Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

It does give you the option of "mandatory", for questions that you decide you would and could never date someone who answered a certain way. So the site has already assumed that there are single-question deal-breakers.

Fair enough. I don't think I answer anything with mandatory, that might be my issue

Mandee, why don't you try OEDlover? He is my 99 match in Denver.

is that a reference to the Oxford English Dictionary?

I just messaged OEDLover and sent him a dirty, dirty message about my vintage unabridged webster's dictionary

hot

A pangolin?! That is awesome.

i finally got around to looking at all your profiles! i had pretty high matches with everyone--i did it so quickly that everything is now a blur, sadly, but everyone's profiles seemed quite good to me. I'm not terribly good at this whole thing, so I don't have any great feedback, unfortunately, but I am now inspired to work a bit more on my own profile...

I need new photos (including one of me standing-- as noted above it is best to have more than just head shots)

lol oh no i think i really like someone on here...anything we say "do you like..." it precipitates a long conversation that begins with "yes i love that..."

ayoo

<3

v early days of course...and i know well what okc is like, but it's fun nonetheless and this seems more substantial than usual.

yeah, i'm kind of in the same spot. but jeez, we're going on like our 4th date since Saturday tonight. keep waiting for the floor to drop out from under me!

4th ~since~ saturday? dag yo

well, including saturday

yeah, it's a little http://i39.tinypic.com/wmlf9y.jpg

if I were a guy I'd be such a catch!

odd thing to say... but...

lol extreme.jpg

I keep finding awesome lovely guys who i message and they never reply :( Im really wondering what I'm doing wrong!

LIke this last guy is a huge gamer so I messaged him saying he could probably cane me at Quake and made some compliments on his profile, we have a ton in common... nada. I thhought gamer boys wet themselves over girls who are into games.

...wait, I spoke to soon! Success! \o/

\(^o^)/

:-)

I think I broke his brain talking about Quake.

I wrote someone a very thoughtful, interesting message - a dude who is yet another snow bro but who also seemed kinda quick-witted and interesting...

I got back: "Thanks, but I don't think we have much in common."

I guess it's nice to get a response? But kinda not?

Really, he shouldn't have.

Yeah, I feel like its somehow ruder to say "thanks but no thanks" than just not reply? I dont know, thats just my personal feelin on it. Its like it underlines the "uhhh, NO" aspect doesn't it?

Yeah I kinda feel like really hideous and gross right now

I MEAN OBVIOUSLY I AM NOT

This part of the country is so annoying sometimes.

Course you're not, damn girl!

There's just a lot of singles guys my age here in Denver but I'm not at all what they're looking for and they're not really what I am looking for, either.

You are super fucking cute!

Yeah, I hear that. You seem to get the same kinda hits I do (LARPers/goth nerdy IT guys with beards, poly roleplayers etc)

I don't think it really has to do with cuteness, though

I was just responding to your hideous comment above, not the other comment.

Oh I know I am not hideous...!

The "I don't think we'd have anything in common" thing just kinda stung a little.

Completely revamped my profile. Is it better? Worse? I am a few drinks in and can't tell, and might have rambled.

Had a date tonight that wasn't horrible. We actually got along very well, and i think it was my best ok cupid date yet, but don't think I'm attracted to this person. Still, this experience has replaced my grim determination with a bit more enthusiasm and optimism.

The thing is, you DON'T have anything in common, obviously, because you are not an asshole nor do you have time for any in your rich life.

I think I might disable my profile for a while and quit focusing on this so much.

When people don't write me back, I assume they don't like the way I look, or they don't like the way I present myself, or some combination of the two. However, it could be a number of things, such as they are sort of seeing someone and don't have the need to meet a new person, they have a life and aren't obsessively checking in with okc every second, etc. Their should be a drop down menu for for when you don't write. It would send the following message: User has no with to interact with you bc you are too old, too young, too pretentious, not pretentious enough, too cute, not cute enough, etc.

omg. That would be horrible! I would definitely not want to know those things.

http://a8.sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc6/44324_140801409294648_135333006508155_193916_4970622_n.jpg

bit big

Anyway, I'm trying to think of what to put in a message I'm going to send to this girl on OKC. She doesn't give much away in her profile though, except for a long list of book/film/music likes. Should I comment on her profile pics, or go down the "hey you like that book? So do I, isn't that amazing!" route?

What about "what do you like about X? i really love the xyz about it."

I hate it when people say anything about my physical appearance.

Just comment on somehing in her profile and say hello.

Also true irl.

i've gotten msgs that just say "you're cute :)" before and i pretty much never respond to them

DavidM, you could go off of what she has listed and maybe recommend something she might like, or ask her if she has any recommendations for you since you have similar tastes?