Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

That never happens to me (anymore) when I go out. NB that might be because I only hang out with ilxors.

We are an asexual bunch:) I had a Greenpoint makeout on top of a basement ATM machine...but it was with someone from okc. Just have to cut out the middleman.

There's somehow too many people and yet not enough in the NYC dating pool.

fixed

took a bus and three different trains to get to greenpoint last night and still got no makeout

Should make-out not materialize, check Locals app.

mooks, you could probably get somebody's number out of last night, if you asked for it. Just sayin'.

Player!

how quickly do yall respond to texts/messages you get from ppl?

Messages: (first message) if they seem good, I'll probably reply the next day. If not, maybe wait about a week while I'm thinking whether I should write back or not. Subsequent messages: whenever I feel like it, most likely within a day or two.

Texts: pretty much as soon as I receive it, unless there's reason to do otherwise.

By the way, I'm browsing anonymously at the moment--if I star people, will they be notified?

It occurs to me now, thinking again on mister "read yr profile backwards, messaging you to say "too bad"" that, if he really had done that, the last thing he'd read is "if youre taken or poly, go away" hahaha, well, in that case GOOD.

Been messaging a guy heaps I am now wondering if I've crossed paths with in the past, we used to go to some of the same clubs back in the day. Cant work out how we'll ever meet up - he works night shifts. Geez.

VP -- I think they will be...when I browsed anonymously, I would still occasionally get messages like that, even though as an anonymous browser, you don't get to know who is looking at your profile. Makes sense that it goes both ways.

Trayce, I didn't realize how many poly ppl were on OK cupid but now they seem to be the majority of profiles that come my way!

Yeah, OKC is very big for the poly scene; well certainly in my town anyway. Sinc I've tweaked my profile to filter out anyone not explicitly single and said "no taken/polys" at the top its mostly thinned them out. I had a rather unpleasant experience with chatting to a married poly english guy a while back who seemed nice enough, but rapidly turned into a pervy submissive weirdo, who then later on threw a massive tantrm at me because I told him his asking about anoher guy I was seeing was none of his business. Yeah bye bye fruitface, u bloked.

she was really nice and more attractive than I'd imagined

that's very positive!

she had a nice time too I'm sure but maybe I'm too young for her

I'm realizing I don't want to date people, I just want to make out w them in the bathroom and then go home to my house, alone. Is there a website for that?

Yeah, let me know if you find one, I'd sign up for that.

Isn't that just called going to a bar?

Ahh just read up - have ILXORs bring cute friends?

you could probably get somebody's number out of last night

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i already have alex's number tho

you could probably get somebody's number out of last night

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i already have alex's number tho

" I'm realizing I don't want to date people, I just want to make out w them "

word- some sort of "make out club" that didn't give people false hopes but was just for in-the-mad-moment smooching- I'm down

(says the person already in a relationship)

Good job, Conrad. Don't worry so much. Maybe she likes younger men.

Am messaging with the only man on okc to reference both dawson's creek and gilmore girls in his profile. Soul mate?

i would like to date people AND make out

guys guys
so i am on this and wasn't paying it much attn and then decided to answer more questions and then people wrote me and now:
i have two dates this week o_O
with seemingly quite nice guys!
i don't know, who knows, but i'm glad that i'm actually taking a tangible step forward in what i said for ages i would like to do, which is meet new people in my city and possibly kiss them.

i reactivated my okc profile like a little over a week ago and am already on the verge of deleting it again

i think i am bad at online dating

Me too. We need a self-help book called How to Meet New People and Possibly Kiss Them.

If I end up being good at this I will write that book for you my friends

the thing that is always the most disappointing is when i've been going back and forth with a lady who seems pretty cool who then just stops responding 'mid-conversation' (to be distinguished from when it clearly fizzles out due to a lack of chemistry or what have you). i think i prefer just getting no response to begin with.

Oh you should just be me: no one that I've written to has written back.

The site has taken to showing me my ex's profile, though, so that's...something.

word- some sort of "make out club" that didn't give people false hopes but was just for in-the-mad-moment smooching- I'm down

lol just got flashbacks to being a teenager and having a makeoutclub.com profile

Which, in all fairness was one of the only avenues of contact that i had with other queers as a 17-yo in suburban NJ

Bahaha. So, it turns out, now that we've added each other on FB, that the latest OKC guy ive been chatting to not only knows N's girlfriend, N knows him too. *and*, his gf some time back had been telling me he was an awesome guy and I should totally hook up with him.

WORLD TOO SMALL NEWS @11 etc.

Count me in for bogsnog.com!

that sounds like a good thing in this case, trayce!

to add another to the 'world too small' thing, i ran into my horrible date from 2 wks ago on the train this morning! our eyes met across the crowded 1 train and i immediately buried my nose in my book. this is what i get for actually getting to work at a decent hour...

Oh noes.

Good job rrrobyn. Hope your dates are fun (and kissable).

Trayce, are you thinking of actually dating this guy, or becoming friends and then maybe something more? Not sure about adding someone on facebook if it's a tenuous-dating relationship

just revamped my entire profile (except for photos since i don't really have any new ones), answered some more qns, gonna totally have like 4000 dates lined up by friday amirite

Someone added me on facebook after I "liked" his baking business. He lives in Austin.

whyyy do people from san francisco showing up in my activity feed?

Because they're smart and sexy?

if they were really smart they'd live within a 10-mile radius of me, just sayin'

Trayce, are you thinking of actually dating this guy, or becoming friends and then maybe something more? Not sure about adding someone on facebook if it's a tenuous-dating relationship

I'm not sure I get what you're asking, do you mean adding to FB is a "too soon" thing if you do want to date a person? I dont see it that way but everyones MMV of course. And having done so and found out me and this guy have a swatch of mutual friends has just broken the ice, although perhaps maybe too much so, it might just turn into a "hey lets all go for beers!" and as usual I'll be seen as the cool older friend no one actually wants to go OUT with, blargh. I'm not invested in this either way so its ok.

Hey Trayce, don't you already have a boyfriend? What happened there?

There is a guy I see a bit of, but its complicated - he has no intention of staying in Melbourne (or even Aus) long term, and we constantly butt heads taste and interests-wise, so a while back he bascially told me I shouldnt let seeing him get in the way of me still being up for finding someone else to date.

HOw that'll pan out in practice remains to be seen mind you, ha.

I'm curious then. How come poly etc is a big no go zone for you then? Aren't you essentially in the same situation?

a) that hardly = poly
b) who are you?

She's in multiple-dating, not poly? Poly reads to me as "multiple partners/partner-type people" or having one solid partner and possibly other lesser relationships. I dunno, something that actually includes one solid partner where she's currently at one shaky one?

x-post also what mookie said