Throw on Your Best Cardigan and Celebrate Fall 2011 with the Gays of ILX

Most people, I'd want them to ask. Otherwise it's just rude when I say, "No."

MASTER MAY I GIVE YOU A LI'L PECK ON THE CHEEK

I was a wreck before my first gay kiss – he had to ask me. A rat the size of a tabby scurried under the car.

like, if we ever rolled into bed, would he ask if he could suck my balls?

haha, this just makes me think of

This thread makes me think of that situation guys sometimes run into, the one where a girl is giving you head but not going down to suck on your nuts even though you'd really like her to. So you sheepishly ask, "could you suck my balls?" hoping she will, and then she does, but all you can think about is the sound of your own voice asking "could you suck my balls?".

― Bryan (Bryan), Thursday, December 2, 2004 12:05 AM Bookmark

I had an extended conversation/debate with a friend about consent. She presented the position it necessary to have not only consent, but I enthusiastic consent. I said that it can be a real buzz kill to verbally request consent. What gets lost when you're talking about this issue in the abstract is that in reality "consent" isn't going to be as dry and stilted as interrupting passionate making out to go, "Is it OK if I finger you?" and "Yes, I consent to your fingering." I think that saying "I want to _________" is ask good as an interrogatory, and not boner kryptonite.

xp - hahaha I think about that post all the time!

The emotionally damaged ex-boyfriend had a big problem with consent. I learned that it was never OK to say, "Do you want me to fuck you?" (or vice versa) or even "I want to fuck you." After a couple times when I said something like that, he chewed me out for not "being a man" and just "taking" him. I learned that with him, I had to push past his resistance and reluctance, and then he would be really into it. Basically I had to be a date rapist.

that is the one thing where i always request consent!

Yeah, really.

Holy f, my bestie works in a science lab and had to order a rat for some experiment where she will p much do nothing but shoot it up with amphetamines every once in a while. Naturally, she named him Judy Garland. I am so, so proud of this woman.

wow

I only ever ask questions that I know the answer to.

Was that Judy Garland's drug of choice?

The 50-something, musical-theatre-loving, gay, right-wing, extremely racist leather man I used to wait tables with* chewed me out and held a grudge because I didn't know who Liza Minnelli's mother was. He got really shitty with me after I started asking the other staff if they knew who her mother was, and by far, the majority of them didn't know. I posted a poll with the same topic on another forum, and and over half of respondent's did not know.

Do you homos know who Liza's mother was?

* I feel like I've talked about him a million times, but still - he was smart and actually really really funny and he worked with people of all kinds of races, but his passion was hating racial minorities.

So he was Hitler-lite in the campy macho way? nagl.

I wouldn't have known if I hadn't looked it up. On the other hand, I really have no idea who Liza Minnelli is other than the name of someone who's famous.

*sigh*

Rev, try Cabaret with the Black Swan guy

I didn't know until I saw this

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=osYZPx2A8v4

Yeah me too.

That's way funnier than it has any right to be.

Debbie Reynolds, iirc.

I am by no means a judy fan but she had her moments:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iRYVIGjZk_U

<3 pat suzuki fwiw

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rs3IF5vxKNQ

except for last night when i went to a housewarming for deej's sister and had a very good time

So does her boyfriend look like me, as deej suggested to me?

I'd have thought that Garland/Minelli was one of the most well-known mother-daughter celeb pairs, surely more so than Reynolds/Fisher or Hedren/Griffith or Leigh/Curtis or Danner/Paltrow or Vanderbilt/Cooper. Maybe Hawn/Hudson is close.

cut to the chase: They both liked to marry gay men.

Who, aside from you, doesn't?

I only know Liza from Arrested Development, but it made me love her.

I did see Cabaret in the mid-90s. I don't remember it, except that I remember loathing it, but I think I should give it another chance.

surely more so than Reynolds/Fisher or Hedren/Griffith or Leigh/Curtis or Danner/Paltrow or Vanderbilt/Cooper. Maybe Hawn/Hudson is close.

Tbf, I have no idea about any of these either. Don't even recognize some of the names. I p much pay no attention to actors tho.

I recognize Hawn/Hudson, but none of the others.

It should be noted that the people at work who didn't know who Liza's mother was were of a variety of ages. And I didn't ask the immigrant workers.

i didn't know about hedren/griffith

i kindof just know liza minelli as being judy garlands daughter. p sure she features as a character in that judy davis acting showcase. i think ive only ever seen her in that weird unconvincing scorsese (?) movie shes in w deniro.

im starting school tomorrow. im jumpy and nervous about it. im like picking out an outfit

I take it for granted that everyone knows who has won Oscars in the last, oh, 50 years.

I used to be a snob about Oscar until I reminded myself I know shit about sports.

i knew every mother/daughter on that list except Vanderbilt/Cooper. but i was an only child who watched a LOT of old movies growing up.

Oscars are sports w/ tuxedos.

that weird unconvincing Scorsese musical is the first of his films I ever saw, and it beat the pants off the DiCaprio Era.

CABARET is an essential gay movies, youngsters.

morbs u r so cute

haha tabes, cooper = anderson (mom = gloria)

i knew every mother/daughter on that list except Vanderbilt/Cooper

This was a little joke.

http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3034/2824939630_5e257e6b1b_z.jpg

oh. well, i believe i knew that, but didn't associate it because, yknow, Anderson's a gym-driven silver fox tv host, not a famous actress.

Cabaret is pretty essential, but All That Jazz is better.

I added Cabaret to my Netflix Qwikster queue. We'll get to the bottom of my feelings on that movie.

I have at some points in my life been obsessed with sports, never so with movies.

i am now enjoying some fine bubbly water courtesy of my new carbonator, my birthday gift from my parents.

have i ever talked about how i calculated that before this thing, i was spending up to $14/week at times on selzer and mineral water?

i only like fizzy water when it's added to booze of some kind

i desire fizzy water at all times

is my concert schedule for the next two days gay enough?

Tomorrow - Bryan Ferry
Friday - Cut Copy

Answer: No.

Is Cut Copy "gay"?

Well, sure, because guys dance to them.

hi guys, as of a few minutes ago i am 40 but let's keep it to this little thread here shall we :D