Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

do you prefer guys who make babies cry? xp

I've never thought of it as an either/or proposition?

Those guys sound good! I wonder if my profile is sort of masculine? My profile is similar to that of many guys I'm matched with, but when I look at the ladies, it seems they love their pets and their families and their jobs and are quite well adjusted and positive.

i personally make the babies look at me like 'wtf are you doing?'

Oh, anyway, we should be watching the world series together. Mookie, when are you going to invite laurel and I over for a house party? I was planning to watch in my living room, but my roommate is watching twilight. Mookie, did you have your date? How did it go? You are so reticent.

reticent? well, i . . .

my house is a little spare for a house party and i am watching the world series on my computer. you are welcome any time, tho.

i have yet to go out with anyone from the site that i didn't already know. maybe next week.

My profile is similar to that of many guys I'm matched with, but when I look at the ladies, it seems they love their pets and their families and their jobs and are quite well adjusted and positive.

My profiles have never been like that either, VP. And the whole thing where femininity is defined as "warm and loving and good-natured and uncomplicated" is kinda nagl anyway. If those girls were so fulfilled by coddling their pets half to death, why are they looking for a boyfriend, anyway?

So you've gone out with people that you knew previously? Do tell...

My computer is completely shot. Or I would be watching baseball or movies on it. Trying to decide whether to buy a new computer or go to Spain. Suggestions?

my entire adventure from looking at this thread tonight:
- stalking laurel's profile

The up-close photo of you with visible freckles is kind of cuet.

I'd suggest going with that as your main in place of the "photo I took in my bathroom", but maybe the sunglasses and headphones are kind of cold and distancing for a main pic?

rayuela

> Why do guys want girls to know they can make babies smile? Do they think I am a baby? Also dogs and moving objects and scenes of abject misery make babies smile, they can't even focus their eyes yet

This is code for "i want you to bear my kids someday".

I don't get the "I don't want any new friends" thing. Two of my best previous relationships were with girls that friends led me to that I would never have met otherwise.

one thing i notice with the girls on this site, why do so many say that they are clumsy, or words to that effect? i think it's officially now a cliché to announce your own clumsiness, presumably in an effort to appear cute.

in my day girls went about claiming to be as surefooted as a mountain goat which was the other end of the same piece of rope.

we all need somebody to lean on

I would feel bad if someone sort of liked me, but I offered friendship as a consolation prize, and then I poached one of their male friends for myself. Maybe I am just too considerate for this cut-throat dating world.

Is there some indie-ish rom-com featuring a bumbling young woman in glasses who trips over herself and meets cute the man of her dreams? Maybe thats where the clumsy meme comes from.

My profile has stuff about getting lost in it, I put it in there to replace some other crap I no longer liked - could come across all trying-to-be-cut, I guess. Hmmm.

When someone puts in their profile, "don't message me if X" I am soo tempted to write back with X! A self-described comedian messaged me and when I checked his profile out, he said "don't message me asking me to tell you a joke. I hate that!" and I really want to send him a reply..."so, know any good jokes?"

I think I would love OkMisanthropy.

Getting lost is fine...I'm always getting lost. I don't have anything about that in my profile though.

I hate when people are already bossing you around about how to be and what to do in their profile, before you even meet them.

Someone wrote something like, "if you message me and i don't respond, don't take it personally.I just cant respond to everyone." it sounds ironic when i write it out, but he was serious.

I need new pics

http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_ltqiso1Wol1qz6f9yo1_r1_500.jpg

I hate when people are already bossing you around about how to be and what to do in their profile, before you even meet them.

To be fair, I used to have something like this. I used to get lots of clearly Asian Fetish emails, so I resorted to putting a disclaimer in there, like 'if you have an asian fetish don't message me!' but it turns out that statements like that just bring folks out of the woodwork, and nearly all were like, what's so wrong with being an asian fetishist! So that's gone, and I have a more subtle screening system in place now. So it turns out I agree with you...

Btw, hi everyone. I'm new to ILX but there isn't really an "introductory place." This thread helps me to vent small things that I always forget about by the time I see my friends. :)

Hello, rayuela, welcome! What okcupid market are you in these days? What you had, re asian fetishists, is totally acceptable, even if it wasn't fruitful in the long run. I'm talking more about things like, "I'm good at kissing, so you be good too" or "I'm looking for a sensual woman who is comfortable with her body and creative in bed." it's like, we haven't even met yet and you're dictating what you expect from me physically? Though it does work as a good negative screen. I kind of suggest a lot of ridiculous things in the "you should message me if" section, but it's largely tongue in cheek. I tried to make my profile wordy and obtuse enough so that people wouldn't just message me and say omg hi how r u? but I guess there's no protection against that.

Thanks! By market do you mean area? I'm in NY.

I have definitely seen the "comfortable w/body & creative in bed" before and it always makes me laugh. These are the kinds of things that save me from having to figure out whether I might like them or not.

Oh no! Competition! :)

Is there a man alive who wouldn't appreciate the type of woman outlined above? I don't think it's something you can specify though. That type of screening should come later.

I have a new plan for dealing with the rejection of people who don't write me back. I'm going to assume that the obvious intelligence in my well-worded e-mail intimidated them.

Haha. Yay, fellow NYer!

I had plans w/someone today but we mutually cancelled in favor of staying in due to snow! I'm pretty happy with that.

]Oh, anyway, we should be watching the world series together. Mookie, when are you going to invite laurel and I over for a house party? I was planning to watch in my living room, but my roommate is watching twilight. Mookie, did you have your date? How did it go? You are so reticent.

― Virginia Plain, Friday, October 28, 2011 9:51 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark

if i am not also invited i will be very cross!

to the house party, i mean. i only live a few blocks away and i don't want to miss laurel and mary in my neighborhood.

but of course!

sorry about yr skullcap

Ok, we have to throw a NYC commiseration okc party. Prizes go to the person who's had the worst date.

Had a purely friend date tonite--the shining & beers. I was so much happier when I was blissfully single and not looking...how do I get back to that state?

but of course!

sorry about yr skullcap

my costume failure was very sad but it was also crappy and snowy out so i wasn't that upset. </elderly>

there is always next year?

I got a bait and switch: I gave my # for texting purposes and he called and left a message. His name is Avi; maybe it will be like a J-date.

^^^^I am getting a good vibe here

His voice message sounded totally sweet, so I wasn't even apprehensive about calling back, which I did...to find no answer (fine) and no answering message...just ring ring ring. What, is his phone line plugged into his dial-up computer or something?

Haha. He might be the last person in the US to have a landline & no answering machine. Sounds like a good dude though!

I've decided I'm being totally unnecessarily neurotic about this whole thing and I'm going to just go on tons of dates & see what sticks.

He might be the last person in the US to have a landline & no answering machine

are you dating dr morbius?

Haha, I wish. Dream date.

Rayuela, that was my previous strategy but I got burned out with guys being all clueless and needy.

I thought the dude said we were going to text but maybe that was all part of his ruse.

The JDate response so far is not encouraging. I am ok with dating older, but the guys who are messaging me are a LOT older.

an irl cute person tried to chat me up when i was having lunch by myself today (we were sitting next to each other at the bar) and we had a casual conversation about books and movies, but then it became awkward when we had both finished lunch and i was like ooookay well it was nice meeting you and hoped he would ask for my number but instead he ...shook my hand. then i said "i come here often!" and it was like the stupidest think i could have said!

clearly i have 0 game without this internet stuff.

the stupidest thing, not think. i clearly have no typing skills when phone posting, either.

No but that's adorable!

I bet you he goes there right after work tomorrow.

^^^

My hairdresser, who I believe you were instrumental in introducing me to, told me that right after joining okc things started happening for her IRL. Though sometimes I wonder if the reason people aren't talking to each other IRL is because they are so busy internet dating.

Talked to my mother last night. One of the things she wanted to know was whether I had met any nice young men yet. Oh moms.

I still get asked that every once in a while (except it's if I've met a nice young woman, of course). I can't wait for the day when I say something like "I have, actually! Her name is Adam"

<3 <3 stevie

I saw an ad for JDate on TV today and thought of you guys.

I've started searching everywhere, instead of just in NYC, out of boredom. Result: someone in Boston chose me. I could rate him back, but I only give 5 stars to my personal friends.

I thought the badge/reward system was to recognize friends and the stars were to tell the system who you might be a match with? I know it adjusts who it recommends based on how you've done star ratings.

I mean, if you want to date your friends, that's cool.