Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

i just disabled my account because things are going absurdly well already.

but yeah, seems like turning off anonymous browsing is the way to go, because at least for me, i would check out the profile of almost anyone who had visited my page. the person that i found had been on my page at 6:30 am or something and caught my eye.

ZS: you have a serious case of beginner's luck! Well done.

i know i should be more proactive about browsing and messaging people but i just don't have the patience/energy. so the only people i check out are people that send me messages.

i do have a date next sunday with a lawyer who i suspect is shorter than me, as his profile lists him only one inch taller and it's pretty common for men to add two inches. i don't have a problem with dating someone shorter, but i don't know if a lot of men want to date someone taller.

and tonight is the date with the non-drinker, finally.

it's pretty common for men to add two inches

this is so strange! i mean, i could see some men doing it, but still, very odd.

but i don't know if a lot of men want to date someone taller.

the good news is that if he listed himself as an inch taller, then either:
a) he's one of those guys who adds two inches, so he's actually an inch shorter than you, but surely he's seen your height on your profile so he's cool with being a bit shorter, or
b) he's actually an inch taller than you

VP, thank you for trying to find me, I am actually Zora[insert an underscore]DBII not ZoraDBII as previously advised. And seeing as how others are being cautious about putting their exact handles on here, it's probably not a bad thing that I got it wrong!

I need to stalk some of your profiles now.

i've actually gotten to the point where on pulling up a profile i do a 3 point check: match percentage, photo thumbnail peek & height. a+ on 1&2 mean nothin for me if the girl is more than 2 inches taller tbh. helps me power past disappointment faster.

hoos, you wouldn't date a taller lady? why not?

Laurel (89%) - Love the pic, and your profile made me want to message you to ask what you mean by 'genre' fiction.

bene_gesserit (77%) - You have awesome hair, nice chatty profile, yay pangolins!

Fiction that isn't considered "literary", it's divided up by entertainment "genres": sci-fi/fantasy, mystery, espionage, thriller, etc. Romance, too, I guess, although my interests do not turn there.

western!

sorry i am bored at work and i am also lurking itt but have very little to say since i have never used this service

maybe you should write our profiles for us

Ah yes, also Westerns!

i might make you out to be more enthusiastic than you really are though, and then what
then what?!?!

Thank u, Zane Grey. xp

if you browse non-anonymously, and you look at someone's profile several times, does it register each and every time you visit? does it make clear exactly how much of a stalker you are?

Yeah I get what 'genre' means. I just had a hard time imagining you liking *all* genres. It wasn't a criticism, fwiw, it's good to have something that puts a question in the reader's mind.

hoos, you wouldn't date a taller lady? why not?

― bene_gesserit, Monday, November 7, 2011 7:25 PM (42 minutes ago) Bookmark

have never done it and the half dozen dates i've been on w/3+ inch taller girls have had a weird dynamic to me. owning up to total unconscious internalized "need to feel dominant" possbility here, but can't get past my self-consciousness despite the efforts.

No, I really like all of them except Romance! To varying degrees, but my answer is still "Almost all genre fic"--sorry if answer was over-explainy. It's more to downplay the "literaryness" of my reading tastes on that site because everyone else who identifies as a "reader" seems to be trying to out-David Foster Wallace/Evelyn Waugh each other.

OMG just got a message from someone inviting me to be his sub. Geez. READ THE F'ING PROFILE.

Anyway, on with the stalkering -!

LocalGarda (66%) - OK, if I wasn't too old for you I'd definitely date you on the basis of this, though I'd be nervous about not being interesting or culturally literate enough. You come across... please take this as a compliment... very ILXy.

Good lord, everyone's so YOUNG. Ronan, I had no idea! Also not sure how we are only 65% match, that's like the lowest of any ilxor so far which makes NO sense. I guess there were no questions about Liverpool, so....

Oh, you've only answered 11 questions, THAT'S why. So any one or two that we disagree about actually count for a lot.

The other day I dropped a quick line to someone whose name is a Go-Betweens reference. Does that automatically make them an ilxor? Or known to ilxors? That partic Venn diagram has to be in the 70 or 80% crossover range.

Trayce (68%) - Photo might not be 'you', but it's cute. What a drag about the 40 thing; I'll be there myself in a month, chiz. You don't look it. Surely you will win any man over with curry and treehouses.

I'm not doing very well at constructive criticism, but honestly, you all seem 10x more interesting and not-scary than any of the non-ILX profiles I've looked at.

my name is a ref to the fall, who...don't appear to have many gay fans, based on my OKC experiences

Zora, you have such a nice face/smile!

Thank you. :) That picture was taken at World Fantasy last autumn. I was incredibly happy! It is probably a misrepresentation!

See, right now Ronan doesn't seem that young to me because I remember him as like an 18 year old back when I first started posting to ILX.

I worried about my photo! I think I need a different one, but I dont know which one! I feel like my good photos are... too good? Misrepresentative hahaah oh dear. Such confidence!

Rayuela, every time you look at them it will show up on their list of visitors. If you feel awkward about this, switch to your special fake account (what, you don't have one?) I have one, but I'm afraid to use it, because I think it's too obvious it's me. Yes, I am paranoid.

No dates planned this week.

Zora, nice profile. Do people still contact you even though you say "seeing someone"?

Yes, they do. It's about 10-1 people looking for sex or a relationship even though I say 'looking for friends'. My old profile went into some blah about why I was looking for friends (recent move to London), but I still got almost entirely 'hook-up' messages so I cut all that out.

I guess I'm not seeing Goblin Boy any more, but I'm totally not looking for romance so I'm lairy about changing it to single.

donna rouge (58%) - Adorable beard/ smile combo, chapstick lolz, the bleeding thing is a bit ick maybe?

ljubljana (92%) - Ha ha, internets think we are made for each other. I share your passion for chai tea lattes, but I'm trying to give them up cause the sugar rush is bad news. You are terribly pretty!

VP and Zora, you should create a website and judge people's OKC's accounts, you're doing a brilliant job!

I've given up trying to critique, I'm just throwing out a reaction. If anyone has any partic concerns I'd be happy to look harder.

I'm not anyone's target audience so I'm not sure how helpful I can be.

Just in case you got me wrong Zora, I genuinely meant what I said, you're doing a great jon commenting on OKC profiles!

I took it that way! But I want to make it clear I'm having good nosy fun, rather than trying to provide a valuable service.

xp aw thanks Zora! Like Trayce, I'm worried I've used pics that are too good, i.e. totally unrepresentative.

Yeah, the chais became a serious damn problem, like one every couple of days, mainlining that stuff. I had to cut back.

I messaged that dom back btw. Message read: Dude, did you read my fucking profile?

He checked my profile out again but no more messages!

Next up, qwpoi.

Rayuela (91%) - Oh, you are utterly cuet too. The picture of you in the white shirt with your nails matching your buttons ooozes cool. And <3 your reading list.

lol just updated my main pic and got messaged by someone with no filled in profile and no pic with "hi". Uh...

thanks for the kind feedback dudes...

i find the photo v annoying actually, none of my friends or me really take that many photos so i always feel whatev photos i have are a little old and often not as good as they could be. short of arranging a photo shoot it's an insurmountable problem.

Thanks, Bateau! I learned everything I know from once-ilxor charlton lido and from a fellow librarian who was on the site for about a month before she snapped up a serious boyfriend.

We cool Zora <3

VP: that is knowledge picked up leading to wisdom if I ever saw it, the finest of resources!

Oh! Here's another grumble I didn't think of earlier: guys who have pretty nice profiles, which you then read within "I love travelling and I plan on heading off to London/New York/Outer Mongolia/the Serengetti in the next year or so".

Its like...ffs, what is the point.

Heading off permanently ie moving, that is.

my most memorable flings were with people about to head overseas. underrated i'd say.