Throw on Your Best Cardigan and Celebrate Fall 2011 with the Gays of ILX

also are any of you in LA? i'm going to be there mon thru wed next week interviewing yelawolf

i am!

It's no easy trick to master insouciance.

it is easy to feel kind of small when the other person has, tho

i tell you what helps with insouciance, being exhausted

what's yr email donna?

i'll be staying at the grafton on sunset boulevard

g4lluccij at gmail (the 4 is an A)

good good

i'll email you in the next few days (so busy and half-dead right now)

awesome!

Happy birthday, tabes!

HBDD

hahaha is "HBDD" like a meme now?

Jordan, whoa, way OTM and makes me reconsider everything. Like, is it all a performance of sorts just to get into someone's bed, and would it be/would we act radically different if sex was an absolute impossibility from the get-go? So once it's happened we are, on some level, satisfied or feel like we've achieved our goal and dispense of this charade of... what, friendliness? Flirtation? I mean, yeah, I guess I'd approach someone I'm sexually attracted to a little differently than someone to whom I wasn't (I mean, well, duh).

The awkward imbalance of attachment/investment is definitely a factor in some instances but not so much in my case; I'm talking about some sort of mutual lack of desire to continue interacting, not just being bummed out when someone doesn't text me back (which happens sometimes but I'm OK with and also it makes sense).

Happy Birthday Tabes

Like, is it all a performance of sorts just to get into someone's bed, and would it be/would we act radically different if sex was an absolute impossibility from the get-go?

I regard all interaction as performance tbh.

happy birthday tTiaT xxx

I regard all interaction as performance tbh

No wonder you don't like actors who have more gravitas than Cary Grant. Too much reality.

^^^ great performance!

plz hold your applause til my death

http://johngushue.typepad.com/photos/uncategorized/2007/11/18/quentin_crisp.jpg

the music must be stopped, NOW

thanks for all your birthday wishes. i had an awesome day: hung out with my housemates, soaked in a hot tub for an hour, ate oysters and burgers with theo, had a bonfire with some good friends... overall an excellent excellent day. and of course the night was pretty good too, though it has certainly come to my attention that the boy is an insomniac. talking until 6 in the morning is awesome but my day has been subsequently a little abbreviated since i slept so late. *problems of the happily unemployed*.

in terms of stevie's question, i'm not too sure about anyone's responses, as the way that relationships develop or dissolve is so subjective that to make some sort of blanket statement about such situations seems to almost preclude any other possibilities. also jordan, your response's cynicism really bummed me out. :(

Happy Birthday, motherfucker. :D

omg i'm wearing my best cardigan!

:D

i am wearing a puffy vest fyi

Elmo of the Ski Lift

I am fagging it up in a rich purple hoodie

i love puffy vests, i have 1

82 degrees in NYC this Sunday? folx at Occupy Wall St be strippin'

are u fucking kidding me

http://www.weather.com/weather/5-day/10013

i'm sorry but somebody needs to teach this weather a lesson

80 degrees in october is a bloody travesty

Tell that to SoCal :/

I am also wearing a purple hoodie (OMG twinsiez) bcz I spilled whiskey all over my other one last night

I'm wearing a bright red hoodie

we supplement each other

I just have a black WFMU hoodie (gangsta) but generally wear it at night

Hooray! I can wait for the intercampus shuttle at 6:25 a.m. and not feel sweat dribbling down my sides.

do you Americans actually call them puffy vests?

unless Damon Albarn wears one /1995

Sorry, he meant puffy chesterbockershire

sorry i meant to say "swollen waistcoat"

Chicago is killing it with this Indian summer. This week has been perfect, and it looks like it's just going to continue.

http://i.imgur.com/5rNIL.png

http://i.imgur.com/etthu.png

But we'll pay for it later: Chicago area expected to endure worst winter weather in nation

i need it to be 60's in october.

i wish i had ur winter

Our great September has notably not extended into October at all.

I hate these high 70s. I don't know what to wear.

as little as possible

http://thisdistractedglobe.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/08/Chinatown-1974-Perry-Lopez-Bruce-Glover-Jack-Nicholson-pic-11.jpg

"As little as possible."

afuckingmen

Soto, did you design the Marlins stadium's new I-don't-know-what-to-call-it on behalf of Red Grooms?

saw the most magnificent gay creature at lunch just now wearing a tiny green t-shirt, the tiniest jean shorts one could possibly wear before entering groin country, and turquoise alligator boots, carrying a gemstone-studded heart-shaped purse. AND he was deaf.

umm that OUTFIT