Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

Zora, I like the calm confidence somehow implied by being good at something called the Edinburgh Reading Test (had to Google it).

I keep getting messages like this:

Despite the fact that we almost assuredly won't participate in any real exchange or meet, I'd just like to say I am pretty impressed with your profile.

I got another one that said something like, "I'm not interested in dating right now, but. . . . "

Reverse psychology?

I would actually love to just post all of the funny messages I receive on this thread, but that would maybe not be that nice.

Last night there was a sudden spasm of people from Boston and Philly areas viewing my profile. Strange....

Someone from Boston wrote me today to say that I should have no problem landing a man. His name was Remy. Could it be ilx Remy?

!!!!!!! ilx remy bean has a gf iirc but he could have registered to be sneaky/nice?

Does he also look good in underwear? :)

do you guys space your dates out? i hate going on OKC so i usually respond to a spate of emails at once, and then end up scheduling too many things in a row. i think i need to put off some folks for a while, but my catholic upbringing has conditioned me to feel paranoid about getting caught about lying. "so what'd you do this weekend?" "nothing, just relaxed." "oh, i thought you said you were busy all weekend?" i'm overthinking this but whatever.

speaking of which, bene_gesserit, how'd your date go last nite?

When I first started, I was doing about 2-3 a week . . . but that got old. Now I'm not that interested in actually meeting people . . . I'm more interested in just snooping around and seeing how people portray themselves . . . and studying human nature via the internet. And exchanging silly messages. If someone seems really good, or somewhat interesting, or if I feel sorry for them, I might meet them. I wouldn't worry about it--everyone on this site is meeting multiple peoples carousel-style.

I usually want to space things out but due to one person's scheduling issues, I recently had my Ivy League match.com dating day-- afternoon hike with one lawyer gal, and evening drinks with another. I felt uncomfortable about it actually

I went on two dates in one day once but I've now forgotten who they were or what happened. I think it was a big hassle, actually.

studying human nature via the internet

have you seen the okc blog?

I've now forgotten who they were or what happened.

Succinctly sums up my entire okc experience thus far.

x-post: I have, but it seems like there are only 4 entries or so?

Mr. "I'm too cool to talk my dates."

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if I feel sorry for them, I might meet them

And this one and done date will perk them up?

You have no idea how charming I can be.

That was supposed to say, referring to MP, "I'm too cool to talk about my dates."

last night's date was probably the best okc date i've been on. that's not saying a lot given my typical experience with this website BUT, i think this is a person i will be having more awesome times with, though a traditional relationship is not on the table. but we are like instant bff's and have plans to workshop music together and play german board games sometime soon!

Ivy League match.com dating

wait is this a thing? the idea of an ivy league dating site is kind of a bummer :(

Good on you, b_g. All I want is an instant BFF, but I cannot find one for the life of me.

I'm eligible for the Ivy League dating site, as a Seven Sister. Actually, I think Big 10 schools are eligible too.

i have seen this advertised in the back of the nyrb. it seems kind of gross

Had yet another poly, burning man type message me.... ... sigh.

how does one participate in a site like that without feeling like an elitist twerp?

signed, a bitter ivy reject who had better SAT scores than the kids with private guidance counselors and $30k a year private schooling

i also got rejected from an ivy but went to a school with major ivy pretensions, guessing that doesn't qualify

(not that i'd want to anyway because yuck)

according to their ad, they will grudgingly accept ppl from places like stanford/chicago/duke

hahaha.

an "introduction" network??

Ivy League match.com dating

wait is this a thing?

Ha. No, it was 2 women I met on match.com and I knew that they were lawyers before the dates but nothing more re their schooling. After a 2nd date with one, I found on my own that she had gone to an Ivy League school but she never mentioned it (kinda cool I think). The other date asked me about my schooling and then mentioned that she and her ex-husband had gone to Ivy League schools.

wow. do people really care about that stuff?

Oh my god do they. GF is working at an ivy right now, and buuuuuuugggghhhh.

I did not go to an Ivy League school and it does not matter to me, but to some people it does. Another friend of mine (a non-Ivy university grad with a decent job) said he would be intimidated by a date with a professionally successful, Ivy League college grad.

few years ago, was having dinner w/some high school friends. one of them went to princeton, and she mentioned how senior year, everyone started hooking up w/each other and throwing themselves into relationships left & right -- we said why? -- and she said it was b/c they "knew" they would never find the type of "quality" people as those who go to princeton.

(barf)

it was b/c they "knew" they would never find themselves surrounded by quite so many horny people again the type of "quality" people as those who go to princeton.

see again i think this might be an east coast thing

no one ever, ever, ever asks me where i went to school.

This also seems a very american thing (possibly UK upper classes too?), Ive never met anyone here who cares which uni one went to (likewise, no one would ever ask you if you even go to church let alone "which church").

You do get asked that question here, but to be fair, it's mostly to do with football.

I sometimes get asked if I went to school at all

When I moved to the EC I was amazed and mystified by the whole ivy thing. Had never heard of such a thing being actually considered important in my life: people who went to ivies were so far away from the lives of most people that they were basically legends, where politicians and millionaires went but not "real" people.

So, I have this friend who is good looking, a lawyer, a really lovely funny smart guy. He's still on OKC, has been for forever. I just jokingly messaged him asking why the hell he's still there, he should be fighting the ladies off with a stick. He's all "THATS A GOOD QUESION TRAYCE" and then goes on to explain he's "picky".

I guess my ridiculously passive bait didnt work then, haha. (I'm not gonna outright ask him on a date. He's someone I'm already friends with IRL, I doubt he would be interested, haw. Mores the pity).

i kinda freak out when i see people i have 99% match with. never know what to say.

"clearly the machines think we are made for each other"

someone wrote me with roughly that though! so it kinda works

I say p much every time I meet ppl irl xp

I have a 0% enemy person I'm supposed to be meeting. Life would be boring maybe?

i kinda freak out when i see people i have 99% match with. never know what to say.

I met my 99% match on a whim--we'd only emailed a few times (over the course of a day or two) and then he came out randomly when I happened to be out for drinks in his neighborhood . . . and I didn't even remember how highly matched we were until he mentioned it. And then he broke my heart.

My other 99's in NYC are a committed polyamorist and an accountant musician. I haven't had any contact with them. I am having a fruitful e-mail discussion with a 99 in Austin who only moved away from Queens (the next neighborhood over from mine) two weeks ago.

i kinda freak out when i see people i have 99% match with. never know what to say.

you say 'we are the 99%' obvs

omg

Already had that joke with my in-person 99:(

highest match i have is 92% but i haven't answered a ton of those qns either