This is a thread for ILXors in their 30's!!! yo yo yo breakdancing etc...

i mean, someday i'll have cornered the market as far as life-mastery goes, and then i'll be gloating and be like "fuck you guys, i've totally mastered life and I'M A PROPER ADULT"

I don't think I'll ever really be a proper adult. I find myself thinking about things like having a baby and buying property but then thinking wait I can't do that, I'm still a kid!

See, I've taken myself out of that equation so far. (And I'm thrilled, frankly.)

meh, i have friends who were just as immature as I am, and a baby came by accident, and they have since then, pardon the phrase, more than kicked ass at raising their kid...

so...

Nobody is a "proper" adult. Anybody who claims they are is secretly worried that you'll call BS on them. Particularly people who are all "I've got a six bedroom house and two cars and blah blah blah" and try and make you feel inadequate. All you have to do is turn to them and say "SO. FUCKING. WHAT."

Ned, it is ok because you are immortalised in Swindon in any case.

I'm with Ned on this - I'm not concerned at all with having the same house and doing the same things and having the same stuff in my house as the twenty other households on my street.

Yeah ditto here. Still rent, no kids, no intention thereof, not married (though tbh I think I'd like to marry my guy at some point). Wld like to buy a house but cant see it happening. Eh. I've become resigned to it all now I think.

Tell you what though: in my early 30s nothing felt different, but since 35 I have actually started to feel *older*. I'm slower, kids today actually start makin' less sense, I cant drink like I used to, I can't be bothered partying much, being at home cooking is fun, etc.

Yeah I don't necessarily want all the typical things either although we do want a kid(s) at some point and I assume we'll want to buy a place just not right now. I guess I'm just feeling a little werid because a lot of our friends are doing these things now and we're just not there yet at all really.

Ned, it is ok because you are immortalised in Swindon in any case.

Fame! I'm going to live etc.

I've felt a bit tired here and there at points lately but not constantly. Depends on the day. If it gets worse, eh; life goes on.

I probably haven't helped my creaky age-itis by my rather party-harty lifestyle.

Kids! Booze makes you feel shit when you're older!

I don't do late nights very well anymore, but only because I get up at 5 for the gym.

Kids! Booze makes you feel shit when you're older!

This is true. I had two spend all day in bed hangovers this year that would have been nothing to me 10 years ago.

Guys we own a 4 bedroom house, 2 cars, have a kid, a dog, three cats, both have full time jobs and I feel 17 y/o 99% of the time. This shit doesnt make you an "adult".

All of this stuff happened because it made sense at the time and still does ie it doesn't cost much more to own a house than to rent one here so why throw money away when you're happy to stay in the same place for a little while, there's two of us who do different things and go to different places so we need two cars, the kid i was very wishy washy edging toward negative it turns out shes the best decision of my life.

I pretty sure being an adult the way you're all talking about it is a myth.

btw all of that stuff happened in the last 3 years, except the cats.

In my 20s I always had this really desperate feeling that I was running out of time to do something with my life. I have no clue what that something was. By the time I reached 30 I felt like no one really expected anything of me anymore which was like the greatest feeling ever.

I am still the reverse of most people when it comes to boozing - I had really terrible puking shaking hangovers when I was a teenager, and they got less awful as I got older. The only negative is the pains-in-kidneys thing I get instead of hangovers. I only get proper hangovers if I get WASTED OUT OF MY FACE which these days is maybe 3 or 4 times a year.

still waitin for that (xp)

God, if I thought that turning 30 was a permission to give up on my dreams... gah! I never would have done anything.

In fact, I'm actually quite lucky! I had kinda said to my mum that if I hadn't achieved anything by the time I was 30 I'd give up and stop trying. A week before my 30th birthday my then-band got reviewed in the NME (back when this was actually quite a big deal). Everything important that I accomplished in terms of the musician-dream (singles, tours, album, being on the radio/telly/face in magazines etc. etc.) happened AFTER I was 30. So I'm really glad I didn't give up then.

40, however... I feel like I've done everything I'm gonna do on the musician-dream and it's officially time to bury it and get a new dream.

I just don't know what that is yet.

But the moral of the story is, kids, it ain't over at 30. Keep trying if there's something you really want to do, and don't let anyone tell you you're "too old". You're not too old until you can't pass for young any more.

okay yeah i mean "dreams" in the sense that you feel like you have to do something important and that something important is usually career orientated.

my only dream is that someone gives me an obscene amount of money so I dont have to do ANYTHING careerish

and, yes, that dream lives on

How the heck is anyone expected to know what the heck they want to do with their lives in their 20s? Honestly! One of the great things about your 30s is that that is when it kind of drops into place and you figure out what you're good at - and decide to just make a "career" doing that rather than that whole thing of Having A Career.

At least, that's what happened to me.

the idea of having a career at all is ridiculous to me

unless youre one of those type A entrepreneur peeps who run around taking over all kinds of industries because that shit looks like some fun

i wish there were more people like sunny in the world

i'm not without ambitions in life, but the idea that i or anyone else is required to validate their existence via a career path needs to go fuck off

seems I'm basically sunny in a lot of ways.

"career" concepts are kind of silly to me, and in the last couple of years I've gotten much more comfortable with the idea that this is it, that I should enjoy what I've got and not keep thinking that someday I'm going to do something awesome and magical and everything will be figured out for me. I'm much more able to enjoy all of the good things that I have going on and not stressing what could have been / what I should have done.

though I still would love someone to drop lottery money on me so I didn't have to do anything at all and therefore could do everything I want.

A career is what happens to make you money while you were making other plans.

I only had a career by accident. I didn't go pursuing it. It just came and found me.

wow, that's great!

Sunny re: dreams, LOL.

I knew I had a career when I realized I'd been doing the same thing for 12 years, kept progressing, in general enjoyed it and made a lot of money at it.

However, having a career and having your career be your life are two different things.

My career took off just after I hit 30. The past couple of years have been a rollercoaster. And I still have enough spare time to indulge in the other things I achieved after turning 30.

Still in my 30s.

As the ravers get old and boring what do the 30 something ex-clubbers buy?

I am one of the oldest people in my grad school program, and I've only just begun.

My career took off just after I hit 30. The past couple of years have been a rollercoaster. And I still have enough spare time to indulge in the other things I achieved after turning 30

ditto for me, only replace "30" with "32"

yo yo yo breakdancing etc...

Quite enjoy being in my 30s. All the decent bits of being in my 20s but perhaps not as emotionally intense.

I've heard that from a lot of people. Almost halfway through my 30s and still waiting for that to happen.

There are certain things I'm not feeling so comfortable with these days though. I was invited to go to a hippie-ish club/rave night/thing in London the other day for a younger mate's birthday, but got ill instead and kinda felt relieved I didn't have to go. My 24-y/o hippie raving younger self woulda been all over that shit.

Well, it looks like I'm joining you guys in here for the next 10 years!

C'est dommage -- I'm almost outta here!

Yeah, we're about to go from the VP Agnew years to the VP Ford year. You kids have fun with your disco.

Thirties are awesome, but its definitely way more intense than my twenties were. In a good way.

so far my 30s have been about diminishing possibilities and the reality of crushing financial burden and lack of mobility settling in even as i try to ignore it with less and less success. on the plus side i love somebody.

at least i've still got good hair, that never goes away, does it

what up motherfuckers

what is being 30 like today

Happy Birthday!

get off my lawn

god