Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

Oddly my problem was the opposite: dinner w/o follow-up bar-going option deprived of the requisite level of drunkenness for me to have felt comfortable in my own skin.

*note: I am typically comfortable in my own skin when not intoxicated, though this does not apply to occasions whereupon I am trying to sell myself as a prospect to seemingly-unattainable women.

hey, so, I think I just drank and danced this thing out of my system, so it's no thing.

discussing the absurdity of okc while on an okc date: classic or dud?

Legit classic and a natural subject of conversation. Also, in my experience, supercool, whip-smart people are smart enough to see through awkwardness (and probably are familiar with it personally!). Worry not!

aside from "i love traveling!!!" there are a huge number of ppl with "looking for a guy with a wicked sense of humor but who is a sweetheart. at heart. " kind of things. i mean, hey ppl, i need love too, but at least i have dignity!

oh, wait... d'ar...

totally going to the other team's side if i have to be with someone who loves sedarsissses and wine and traveling. jesus h fuck

i know it's ~crazy~!, but i love having a bottle of wine on friday nights!!

you could be their manic pixie dream boy

i am working on that, s, believe me

I almost forgot.. My laptop !!! lol

i am a horrible person on all accounts btw, so whatever

maybe you should put that in your profile and see if you get any takers?

Making moves in the real life direction has caused the abrupt end of a number of promising online conversation on OKC for me

These people are crazy and you're better off with them turning you down, imo. They're just wasting your time trying to make themselves feel better about something else in their lives (or trying to make YOU make them feel better etc).

These people are crazy and you're better off with them turning you down, imo. They're just wasting your time trying to make themselves feel better about something else in their lives (or trying to make YOU make them feel better etc).

jeepers laurel, that's kind of the narrative of all human interaction, if ya wanna get cynical about it

I have no problem being "cynical" about people on a DATING SITE who are so afraid to meet anyone they're emailing that you can "scare them off" by suggesting it.

yah i wasn't accusing you of anything, more just commenting on your astute observation of ppl's interactions with one another.

Guy has kicked off with 'let's make this *our* self-summary' and then written the whole damn thing in the plural. 'We have two ears and two eyes and only one mouth, so we listen and look twice as much as we talk... we enjoy a night in with a bottle of wine as much as we do kayaking up the Potomac...' etc. etc.

rowr. all i need is a kayak full of red wine and some ice cubes and then we are gonna do some romantic things in southern maryland, argh

ahaha <3

ten month relationship with someone I met on OKC just ended. Kind of a mutual decision but still sad

:/

ok cupid? ok stupid, morelike

Care to elaborate?

Sorry to hear that curmudgeon. Even when you think it for the best, the end of a relationship always hurts.

Sorry curmudgeon.

I went out last night with my (okc-sourced) ex. We had a great night, really relaxed, talked and talked, no attempts to rekindle anything, but of course I feel like crap today because of remembering why I liked him so much, and to top it, discovered he's re-activated his profile. (Mine's active too so I'm being a hypocrite).

Care to elaborate?

lol nothing really to elaborate on, save for that OKC has been both a boon to & complicator of my social life in the past several months. Right now, I happen to be on the low ebb of that arc, but I'm sure it will swing back up soon enough.

if you are single
and live with your ex
you are not single

I dunno, works fine for me.

Just had an OKC date with someone omg so good looking, like, the most good looking person I've ever been on a date with, and also nice, respectful, relaxed, and.... boring. If he contacts me again, I'll be so tempted to go with it just for the looks in the desperate hope that we find more stuff to connect about.

OK, just got this message from him: 'It was nice meeting you! And thanks for dinner and drinks. First time I've been taken out on a first date. It can only go downhill from here. '

(Yes, I paid, not sure why - was dive bar style date, so cheap)

Wtf does that mean? I want to see you again? I don't want to see you again but thanks for dinner?

I think the last line is just badly expressed, and he's saying it was a good time so he'd like to do something again.

Yeah I agree.

Thanks for the translation. Conflicted. Maybe he was just quiet this time. Will send a tentative response.

If you think he'd take it well, you could tease him about the accidental implication.

Yeah, I can go with that.

just now had date 1 with a girl i first exchanged msgs with in february. hard for it not to be disappointing after 6 months of buildup.

she was way wittier in text.

"I liked you better when you were text"

im sayin, and you kids dont listen!! meet asap imoo

nah yeah i mean i knew it would pan out that way.

just a shame is all.

Guy above did not get back in touch. I am kind of relieved as we really didn't seem to have much to talk about, wonderfully handsome though he was.

Maybe you could take him out once every 2-3 weeks just to look at him?

You know, that is exactly what I would be happy with. Yes.

Bah I hate mixed signals. Supposed to meet up with somebody I've been exchanging msgs/photos/calls for a bit. She wants to start with dinner at her house as a way to leapfrog the initial bullshit, but has yet to actually tell me where she lives.

Supposed to meet up on Sunday afternoon after last Saturday's aborted attempt, but no actual promised email yet letting me know where the hell to actually go.

Of course, I'm supersensitive about this because I've been jacked around before by quite attractive people before online. I don't know if my keenness is too sharp or blatant or what.

Her name wouldn't be Luna, by any chance, would it?

Had dinner last night with a girl I originally met here who I hadn't seen since December and we picked up like not a day had passed. Amazing.

Ha, no it would not, but I remember her.

Bahaha oh man, so I regularly repost my CL personal out of habit, right? Chick I wasn't sure was yanking me around or not texts me this morning, says she was deleting her saved CL searches, sees my listing at the top, now no longer wants to meet or talk with me at all because she was "serious about a relationship" and felt it "disrespectful" because we "made plans"(again, that I had no indication that she was going to buy into)

So either I screwed myself over in this or just got some (more) loud klaxons that this chick is way high-maintenance.

that isn't high maintenance btw just bonkers avoid