Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

I got this one, too.

― It means why you gotta be a montague? (Laurel)

from the dude who says he's part of the 99% & is working to move into the 1%?

I don't know but I just assumed he was a dick and deleted it.

Also, the guy whose profile pic is his silhouette at a DRIVING RANGE, and the msg, while long and polite and well enough written, is completely generic and clearly not composed just for me: Delete. Mostly because of the golf thing tbh.

just think of golf as part of your scottish heritage

Only if it's played on a rocky cliff by people in plus-fours. Otherwise how about I just think of it as lame?

Should I message someone just because they say that their musical tastes are stuck in the 90s and they like shibuya-kei? Grasping at straws here. How badly do I want to have a conversation about Hideki Kaji? I think I'll wait.

Envious of range, depth, breadth of NYC OKC-ers tbf. (Don't be annoyed, Lee! I do try to meet people irl in DC but probably don't try hard enough)

yeah i had an exploratory look at this and i don't think i'm gonna bother

Last night ilxor yerac tried extra hard to convince all of us that the hot, rich men who are ready to settle down and get married are all on match.com.

I'm pretty sure that hot, rich men who want to get married just have to LEAVE THE HOUSE to meet someone, I don't understand why they'd be on a dating site.

I just can't face match.com. There's just something about it.

Jdate continues to yield mostly men 20-25 years my senior.

One of my friends was rejected from either match or e-harmony. They filled out a questionnaire and the system was like, sorry, I don't think we can help you out!

Aw, I missed yerac dating advice.

There's somehow too many people and yet not enough in the NYC dating pool.

That happened to me on e-harmony, rayuela!

That's so weird, ljubljana!

Ok. This girl messaged me & we made a date, and she just messaged me to postpone since her BOYFRIEND OF 4.5 years broke up w/her. Her profile said nothing about being in a committed relationship!

Happened to me with eharmony a few years ago. They don't like atheists, I think is the reason they gave (in more diplomatic language).

Ray, what? It's good to know that the ladies are just as deceitful and unreliable as the men, I suppose.

going to meet someone seven years older than me shortly

Seven? That's nothing. My two most fruitful dates were both 13 years younger than me.

I'm realizing I don't want to date people, I just want to make out w them in the bathroom and then go home to my house, alone. Is there a website for that?

if there isn't, you should snap up that market and make one. or lobby OKC to make that a category.

On this site looking for:
friends
activity partners
bathroom makeouts

My friend left ok Cupid because she realized that's what she wanted as well, and could find it by merely "going out in Greenpoint."

That never happens to me (anymore) when I go out. NB that might be because I only hang out with ilxors.

We are an asexual bunch:) I had a Greenpoint makeout on top of a basement ATM machine...but it was with someone from okc. Just have to cut out the middleman.

There's somehow too many people and yet not enough in the NYC dating pool.

fixed

took a bus and three different trains to get to greenpoint last night and still got no makeout

Should make-out not materialize, check Locals app.

mooks, you could probably get somebody's number out of last night, if you asked for it. Just sayin'.

Player!

how quickly do yall respond to texts/messages you get from ppl?

Messages: (first message) if they seem good, I'll probably reply the next day. If not, maybe wait about a week while I'm thinking whether I should write back or not. Subsequent messages: whenever I feel like it, most likely within a day or two.

Texts: pretty much as soon as I receive it, unless there's reason to do otherwise.

By the way, I'm browsing anonymously at the moment--if I star people, will they be notified?

It occurs to me now, thinking again on mister "read yr profile backwards, messaging you to say "too bad"" that, if he really had done that, the last thing he'd read is "if youre taken or poly, go away" hahaha, well, in that case GOOD.

Been messaging a guy heaps I am now wondering if I've crossed paths with in the past, we used to go to some of the same clubs back in the day. Cant work out how we'll ever meet up - he works night shifts. Geez.

VP -- I think they will be...when I browsed anonymously, I would still occasionally get messages like that, even though as an anonymous browser, you don't get to know who is looking at your profile. Makes sense that it goes both ways.

Trayce, I didn't realize how many poly ppl were on OK cupid but now they seem to be the majority of profiles that come my way!

Yeah, OKC is very big for the poly scene; well certainly in my town anyway. Sinc I've tweaked my profile to filter out anyone not explicitly single and said "no taken/polys" at the top its mostly thinned them out. I had a rather unpleasant experience with chatting to a married poly english guy a while back who seemed nice enough, but rapidly turned into a pervy submissive weirdo, who then later on threw a massive tantrm at me because I told him his asking about anoher guy I was seeing was none of his business. Yeah bye bye fruitface, u bloked.

she was really nice and more attractive than I'd imagined

that's very positive!

she had a nice time too I'm sure but maybe I'm too young for her

I'm realizing I don't want to date people, I just want to make out w them in the bathroom and then go home to my house, alone. Is there a website for that?

Yeah, let me know if you find one, I'd sign up for that.

Isn't that just called going to a bar?

Ahh just read up - have ILXORs bring cute friends?

you could probably get somebody's number out of last night

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i already have alex's number tho

you could probably get somebody's number out of last night

!

i already have alex's number tho

" I'm realizing I don't want to date people, I just want to make out w them "

word- some sort of "make out club" that didn't give people false hopes but was just for in-the-mad-moment smooching- I'm down

(says the person already in a relationship)

Good job, Conrad. Don't worry so much. Maybe she likes younger men.

Am messaging with the only man on okc to reference both dawson's creek and gilmore girls in his profile. Soul mate?

i would like to date people AND make out

guys guys
so i am on this and wasn't paying it much attn and then decided to answer more questions and then people wrote me and now:
i have two dates this week o_O
with seemingly quite nice guys!
i don't know, who knows, but i'm glad that i'm actually taking a tangible step forward in what i said for ages i would like to do, which is meet new people in my city and possibly kiss them.

i reactivated my okc profile like a little over a week ago and am already on the verge of deleting it again

i think i am bad at online dating

Me too. We need a self-help book called How to Meet New People and Possibly Kiss Them.

If I end up being good at this I will write that book for you my friends

the thing that is always the most disappointing is when i've been going back and forth with a lady who seems pretty cool who then just stops responding 'mid-conversation' (to be distinguished from when it clearly fizzles out due to a lack of chemistry or what have you). i think i prefer just getting no response to begin with.