Innocuous things that make you irrationally angry (a list thread)

That big sticker they put all along the top of a CD is the worst thing...

- submitting writing to someone who then fucks w/the formatting. i wrote something where two emphasized bits were in italics, and the person in charge of printing it out (not an editor, mind, just the person in charge of printing out pieces and pasting them to the wall) took the italics out. now it reads kinda garbled and i'm all UGH.

when i write something in word (or even notepad tbh) and paste it into gmail and gmail messes up the paragraph breaks. this happened with a cover letter i wrote for a freakin' copy editor job.

- little blue bar in twitter telling every day for 6 months that I am using new twitter

*telling me

people who use terms like 'bad boys' to mean things that arent bad or boys and use words like twerp but arent in their 60s.

people who use terms like 'bad boys' to mean things that arent bad or boys

oh god. this is just.... insta-hate

That big sticker they put all along the top of a CD is the worst thing...

there is a pretty foolproof technique for dealing with this. you unhinge the front of the case from the back. then it becomes easy to take the sticker off. rehinge, done.

Ah Trayce, yr friend sounds like someone I used to talk to online until I reached the end of my tether and sometimes feel v guilty about dropping but also know that it wouldn't work out any better if I got back in touch.

(at the time he was out of work and I was in a crappy job which I hated and which paid less than he got on disability benefit for depression. I got tired of being a whinging post when if I ever moaned about my job or anything else he'd go "oh but you're so lucky to have a job, now let's talk about how my life sucks", "oh you think you're lonely but you're a woman and women are never lonely", or some other variety of "no no, I've got it worse, shut up now" - not that KIP attempts were any better received)

djs who mix things out after 90 seconds...repeatedly. this isn't innocuous actually it's fucking heinous.

@ Trayce all you have to do is say things like "you're right that is terrible" then change the focus "I hear you got a new car" or something to change the subject

"yea, but how can I enjoy this new car when my life sucks and there's soooooooooooo much suffering in the worrrrrrrrrld"

"you're rigt that is terrible, you really are having a tough time. Are you going to see the new THOR? Ned Ragget says it blows!"

xpost I mean, tbh, I can't even fuck with these types of people anymore. Valid complaints or not, they're compliment fishers, and it comes from some kind of hyperactive selfishness. Many of them will be dismissive of any kind of advice ("Oh I've tried that, it doesn't work").

I got really worn down when I was 20 by this girl who was convinced her life was the worst in the history, fabricated or exaggerated events (ie, made the death of a grandma into 'most traumatic event evar'), and would demand your attention whenever it happened. She sent me a postcard my first week of college (I'd moved 6 hours away and was struggling) not to wish me well, but to complain she didn't get cast in some community theatre play. She called me to whine about her life daily.

and on the rare day I called her on her antics, she attempted to get other friends of hers or mine to gang up on me to make me feel bad. I tried, and I tried, but in the end the only solution was to cut all ties with this person, because it brought me down real far. It sucks but sometimes that's the solution.

in general cutting ties with people seems to work out in all cases except your mailman

^^^ Yep. Just giving up completely on my ridiculously high-maintenance "friend" who never made time for me was one of the best things I've done. Yes, I miss the good days when we were close and getting along well, but its so much easier now to not have to wonder what kind of metaphorical backflips I'll have to do to keep him pleased.

i've had people do that to me actually, but i think it was pretty jerky of them. i went through this phase of always being sarcastic, always with the pop culture put downs etc., but i was always kind TO HER. she went through some family trauma, which i was very supportive about actually, but then seemingly decided to cut ALL negativity out of her life and that meant axing me (passively). this was about a decade ago now, and i took the hint and we just stopped talking, but part of me still wants her to call her up and say wtf, it was ages ago and i'm not like that now - screw you for ditching me! in the nineties, being a sarcastabitch just seemed COOL. i never harmed anyone and am not the one who was being a bad friend! i just got pwned by Daria culture. :/

call her and say you found Jesus and now you are a fountain of optimism

how about that i found him under my couch cushions? but i suppose that would be less effective.

she also started reading all those "chicken soup for the soul" type books around the same time. probably shouldn't feel bad that i just didn't mesh with that kind of coping strategy.

look o the bright side - what if she had turned out to be some serial killer or something

I had a big breakup with an ultra-negative friend about six years ago and I still have residual anger at her when I run across her on FB or Flickr or what have you.

I think there's a diff between being a Daria and looking at everything as a "my life is worse than your life" contest particularly when that person won't actually take easy, well-supported steps to solve problems. I mean, some ppl can't deal w/ 90s sarcastabitch culture but I think you're right, Kim, when you say that was more a matter of different world views and not you being a bad person.

The ultra-neg friend problem usually blows up when the person who is not relentlessly negative needs support and the ultra-neg is clueless and selfish after years of hanging on her friends like a remora. This is what happened with me and why I'm still bitter (also when I tried to save the friendship by distancing myself so I could deal with my own shit, I got a raft of complaints about what a jerk I was for not making time to hear about why the friend's life is both unbearable and unfixable). Okay. Going to happy thread now. Grrr.

i have a friend, well an ex-gf whos the opposite to the 24-hr-negative friend, the ultra positive friend, the person whose read too much self help and is trying to project ms little sunshine all the time in case even a glimmer of doubt/shyness/unhappiness slips through. im a bit more sympathetic to this than the opposite (kinda) but its equally hard to deal with/

all rain makes a dessert!

Hey, it's 2011.

Could we maybe create vending machines that fucking work right?

When people use toilet paper to blow their nose, because they're in the bathroom and it's handy, but then throw it in the garbage can. It's flushable for fucksakes - use logic and do not leave your pestilence rag there!

maybe they are on a saving water kick

when people don't clean up after their pets. i mean seriously, outside my office the sidewalk is covered in dog shit.

xpost - well they are free to pee on it too, before flushing. That's what captain planet would do. Tho I suppose that eating your own boogers is the most Eco-friendly approach. So maybe that is what he would do.

When people use toilet paper to blow their nose, because they're in the bathroom and it's handy, but then throw it in the garbage can. It's flushable for fucksakes - use logic and do not leave your pestilence rag there!

There = garbage can, right?

lately I have been trowing tissues on the floor becuase I am holding a baby so i can't throw them in the garbgecan

You go to the bathroom with baby in hand?

no - I am using tissue to wipe her spit up

Drivers who don't signal when they can see a pedestrian waiting to cross the road beyond the point where they're going to turn off / pull into a parking space, bcz it's only a pedestrian.

Hey! You've made my walk home take 30 seconds longer! (That's why getting angry enough to type something about it on the internet later is irrational.)

Yes, this.

Also, my office sits on a one-way street. When I approach the cross-street "upstream", I have to watch out for drivers with their necks cranked to the left as they turn right on to the one-way, rolling through a red light.

That's a rational peeve though. We all need to work better at this.

The ultra-neg friend problem usually blows up when the person who is not relentlessly negative needs support and the ultra-neg is clueless and selfish after years of hanging on her friends like a remora.

When your ultra-neg friend wants to cry
But you want her to die
That's remora

people who do not know how to use circles. not five-lane british circles or whatever. just simple one-lane circles. probably the simplest thing on the road next to a stop sign.

omg it's terrible here...we have one by our house, and one by where I work and the amount of people braking halfway around to let another car in ...I swear. Or ppl who stop dead at the entrance to a clear one. One the one hand, I get that they are kind of a rarity in the US, but on the otherhand IT IS NOT AS DIFFICULT AS YOU ARE MAKING IT

I am so proud of my city for building a huge circle with four outs on it. They're not common here, but it seems that everyone has gotten the hang of it.

This little touch of genius can go straight to hell though. Even I'd be turning dead left instead of going around that exaggerated manhole cover, especially at two in the morning.

LOL I'd love to see those people get their heads around Melb hook-turns.

There's two being built on Jacaranda Blvd, close to Venice, Florida. People seem to be adjusting to those OK.

That thing when you say to yourself "I'll just get this quick thing out of the way, then i'll do x", then when you've got the quick thing out of the way you remember that you were going to do something but have completely forgotten what it was, and are just left with a lingering sense of something urgent left uncompleted. Filing this under 'innocuous' because the thing forgotton is usually not urgent at all, it's more like "I'll just read this quick ilx thread, then i'll... read this other ilx thread".

--when people get to the front of the line and don't have their method of payment ready and slow down the line
--people who enter through "Exit only" while you're exiting, forcing you to squeeze by, then giving you a look like YOU screwed up. actually that ain't innocuous, that's criminal!
--people who repeatedly try to jump ahead by asking questions in training about things we haven't gotten to yet.

--people who repeatedly try to jump ahead by asking questions in training about things we haven't gotten to yet.

OTM - disgusting savages.

oh and that reminds me

--people who use exit lanes as passing lanes OMFG

a lingering sense of something urgent left uncompleted

Aah, this is my morning. We had network problems, so I had to find something I could do offline, and then the network came back before I had finished the make-work, which I stopped at a memory-disrupting point only to have forgotten what I actually meant to do today, and now I am doing neither and feeling a bit at sea

distractions

to the dude who stopped in the drive thru sunpass toll lane, almost causing a wreck, and then immediately made an illegal left turn out of a straightaway only lane...there is a special place in Hell for you.

O_O yipes