Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

if someone's going to be all judgey about you going out and looking for a date after breaking up, then they can go ahead and think "he's a jerk who would go out and immediately try to find someone else" and it'll stop them from being hung up on you

wanting an ex to think you're not interested in other people is like a "he would rather be alone than be with me, or maybe I can get it back together" enabler

^^^ otm and ZS has the right to get immediately back out there. But all logic aside, when someone who broke up with you is immediately back on without a day's break, it can be upsetting: pride (not logic) demands that even though they weren't into you, they're at least mildly sad enough to want to have a short pause. Why not indulge this and help the other person get back into their stride?

Two weeks is plenty in your circs though, ZS.

Now I have to work out whether I flubbed the last past enough to mean that he doesn't realise I was interested in a second date. Guess I should just email him. Tomorrow.

do it now!

Should I revive my okc account? Its given me nothing but embarrasment and disappointment.

xp - nah, I'm so crap at game-playing in my own interests as relationships progress that I might as well play this one game of waiting one day

Trayce, I vote revive for the hell of it, but that's because I had a good date today; I'll let you know when I change my mind after some appalling rendezvous like the one where I realized at the end I hadn't asked the guy's real name because I was so keen to get away

OKC guy I just "broke up with" was adamant he wanted us to remain good friends. Then promptly stopped talking to me. I'm a bundle of FUCK EVERYTHING ASSHOLES right now.

and I havent even emailed/bugged him at all or anything! (which normally I'm a horror for)

Could he be thinking he'd like to be good friends but maybe it's best to back off for a short while?

and if you've not bugged him maybe he thinks you need time etc. etc. etc. PURE SPECULATION FROM THE OTHER SIDE OF THE WORLD

Nah I made one breif "miss you" comment and got a rather patronising "oh dont dwell, you'll get lonely" reply. He probably meant well, but from him everything sounds so fucking pompous.

WHY AM I MAD ABOUT THIS GOD. *flails*

*ahem* anyway so yeah, maybe not a good idea to hop back on the wagon just yet ;)

Argh, hate post-breakup pomposity from the dumper. So easy to come across that way.

Glad it went well ljubljana.

Like, messages that don't seem to indicate that they've given my profile even a cursory once-over.

Haven't bothered with this at all since December but received a message from a girl last night that read simply "I'm in marketing too! What do you market?!"

I understand not wanting to put too much into a message that is far from guaranteed to get a reply, but maybe if you put a bit more in you might be more likely to receive one, no?

Still replied, putting only slightly more effort in than she did.

"hot dogs!"

almost.

"vajazzles!"

lol

you know, though, someone's gotta market vajazzles

it's a sweet sweet life

Mr. Vajazzles

Not even a lie. Although did only take up about five minutes of last week.

xp
cuz you can look right at him
eat right around him
and can't stop knowing he's there

lol we should go into business

damn that man could vajazzle

i'm on the cusp of deleting this i think...i deleted it from my phone and turned off alerts so i am not checking it anyways. i'm not really interested in meeting new people to go on dates with at the moment.

supposed to meet someone tonight; i don't even know why, really.

not feeling like doing this at all lately

buck up
if they penetrate yr wall you'll know they're real

one of the main reasons i signed up for this was wall penetration

if you know what i mean

mookie go on the date, see what happens, such is life
i'm kind of in awe abt a monday night date tbh, but at the same time, it makes sense, could make monday more fun. and if it's not fun, then you can be like, 'oh my tuesday is crazy and starts early, gotta go'

i've hit the 3-month mark of dating the same person and i'm midway btwn fleeing and being okay with it

my feelings feel weird

Where is the thrilled/elated option

i forgot abt that one
ohgeez

Heh aw <3

i haven't logged on in a while and now things look different. where is the search function? i can't seem to find it. hm. feel like an old lady who can't adapt to things that change.

also how can someone be a 92% match but only 52% friend??

no walls were penetrated in the making of this evening

Something is stopping me emailing last night's date and I don't know what

are you sure you don't know

is your email server down?

I think it's nothing deeper than a pathetic mortal fear of scheduling a second date, realising it ain't going anywhere, and having to back off. I hate that. Obviously, same could happen to me at his instigation, but at this early stage it's me backing off that I don't want to have to deal with.

might you more easily overcome this fear with a different gentleman, or do you think it is universal?

(also have you ever said 'ain't' aloud?)

Sorry to hear there was insufficient penetration!

My failed date cancelled on me, said he'd call in a given timeframe, didn't call, but is still looking at my profile? He'd better be dying from that flu. Maybe I'll tell him that.

was just talking with a friend ('women who run with the wolves' book club night yo (book club of 2)) and she enlightened me about how i was being kinda heavy abt 3-month mark and that i was in fact still just dating this person and that i can totally keep flirting with people and date other people too! ohmy! and so even though i am reading yr tales of not-so-great dates, i feel that i should delve further into dating.

i have a lot of walls

one penetration at a time, as they say, right

sorry

dag