and either need to adjust their viewpoint, or they deserve what they get

the pua stuff i've read makes it all sound so creepy and aggressive and basically trying to trick people into sleeping with you which is barely a step about slipping something in their drink on the sleaziness scale.

slipping something in their drink isn't sleazy

??

I think he means it's rape, rather than 'sleazy'. I think. I hope.

it might be one of those things where you know you're going to think of something funny so you go ahead and get the first half of the sentence out there while you work on creating the second half

he was gonna say it's sleazy 5eva