Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

I'm feeling a bit invisible now, erk :/

Thanks, b_g! Okc failed to notify me of this occurrence.

Trayce, I'm sure you have nothing to worry about, but yours will be the first profile I look at tomorrow, even before I stalk all my crushes with my secret, alternative account.

Hahah its all good, I actually feel a bit weird about even having posted my okc name on here! Also I never reply to anyone who msgs me so I lose at this I think.

[cries]

I am lurking out of mere curiosity, but I would totally date all of you fyi <3

[pulls head back in]

mookie you shoosh, I replied when you messaged me dammit!

Curmudgeon, I'd maybe take the 'you' out of 'you and solving the world's political problems' and replace with something else? But this really is nitpicking now, it really doesn't matter. I like the tone - I think what I dislike about so many DC profiles is that they seem forced and overstructured, and yours isn't at all.

Do you have to have an OKC profile to look at other profiles?

Would date all ya'lls, for real.

Yes, but they're really quick to create if you don't fill everything in (but then delete it, to save us poor seekers having to deal with empty profiles!)

Trayce, I like the nonchalance of your profile, and that's a nice pic. The part about the spelling and grammar would be a problem for me, and my spelling and grammar are great. It's just that some people have real trouble with that despite being super-intelligent. I have other little cognitive blips, like I can't do algebra properly or turn the right way out of a hotel room towards the lift, but that's not a barrier to online messaging...

But, it's your profile and if it turns you off it turns you off, and that's that!

Thanks for the suggestions

Yes, but they're really quick to create if you don't fill everything in (but then delete it, to save us poor seekers having to deal with empty profiles!)

― ljubljana, Saturday, November 5, 2011 1:13 PM (4 hours ago) Bookmark

i don't think you have to have one? i can see people's when i'm logged out of okc

the little cartoon 20-something with the belted cardigan and boots on the home page is trying to get me to sign up to get any further :(

It's not hard to sign up...basically all you need is a user name and an email.

Trayce, great profile. It gives me a sense of who you are, how your mind works and what you like. One quibble: I would include a full-body shot. If you think the age thing is a barrier, you could list your age as younger, and then disclose within the profile? I've seen men do that.

"i usually don't like talking about myself but....

[3 page diatribe]"

i changed mine a bit...fairly sure the net difference in the grand cosmic scheme is very little, the net result very much the same :)

If anyone has suggestions regarding my profile, either message me or write them here. Be gentle: Like most criticsl people, I am very fragile.

― Virginia Plain, Saturday, November 5, 2011 4:32 AM (16 hours ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

whats yr username? or if you don't want to give it, that's fine. i didn't see it when skimming earlier messages.

i just got back from a boozy brunch and am slightly tipsy. i've also decided that this is the perfect frame of mind in which to delete all the questions i've answered and to re-answer them. tell me, do you believe contraception is morally wrong? would you date someone who already had a partner? what about children? IS MORALITY UNIVERSAL OR RELATIVE?

no no yes both

are you happy with your life?

By the way, trayce (90%).

Mandee (69%) great profile! Very individual and readable narrative (even with the murakami!). I like how you keep coming back to the voyeur theme--this helps me feel like I am getting to know you. I think you give a good sense of both who you are and what you may be looking for, while still keeping it light-hearted and not over-serious. I might nix the not conventially attractive thing, because that's kind of hard to pull off when you are beautiful, but otherwise, no complaints.

Donna rouge (77%), good profile and hello, fellow virgo. Nice pics. No suggestions, except for maybe update it, so it seems like you are still around and interested (if you are).

omg, after re-answering nearly 100 questions, my compatibility with someone with whom i was previously highly compatible just dropped to extremely low.

Thanks VP/ljub! It never occurred to me to do a whole-body pic, I guess I wasnt thinking in such "hey look at me!" terms, which I suppose a dating site is all about ha. Also, dont have many.

I have wavered about getting rid of the grammar turn-off thing. Its probably more prudent to have something more important mentioned, like "go away poly/married people", lol.

I should prob focus less on shit like Futurama and video games too but then again... thats who i am?

Thanks for taking the time to look, VP! btw, an ILXor took my current default pic

I've been surprised by people who didn't "full-body" so now I wonder when I only see faces. Yea, trayce, if you wanted to meet more random people, I would say take some of that stuff out, but I think if you want to meet specific people who like that stuff or at least tolerate that you like it, I would say leave it in.

B_g, how was your thing? This guy is really taking it slow! Also, how did you stealth rate me? I only found out when I rated you.

reawakened my account on this thing tonight, after reading this thread, but it seems pretty likely i'll end up doing what i did before and shutting my account down because i feel awkward about it

VP, my date had food poisoning and cancelled today, so instead i had a fabulous lady date with a dear friend for italian food in the west village.

no idea if it was food poisoning or "food poisoning" but he rescheduled for monday. if he flakes on monday then i guess i'll really know how he feels!

i uploaded a picture of my new haircut to okc yesterday and have had a zillion more profile views than normal, but no messages! it might be because i was doing an interpretive dance with my cat to kate bush when i took the picture :/

Men need time to message you, b_g; they'll get around to it--don't worry.

I embarassed myself in front of the faux ilxor last night--I used to be so cool and unbothered but somehow I have developed into a terribly needy person. I think I need to go to dating remedial school.

I don't like to hear you say that. :( People have needs, they need things from other people sometimes. It's not your FAULT for being human.

PS: I have not been embarrassing in matters of romant, but I have been drunk/over-friendly/inexpert in public a couple of times lately and I'm trying to forgive myself, too.

Robyn told me something like that in the spring, when I was saying I don't know how to have relationships, I do it wrong, and she was like why is the narrative that we are doing things wrong, why can't we allow ourselves to be who we are and seek out what we need?

Thanks, Laurel! :) It all makes sense. Still, I am not drinking Manhattans again. Truth serum, or more like vocalizing agent.

I guess because I'm a pale fatty I've never thought of myself as conventionally attractive. Out here in CO most dudes seem to want a thin, blonde athletic type who wants to go trail running with them.

If I had to go trail running, I'd find a nice cliff and fall off it. So gross.

dude out in Colorado reporting: I can confirm this.

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altho i gravitate towards shoulder-length brown hair w/ girls w/ such propensity that sometimes it takes me days after meeting them to realize they aren't as good looking as when i first became enamored by their hair

blame freud

Virginia Plain, you could be telling the story of one of my happy hours, except substitute manhattans for whiskey neat. I have definitely been more measured at all future happy hours. i feel your pain! :/

I wrote to someone this AM, a comment about some similarities between our profiles. His response was like this: Pleasantry, non-committal comment about similarities, book recommendation, closed with "Thanks for writing." No questions, nothing to take further, and I'm reading "Thanks for writing" as a dismissal. Right?

I'll be in the lump thread if anyone needs me.

Don't assume.

See this is why I just dont reply if I'm not taken by someone's profile that messages me... its a little cutthroat, I know, but this is a dating site, these are strangers, I dont want to waste anyone's time getting their hopes up.

On that note: anyone get put off if someone's profile includes "casual sex" as one of their looking fors?

(I think I do, even though Im not actually averse to such a thing)

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Kinda jealous of your quick good luck, dammit ;P

But yay for you! <3

ZS I think you have to have an N>1 to assert that.

That said, yay ZS!

I just tweaked my profile a bit and added the pic I posted on WDYLL the other day. Asked N to look at it, apparently mine says I reply often. I didnt think I did!? I ignore as many messages as I respond to.

Laurel, quick replies on this site are fairly uncommon. I don't think this reply means disinterest. Write back and see if you can get a conversation going.

I did some damage control texting to try and mitigate the mess I created last night. Anyway, realized I'm not interested in this dude anymore, so thats a good thing.

Re casual sex, yea I think it's bit offputting when someone explicitly states that. My feeling is that this is a dating site, of course there will be some casual sex happening at some point.

There are some people on OKC who - like CL, I suppose - are explicitly looking for hookups/shags/affairs. Its kind of ew but I guess it comes with the territory.