Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

I took it that way! But I want to make it clear I'm having good nosy fun, rather than trying to provide a valuable service.

xp aw thanks Zora! Like Trayce, I'm worried I've used pics that are too good, i.e. totally unrepresentative.

Yeah, the chais became a serious damn problem, like one every couple of days, mainlining that stuff. I had to cut back.

I messaged that dom back btw. Message read: Dude, did you read my fucking profile?

He checked my profile out again but no more messages!

Next up, qwpoi.

Rayuela (91%) - Oh, you are utterly cuet too. The picture of you in the white shirt with your nails matching your buttons ooozes cool. And <3 your reading list.

lol just updated my main pic and got messaged by someone with no filled in profile and no pic with "hi". Uh...

thanks for the kind feedback dudes...

i find the photo v annoying actually, none of my friends or me really take that many photos so i always feel whatev photos i have are a little old and often not as good as they could be. short of arranging a photo shoot it's an insurmountable problem.

Thanks, Bateau! I learned everything I know from once-ilxor charlton lido and from a fellow librarian who was on the site for about a month before she snapped up a serious boyfriend.

We cool Zora <3

VP: that is knowledge picked up leading to wisdom if I ever saw it, the finest of resources!

Oh! Here's another grumble I didn't think of earlier: guys who have pretty nice profiles, which you then read within "I love travelling and I plan on heading off to London/New York/Outer Mongolia/the Serengetti in the next year or so".

Its like...ffs, what is the point.

Heading off permanently ie moving, that is.

my most memorable flings were with people about to head overseas. underrated i'd say.

Yeah but I'm over memorable flings, Ive had dozens. I'd like an actual partner, tbh.

PS whoops, note to self dont answer quiz questions on okc while at work, lest someone walk past while your screen says "WILL YOU KISS SOMEONE AFTER ORAL", oh dear.

lol

Local Garda, much improved! This gives me a much better sense of who you are and your sense of humor. Now, answer some more questions so that your mate can find you already.

xp aw thanks Zora! Like Trayce, I'm worried I've used pics that are too good, i.e. totally unrepresentative.

I checked to see what you were on about and having just seen your pretty face earlier tonight in person I say this is hogwash. pics totally representative imo. Honestly.

I'm happier with the one Ive changed mine to now.

Thanks ENBB! Basically the main difference I see in real life is eyebags and what I believe are known as 'laughter lines'. Had a good webmail discussion with VP regarding saying a bit more about what I'm looking for - might try that.

Zora, I like the calm confidence somehow implied by being good at something called the Edinburgh Reading Test (had to Google it).

I keep getting messages like this:

Despite the fact that we almost assuredly won't participate in any real exchange or meet, I'd just like to say I am pretty impressed with your profile.

I got another one that said something like, "I'm not interested in dating right now, but. . . . "

Reverse psychology?

I would actually love to just post all of the funny messages I receive on this thread, but that would maybe not be that nice.

Last night there was a sudden spasm of people from Boston and Philly areas viewing my profile. Strange....

Someone from Boston wrote me today to say that I should have no problem landing a man. His name was Remy. Could it be ilx Remy?

!!!!!!! ilx remy bean has a gf iirc but he could have registered to be sneaky/nice?

Does he also look good in underwear? :)

do you guys space your dates out? i hate going on OKC so i usually respond to a spate of emails at once, and then end up scheduling too many things in a row. i think i need to put off some folks for a while, but my catholic upbringing has conditioned me to feel paranoid about getting caught about lying. "so what'd you do this weekend?" "nothing, just relaxed." "oh, i thought you said you were busy all weekend?" i'm overthinking this but whatever.

speaking of which, bene_gesserit, how'd your date go last nite?

When I first started, I was doing about 2-3 a week . . . but that got old. Now I'm not that interested in actually meeting people . . . I'm more interested in just snooping around and seeing how people portray themselves . . . and studying human nature via the internet. And exchanging silly messages. If someone seems really good, or somewhat interesting, or if I feel sorry for them, I might meet them. I wouldn't worry about it--everyone on this site is meeting multiple peoples carousel-style.

I usually want to space things out but due to one person's scheduling issues, I recently had my Ivy League match.com dating day-- afternoon hike with one lawyer gal, and evening drinks with another. I felt uncomfortable about it actually

I went on two dates in one day once but I've now forgotten who they were or what happened. I think it was a big hassle, actually.

studying human nature via the internet

have you seen the okc blog?

I've now forgotten who they were or what happened.

Succinctly sums up my entire okc experience thus far.

x-post: I have, but it seems like there are only 4 entries or so?

Mr. "I'm too cool to talk my dates."

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if I feel sorry for them, I might meet them

And this one and done date will perk them up?

You have no idea how charming I can be.

That was supposed to say, referring to MP, "I'm too cool to talk about my dates."

last night's date was probably the best okc date i've been on. that's not saying a lot given my typical experience with this website BUT, i think this is a person i will be having more awesome times with, though a traditional relationship is not on the table. but we are like instant bff's and have plans to workshop music together and play german board games sometime soon!

Ivy League match.com dating

wait is this a thing? the idea of an ivy league dating site is kind of a bummer :(

Good on you, b_g. All I want is an instant BFF, but I cannot find one for the life of me.

I'm eligible for the Ivy League dating site, as a Seven Sister. Actually, I think Big 10 schools are eligible too.

i have seen this advertised in the back of the nyrb. it seems kind of gross

Had yet another poly, burning man type message me.... ... sigh.

how does one participate in a site like that without feeling like an elitist twerp?

signed, a bitter ivy reject who had better SAT scores than the kids with private guidance counselors and $30k a year private schooling

i also got rejected from an ivy but went to a school with major ivy pretensions, guessing that doesn't qualify

(not that i'd want to anyway because yuck)

according to their ad, they will grudgingly accept ppl from places like stanford/chicago/duke

hahaha.

an "introduction" network??

Ivy League match.com dating

wait is this a thing?

Ha. No, it was 2 women I met on match.com and I knew that they were lawyers before the dates but nothing more re their schooling. After a 2nd date with one, I found on my own that she had gone to an Ivy League school but she never mentioned it (kinda cool I think). The other date asked me about my schooling and then mentioned that she and her ex-husband had gone to Ivy League schools.

wow. do people really care about that stuff?

Oh my god do they. GF is working at an ivy right now, and buuuuuuugggghhhh.

I did not go to an Ivy League school and it does not matter to me, but to some people it does. Another friend of mine (a non-Ivy university grad with a decent job) said he would be intimidated by a date with a professionally successful, Ivy League college grad.

few years ago, was having dinner w/some high school friends. one of them went to princeton, and she mentioned how senior year, everyone started hooking up w/each other and throwing themselves into relationships left & right -- we said why? -- and she said it was b/c they "knew" they would never find the type of "quality" people as those who go to princeton.

(barf)