Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

Ahh just read up - have ILXORs bring cute friends?

you could probably get somebody's number out of last night

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i already have alex's number tho

you could probably get somebody's number out of last night

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i already have alex's number tho

" I'm realizing I don't want to date people, I just want to make out w them "

word- some sort of "make out club" that didn't give people false hopes but was just for in-the-mad-moment smooching- I'm down

(says the person already in a relationship)

Good job, Conrad. Don't worry so much. Maybe she likes younger men.

Am messaging with the only man on okc to reference both dawson's creek and gilmore girls in his profile. Soul mate?

i would like to date people AND make out

guys guys
so i am on this and wasn't paying it much attn and then decided to answer more questions and then people wrote me and now:
i have two dates this week o_O
with seemingly quite nice guys!
i don't know, who knows, but i'm glad that i'm actually taking a tangible step forward in what i said for ages i would like to do, which is meet new people in my city and possibly kiss them.

i reactivated my okc profile like a little over a week ago and am already on the verge of deleting it again

i think i am bad at online dating

Me too. We need a self-help book called How to Meet New People and Possibly Kiss Them.

If I end up being good at this I will write that book for you my friends

the thing that is always the most disappointing is when i've been going back and forth with a lady who seems pretty cool who then just stops responding 'mid-conversation' (to be distinguished from when it clearly fizzles out due to a lack of chemistry or what have you). i think i prefer just getting no response to begin with.

Oh you should just be me: no one that I've written to has written back.

The site has taken to showing me my ex's profile, though, so that's...something.

word- some sort of "make out club" that didn't give people false hopes but was just for in-the-mad-moment smooching- I'm down

lol just got flashbacks to being a teenager and having a makeoutclub.com profile

Which, in all fairness was one of the only avenues of contact that i had with other queers as a 17-yo in suburban NJ

Bahaha. So, it turns out, now that we've added each other on FB, that the latest OKC guy ive been chatting to not only knows N's girlfriend, N knows him too. *and*, his gf some time back had been telling me he was an awesome guy and I should totally hook up with him.

WORLD TOO SMALL NEWS @11 etc.

Count me in for bogsnog.com!

that sounds like a good thing in this case, trayce!

to add another to the 'world too small' thing, i ran into my horrible date from 2 wks ago on the train this morning! our eyes met across the crowded 1 train and i immediately buried my nose in my book. this is what i get for actually getting to work at a decent hour...

Oh noes.

Good job rrrobyn. Hope your dates are fun (and kissable).

Trayce, are you thinking of actually dating this guy, or becoming friends and then maybe something more? Not sure about adding someone on facebook if it's a tenuous-dating relationship

just revamped my entire profile (except for photos since i don't really have any new ones), answered some more qns, gonna totally have like 4000 dates lined up by friday amirite

Someone added me on facebook after I "liked" his baking business. He lives in Austin.

whyyy do people from san francisco showing up in my activity feed?

Because they're smart and sexy?

if they were really smart they'd live within a 10-mile radius of me, just sayin'

Trayce, are you thinking of actually dating this guy, or becoming friends and then maybe something more? Not sure about adding someone on facebook if it's a tenuous-dating relationship

I'm not sure I get what you're asking, do you mean adding to FB is a "too soon" thing if you do want to date a person? I dont see it that way but everyones MMV of course. And having done so and found out me and this guy have a swatch of mutual friends has just broken the ice, although perhaps maybe too much so, it might just turn into a "hey lets all go for beers!" and as usual I'll be seen as the cool older friend no one actually wants to go OUT with, blargh. I'm not invested in this either way so its ok.

Hey Trayce, don't you already have a boyfriend? What happened there?

There is a guy I see a bit of, but its complicated - he has no intention of staying in Melbourne (or even Aus) long term, and we constantly butt heads taste and interests-wise, so a while back he bascially told me I shouldnt let seeing him get in the way of me still being up for finding someone else to date.

HOw that'll pan out in practice remains to be seen mind you, ha.

I'm curious then. How come poly etc is a big no go zone for you then? Aren't you essentially in the same situation?

a) that hardly = poly
b) who are you?

She's in multiple-dating, not poly? Poly reads to me as "multiple partners/partner-type people" or having one solid partner and possibly other lesser relationships. I dunno, something that actually includes one solid partner where she's currently at one shaky one?

x-post also what mookie said

e-a is a mongrel who floats around here a bit

Yeah what the guys said. Poly is actively going out with more than one person. This guy wont (and cant) "commit" to me, but as we've had nothing else going on recently we've spent time together anyway bcz hey why not.

The poly I'm not into is the active "I am a married man looking for extra tail" kind, really. Got no prob with dating a few ppl - how else you gonna find a good one?

Put it this way: if something proper worked out with someone else, I'd stop seeing Veganboy. He wouldnt mind.

Got no prob with dating a few ppl - how else you gonna find a good one?

I wonder if mookieproof wonders what estela has to say

OK lol.

There is no problem with dating more than one person. I just find it puzzling that you are so adamant about not wanting people who are dating other people to even look at your profile when you yourself are dating someone.

E-A, I think it's about intent. Multi-dating can still involve intent to stick with one person eventually. Poly, to me, means intent to always have a number of people on the go. I think it's ok to say clearly that you're not interested in those who want the latter, and not want to get messages from them.

I just find it puzzling that you are so adamant about not wanting people who are dating other people to even look at your profile

I have no idea where you got this impression from, fwiw. And yeah, intent is the size of it I would think. The people I'm talkign about are specifically, actively polyamorous people who ususually have a primary partner they live with and/or are married to. Thats the sort of situation I am not interested in getting into. I didnt think it needed explaining, apologies if that wasnt clear.

Why am I even having to defend myself here? I just wanna go on a date with a boy, same as everyone else. :(

i don't wanna go on a date with a boy!

Heh doh. well, you know.

*links arms with Trayce and marches off to seek boys* (plural)

i want a MAN dammit xpost

tbh i *always* wonder what estela has to say

<3 ljub

LOL at this whole thing.

The poly I'm not into is the active "I am a married man looking for extra tail" kind, really. Got no prob with dating a few ppl - how else you gonna find a good one?

I'm in a (more or less) open relationship, and even *I* don't want a married man looking for extra tail.