I'm sad

yeah

yeah i think social network sites/current state of the internet = bad in that sense. when i encounter stuff like that one part of me is like 'oh here's a great opportunity to get past jealousy in a pure way and just wish the best for someone that i ostensibly care about' but the other part of me is like 'well, they look happy enough now, but they will be as unhappy as the rest of us in due time'

which is fucked, but i have a lot of growing up to do.

good - that's pretty much the only advice i'd give you.

Apart from: ime months 3 - 6 post break-up are the worst.

Ooofffff. Justified pain.

again my shocking lack of lifecycle relationship experience maturity slaps me in the face. meaning that somehow i'm 28 and this is the first time that someone i really cared about has moved on to someone else.

turns out it blows!

3 months is really, really not long after an LTR either.

plenty of people don't have this experience until they're a lot older than you are, or by the time they have it, it's been at least a decade since they last experienced it

yeah zs i still think about people that are years and years ago here and again. i guess the best thing is to think of how it was fortunate to make that connection with someone for a point in time. 'cos all things considered it's a blessing and kind of amazing for two people to meet like that and so forth (talking aloud to myself... realize you specifically anti-requested advice)

ime the good news here is that this is both as bad as it gets and the beginning of the last stage of a serious breakup.

but yeah it sucks

i think it gets worse for a little while longer tbh

no, i appreciate it del. and yeah, darraghmac, i did have that thought. just like, "finally, i can really, really move on".

why does every possible thing i can think of to do right now seem so fucking pathetic?

have you considered going to the supermarket and buying Hungry Man frozen dinners?

then imagine yourself 20 years older, wearing relaxed fit khakis

sarahel otm

there's nothin wrong with relaxed fit khakis yis bastards

ha. well, it didn't help that when i saw the picture i was drinking a beer and eating a frozen pizza by myself, just like i do pretty much all of the time. the picture looked like they had just gotten out of the rain, or the pool, or maybe they were just having sweaty sex and got out of the shower. anyway, they didn't look like they had plans to drink a beer and eat frozen pizzas by themselves.

I have sweaty sex with frozen pizzas in the shower all the time, it doesn't make you less sad ime

better than sweaty pizza in a frozen shower tbf

gonna defer to Esther Weingarten who was good w/this today:
http://thehairpin.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/12/New-Year1.jpg

Apart from: ime months 3 - 6 post break-up are the worst.

finding out that this is general/non-exclusive/shared knowledge is v comforting btw

just put a pic of yrself on flickr REALLY ENJOYING a pizza z, fight fire with fire (i have no actual advice here i just feel you & think that feeling shitty is basically the deal & is okay, so)

is it good pizza?

was it good for you

it's a harris teeter cheese pizza that i customized with green peppers, onions and tomatoes and cayenne pepper. i took a pizza that was a 2/10 and made it a 4/10. *insert pizza std joke*

dunno if you are joking, but i have bought frozen pizzas before at the supermarket that are labeled "individual serving" or whatever, and i felt way too self-conscious about it, like is the cashier judging me for being single? which is completely fucking insane, but whatever. i only have so much control over the thoughts which pass through the dell highway

i say re-flickr/fb the pic of you at the overnight protest

that sounds pretty good zach!

this is a full size pizza. when i eat pizza i eat as much as possible so that i don't have to think about eating again for as long as possible

this is possible as long as it is possible

customizing supermarket frozen pizzas is a sign of hope/progress.

this is a full size pizza. when i eat pizza i eat as much as possible so that i don't have to think about eating again for as long as possible

i also do this

So sorry Zs <3

Deems otm though. It's no consolation right now, but her moving on will make you move on faster too, ultimately

when i eat pizza i eat as much as possible so that i don't have to think about eating again for as long as possible

u skinny fucker

when I eat pizza I eat as much as possible because it's pizza

i think part of it is that although i "moved on" earlier, the whole moving on process has been marked by this terrible feeling, like "this girl is nice but things are nowhere as good as they used to be, not even close." whereas this picture of her looks like she's back on top of the world. i can't even imagine feeling like that right now, and she's got this look in her eye like everything is perfect again.

ya it's like whipping a racehorse

xp sorry mood changed again

there were probably a bunch of crappy pictures she deleted

do you have time to read that whole new errol morris book about how photographs are non-"realistic"/deceptive, feel like it could be both immersive & helpful

Don't be mislead by a picture on the internet though. People don't put photos of themselves feeling melancholy, or when in an argument with their (new) flame on the internet. The picture hits hard because it's a distorted portrayal of reality (as any picture is). So I don't think "everything is perfect" again, for her, either.

xpost i might, actually, i'm just finishing American Pastoral and was about to start Neuromancer, but i could put that off for a while. is it Believing is Seeing you're talking about, I guess?

People don't put photos of themselves feeling melancholy

well, some people do. like me. ha. but yeah, i get your point. i'm just glad i deleted the feed and i'll never see shit like that again.

i wouldn't project perfect happiness onto her situation either zach, iirc she wasn't in a great place a few weeks back. Getting over each other isn't a competition. And there'll be other perfect times for you, i don't think you're over the hill just yet

a) you're generating mad (if understandable) ideas
b) based on my limited knowledge of the situation, i wouldn't put it past her to post such a pic to fuc w/u
c) it is pretty obvious that ladies love cool z_s
d) what are u drinking

the first time i saw my last srs ex with another guy, she was in full leather climbing off the back of his motorcycle, taking off helmet and shaking her hair in slo-motion. istr alice cooper playing in the background but that may have been subliminal tbh. I was outside tesco in my checkout uniform. It felt awes.

d) nothing good. i bought the first thing i saw in harris teeter (sam adams). i should have invested more than 2.5 seconds in the decision.

haha

xp

sam adams is pretty decent

oh god, dmac. in full leather?

"sam adams is pretty decent" was pretty much my exact reasoning. i was like "ehhh....well ok"

full leather

when she left me, three months previously, she was a trainee accountant. A FUCKIN ACCOUNTANT.

accountants can wear leather too!