Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

Yeah I get what 'genre' means. I just had a hard time imagining you liking *all* genres. It wasn't a criticism, fwiw, it's good to have something that puts a question in the reader's mind.

hoos, you wouldn't date a taller lady? why not?

― bene_gesserit, Monday, November 7, 2011 7:25 PM (42 minutes ago) Bookmark

have never done it and the half dozen dates i've been on w/3+ inch taller girls have had a weird dynamic to me. owning up to total unconscious internalized "need to feel dominant" possbility here, but can't get past my self-consciousness despite the efforts.

No, I really like all of them except Romance! To varying degrees, but my answer is still "Almost all genre fic"--sorry if answer was over-explainy. It's more to downplay the "literaryness" of my reading tastes on that site because everyone else who identifies as a "reader" seems to be trying to out-David Foster Wallace/Evelyn Waugh each other.

OMG just got a message from someone inviting me to be his sub. Geez. READ THE F'ING PROFILE.

Anyway, on with the stalkering -!

LocalGarda (66%) - OK, if I wasn't too old for you I'd definitely date you on the basis of this, though I'd be nervous about not being interesting or culturally literate enough. You come across... please take this as a compliment... very ILXy.

Good lord, everyone's so YOUNG. Ronan, I had no idea! Also not sure how we are only 65% match, that's like the lowest of any ilxor so far which makes NO sense. I guess there were no questions about Liverpool, so....

Oh, you've only answered 11 questions, THAT'S why. So any one or two that we disagree about actually count for a lot.

The other day I dropped a quick line to someone whose name is a Go-Betweens reference. Does that automatically make them an ilxor? Or known to ilxors? That partic Venn diagram has to be in the 70 or 80% crossover range.

Trayce (68%) - Photo might not be 'you', but it's cute. What a drag about the 40 thing; I'll be there myself in a month, chiz. You don't look it. Surely you will win any man over with curry and treehouses.

I'm not doing very well at constructive criticism, but honestly, you all seem 10x more interesting and not-scary than any of the non-ILX profiles I've looked at.

my name is a ref to the fall, who...don't appear to have many gay fans, based on my OKC experiences

Zora, you have such a nice face/smile!

Thank you. :) That picture was taken at World Fantasy last autumn. I was incredibly happy! It is probably a misrepresentation!

See, right now Ronan doesn't seem that young to me because I remember him as like an 18 year old back when I first started posting to ILX.

I worried about my photo! I think I need a different one, but I dont know which one! I feel like my good photos are... too good? Misrepresentative hahaah oh dear. Such confidence!

Rayuela, every time you look at them it will show up on their list of visitors. If you feel awkward about this, switch to your special fake account (what, you don't have one?) I have one, but I'm afraid to use it, because I think it's too obvious it's me. Yes, I am paranoid.

No dates planned this week.

Zora, nice profile. Do people still contact you even though you say "seeing someone"?

Yes, they do. It's about 10-1 people looking for sex or a relationship even though I say 'looking for friends'. My old profile went into some blah about why I was looking for friends (recent move to London), but I still got almost entirely 'hook-up' messages so I cut all that out.

I guess I'm not seeing Goblin Boy any more, but I'm totally not looking for romance so I'm lairy about changing it to single.

donna rouge (58%) - Adorable beard/ smile combo, chapstick lolz, the bleeding thing is a bit ick maybe?

ljubljana (92%) - Ha ha, internets think we are made for each other. I share your passion for chai tea lattes, but I'm trying to give them up cause the sugar rush is bad news. You are terribly pretty!

VP and Zora, you should create a website and judge people's OKC's accounts, you're doing a brilliant job!

I've given up trying to critique, I'm just throwing out a reaction. If anyone has any partic concerns I'd be happy to look harder.

I'm not anyone's target audience so I'm not sure how helpful I can be.

Just in case you got me wrong Zora, I genuinely meant what I said, you're doing a great jon commenting on OKC profiles!

I took it that way! But I want to make it clear I'm having good nosy fun, rather than trying to provide a valuable service.

xp aw thanks Zora! Like Trayce, I'm worried I've used pics that are too good, i.e. totally unrepresentative.

Yeah, the chais became a serious damn problem, like one every couple of days, mainlining that stuff. I had to cut back.

I messaged that dom back btw. Message read: Dude, did you read my fucking profile?

He checked my profile out again but no more messages!

Next up, qwpoi.

Rayuela (91%) - Oh, you are utterly cuet too. The picture of you in the white shirt with your nails matching your buttons ooozes cool. And <3 your reading list.

lol just updated my main pic and got messaged by someone with no filled in profile and no pic with "hi". Uh...

thanks for the kind feedback dudes...

i find the photo v annoying actually, none of my friends or me really take that many photos so i always feel whatev photos i have are a little old and often not as good as they could be. short of arranging a photo shoot it's an insurmountable problem.

Thanks, Bateau! I learned everything I know from once-ilxor charlton lido and from a fellow librarian who was on the site for about a month before she snapped up a serious boyfriend.

We cool Zora <3

VP: that is knowledge picked up leading to wisdom if I ever saw it, the finest of resources!

Oh! Here's another grumble I didn't think of earlier: guys who have pretty nice profiles, which you then read within "I love travelling and I plan on heading off to London/New York/Outer Mongolia/the Serengetti in the next year or so".

Its like...ffs, what is the point.

Heading off permanently ie moving, that is.

my most memorable flings were with people about to head overseas. underrated i'd say.

Yeah but I'm over memorable flings, Ive had dozens. I'd like an actual partner, tbh.

PS whoops, note to self dont answer quiz questions on okc while at work, lest someone walk past while your screen says "WILL YOU KISS SOMEONE AFTER ORAL", oh dear.

lol

Local Garda, much improved! This gives me a much better sense of who you are and your sense of humor. Now, answer some more questions so that your mate can find you already.

xp aw thanks Zora! Like Trayce, I'm worried I've used pics that are too good, i.e. totally unrepresentative.

I checked to see what you were on about and having just seen your pretty face earlier tonight in person I say this is hogwash. pics totally representative imo. Honestly.

I'm happier with the one Ive changed mine to now.

Thanks ENBB! Basically the main difference I see in real life is eyebags and what I believe are known as 'laughter lines'. Had a good webmail discussion with VP regarding saying a bit more about what I'm looking for - might try that.

Zora, I like the calm confidence somehow implied by being good at something called the Edinburgh Reading Test (had to Google it).

I keep getting messages like this:

Despite the fact that we almost assuredly won't participate in any real exchange or meet, I'd just like to say I am pretty impressed with your profile.

I got another one that said something like, "I'm not interested in dating right now, but. . . . "

Reverse psychology?

I would actually love to just post all of the funny messages I receive on this thread, but that would maybe not be that nice.

Last night there was a sudden spasm of people from Boston and Philly areas viewing my profile. Strange....

Someone from Boston wrote me today to say that I should have no problem landing a man. His name was Remy. Could it be ilx Remy?

!!!!!!! ilx remy bean has a gf iirc but he could have registered to be sneaky/nice?

Does he also look good in underwear? :)

do you guys space your dates out? i hate going on OKC so i usually respond to a spate of emails at once, and then end up scheduling too many things in a row. i think i need to put off some folks for a while, but my catholic upbringing has conditioned me to feel paranoid about getting caught about lying. "so what'd you do this weekend?" "nothing, just relaxed." "oh, i thought you said you were busy all weekend?" i'm overthinking this but whatever.

speaking of which, bene_gesserit, how'd your date go last nite?

When I first started, I was doing about 2-3 a week . . . but that got old. Now I'm not that interested in actually meeting people . . . I'm more interested in just snooping around and seeing how people portray themselves . . . and studying human nature via the internet. And exchanging silly messages. If someone seems really good, or somewhat interesting, or if I feel sorry for them, I might meet them. I wouldn't worry about it--everyone on this site is meeting multiple peoples carousel-style.

I usually want to space things out but due to one person's scheduling issues, I recently had my Ivy League match.com dating day-- afternoon hike with one lawyer gal, and evening drinks with another. I felt uncomfortable about it actually

I went on two dates in one day once but I've now forgotten who they were or what happened. I think it was a big hassle, actually.