Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

I've never found it. You can 'hide' people from searches but they can still find you. Imo just create a fake profile with nothing in it to use for browsing for now, then go back to your real one after a decent interval. But 'decent' isn't very long in your case I think - a couple of weeks? Really, if you wanted to dive straight back in now I would say that was ok. It was a couple of months tops with a break in the middle, right?

yep. i dunno, i just feel bad. it's weird to imagine what your profile looks like to someone before they first date you, after, and then after you end up breaking up.

Ok I went in to investigate how I've done it in the past. If you go to a message you've exchanged w/the person, there is an option on the right hand side to block them. I guess you can't block someone you've not exchanged messages with.

yeah, i think blocking them just makes it easier to ignore them, but what i'm looking for is something to make myself invisible to her.

looking at what i just typed, maybe this is all deeply fucked up and i should just go on living life and not stress out too much about if someone sees my profile and hates my guts now.

my last sentence otm. that's what i'm going to do.

"fuck it"

otm

but i'm also going to wait a couple weeks before getting back on.

stay tuned next week, as i think about whether or not to do my laundry or go the coffee shop and document the thought process on ILX!

Since my wary return, I've only received messages from women who are in no conceivable way good matches for me. Like, messages that don't seem to indicate that they've given my profile even a cursory once-over. I can't tell if it's spam or if some people really are that desperate...? Is this a thing anyone else has experienced much of?

At any rate, I'm beginning to think I may have moved past this online dating thing, for better or worse.

if someone's going to be all judgey about you going out and looking for a date after breaking up, then they can go ahead and think "he's a jerk who would go out and immediately try to find someone else" and it'll stop them from being hung up on you

wanting an ex to think you're not interested in other people is like a "he would rather be alone than be with me, or maybe I can get it back together" enabler

^^^ otm and ZS has the right to get immediately back out there. But all logic aside, when someone who broke up with you is immediately back on without a day's break, it can be upsetting: pride (not logic) demands that even though they weren't into you, they're at least mildly sad enough to want to have a short pause. Why not indulge this and help the other person get back into their stride?

Two weeks is plenty in your circs though, ZS.

Now I have to work out whether I flubbed the last past enough to mean that he doesn't realise I was interested in a second date. Guess I should just email him. Tomorrow.

do it now!

Should I revive my okc account? Its given me nothing but embarrasment and disappointment.

xp - nah, I'm so crap at game-playing in my own interests as relationships progress that I might as well play this one game of waiting one day

Trayce, I vote revive for the hell of it, but that's because I had a good date today; I'll let you know when I change my mind after some appalling rendezvous like the one where I realized at the end I hadn't asked the guy's real name because I was so keen to get away

OKC guy I just "broke up with" was adamant he wanted us to remain good friends. Then promptly stopped talking to me. I'm a bundle of FUCK EVERYTHING ASSHOLES right now.

and I havent even emailed/bugged him at all or anything! (which normally I'm a horror for)

Could he be thinking he'd like to be good friends but maybe it's best to back off for a short while?

and if you've not bugged him maybe he thinks you need time etc. etc. etc. PURE SPECULATION FROM THE OTHER SIDE OF THE WORLD

Nah I made one breif "miss you" comment and got a rather patronising "oh dont dwell, you'll get lonely" reply. He probably meant well, but from him everything sounds so fucking pompous.

WHY AM I MAD ABOUT THIS GOD. *flails*

*ahem* anyway so yeah, maybe not a good idea to hop back on the wagon just yet ;)

Argh, hate post-breakup pomposity from the dumper. So easy to come across that way.

Glad it went well ljubljana.

Like, messages that don't seem to indicate that they've given my profile even a cursory once-over.

Haven't bothered with this at all since December but received a message from a girl last night that read simply "I'm in marketing too! What do you market?!"

I understand not wanting to put too much into a message that is far from guaranteed to get a reply, but maybe if you put a bit more in you might be more likely to receive one, no?

Still replied, putting only slightly more effort in than she did.

"hot dogs!"

almost.

"vajazzles!"

lol

you know, though, someone's gotta market vajazzles

it's a sweet sweet life

Mr. Vajazzles

Not even a lie. Although did only take up about five minutes of last week.

xp
cuz you can look right at him
eat right around him
and can't stop knowing he's there

lol we should go into business

damn that man could vajazzle

i'm on the cusp of deleting this i think...i deleted it from my phone and turned off alerts so i am not checking it anyways. i'm not really interested in meeting new people to go on dates with at the moment.

supposed to meet someone tonight; i don't even know why, really.

not feeling like doing this at all lately

buck up
if they penetrate yr wall you'll know they're real

one of the main reasons i signed up for this was wall penetration

if you know what i mean

mookie go on the date, see what happens, such is life
i'm kind of in awe abt a monday night date tbh, but at the same time, it makes sense, could make monday more fun. and if it's not fun, then you can be like, 'oh my tuesday is crazy and starts early, gotta go'

i've hit the 3-month mark of dating the same person and i'm midway btwn fleeing and being okay with it

my feelings feel weird

Where is the thrilled/elated option

i forgot abt that one
ohgeez

Heh aw <3

i haven't logged on in a while and now things look different. where is the search function? i can't seem to find it. hm. feel like an old lady who can't adapt to things that change.

also how can someone be a 92% match but only 52% friend??

no walls were penetrated in the making of this evening

Something is stopping me emailing last night's date and I don't know what

are you sure you don't know

is your email server down?

I think it's nothing deeper than a pathetic mortal fear of scheduling a second date, realising it ain't going anywhere, and having to back off. I hate that. Obviously, same could happen to me at his instigation, but at this early stage it's me backing off that I don't want to have to deal with.