Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

just thought i'd mention that i met a fantastic, gorgeous girl on OKC. dating for 3 months now, everything seems to be going great and this is the happiest i've been in years. A+++ would recommend unreservedly.

That's the biggest issue I've run across, the difficulty integrating into the independent life of someone else that isn't already naturally in your social circle.

― BIG HOOS aka the steendriver, Sunday, April 24, 2011 9:18 PM (1 week ago) Bookmark

i dunno, i kind of like this aspect. it's nice to move out of the comfort zone of your social circle. i'm 29 and most of my mates and the women they know are in the process of settling down, getting married, having kids. not the best group of people to meet a partner in. how is this different from meeting a stranger at a club you don't attend regularly, anyway?

pathetic to admit it, but when i meet a new girl i'm interested in, the fewer mutual friends we have on fbook, the more bonus points she gets

a beautiful girl just sent me a haiku on this...pretty much the best message i've ever got. she lives in edinburgh. still...

gr80 so right on that, unless it's they're friends with token people who are friends with everyone and generally represent good company.

Are you going to reply in poetry or prose?

So not coming through for me. No interest in actually meeting anyone just now. Just need nice self-esteem reinforcing messages from reasonably acceptable peeps.

Yeah, I'm getting nothing from this. Not putting anything into though, atm.

Think I just got rejected by \/!3nn4 T3ng!

congratulations?

At this point, I will take it.

congratulations!

Had to google who that was.

I'm irrationally avoiding messaging this one vaguely promising person because at this time of delicate ego, I refuse to engage first. Stupid.

a staggeringly attractive (& convincingly real) woman has emailed me on this website.

does this thing still use the 'woo' system?

this thread got pretty quiet in the wake of the d34thdr0n3 thread

some girl who seems pretty ok has been messaging me on this, haven't decided to meet up

7 months & another 2 relationships further on, I'm back on OKC again again again...

Got it together to invite a guy for a drink. I have some stuff about Russia on my profile (language, music, food - I did my degree in area studies and lived in St Petersburg for a couple of years, went back every year for 15 years or so). He did not have anything Russian-related in his, but in his reply said'are you a real Russian or a fake Russian?' I explained I was a Britisher. Turns out he was born in St P and left when he was five. We had our date in English, then stood on the street speaking Russian for another 20 minutes. He told me I was a totally different person in Russian.

No spark whatsoever.

"We had our date in English, then stood on the street speaking Russian for another 20 minutes. He told me I was a totally different person in Russian."

This is intriguing me to no end. One can actually seem a completely different person when speaking a different language?

(I do believe that to be true tbh - sorry there wasn't a spark)

That's a good story, Ljubljana.

I don't feel like a totally different person, but I do feel a bit different. More extroverted, more mildly flirty. I think it's because I was totally immersed in Russian at a time of my life when suddenly, various factors conspired to make me feel more like that person. But the language itself sort of lends itself, too.

I do really believe different languages lend themselves for different nuances, which in the eye of the other party will make it seem you are acting a certain way you wouldn't if you were speaking in a different way. If that makes sense.

What if I'm a casanova in Han Chinese or a genius in Lithuanian? I may never know.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qMLYTZNmUmw

I've a date on Thursday. Woo!

woooooo

Imo you should listen to a loop of "yakety sax" while browsing this site

lol

the rush of seeing like ten people look at your profile right after you renovate it entirely is kinda nice

Messaging with someone who seems really fun & cool...

Trying to judge whether/when raising the idea of meeting up in person might garner a positive response.

I kind of feel like a dick because I was messaging someone off and on, and then ended up really busy and getting a cold and feeling like a lump and it's been like... a month.

I would always be happy to hear from someone that I'd been having a good 'conversation' with again, pretty much regardless of the AWOL time period.

Agreed - one of my best pals now is someone w/ whom I was OKC penpals for a while, then it kind of trailed off... about 3-4 months later she messaged again out of the blue and we got back in the groove, buddies ever since (with some smooches etc along the way).

I only get messages from 50+ men, couples, and transgendered MtF's. I asked a friend of mine why this seems to happen to me, and he said: "It's because you're a single woman over 30."

Jeez, thanks.

imo if i were yall i would skip the 'messaging back & forth' & rush into 'meet for coffee asap' if u think they seem worthwhile online. wasting time chatting with strangers who u might not like irl is what ilx is for

Haha otm

yeh that is OTM. went on a nice little date with a kid from okc last week, made out a bit, wasnt mind-blowing but we'll definitely stay friends...and get this: he's an Entomology & Agricultural Ecology major whose specialization is BEES. plus he's cute. so...

I am all for meeting in real life myself, but not everyone is. Making moves in the real life direction has caused the abrupt end of a number of promising online conversation on OKC for me, hence my being wary of scaring folk off by jumping in with it too soon.

they arent rabbits!

"he wants to talk to me in person ... how odd ..."

Are rabbits afraid of going for coffee? I've never asked one out.

I only get messages from 50+ men, couples, and transgendered MtF's. I asked a friend of mine why this seems to happen to me, and he said: "It's because you're a single woman over 30."

Jeez, thanks.

― homosexual II, Friday, 19 August 2011 03:28 (8 hours ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

LOL, this rings familiar to me too.

I suspended my okc profile when R and started seeing each other but thats become kinda... well, he's in Masters thesis mode, I see him like once every 2-3 weeks? I might as well be single. Maybe I should fire it back up again...

I think I just screwed up a first date w/ the most beautiful (and also supercool, whip-smart etc.) woman who has ever bothered to give me the time of day (who, incidentally, originally contacted ME on OKC). I tried to play it smooth, but I was a total ball of nerves & now I just feel like a goofus.

Aw :( I'm sure it wasn't as bad as you think? You seem like an awesome guy!

lol thanks for the pep talk Trayce, but I've been through these particular motions enough to know when I've acted awkwardly. I guess the key is just not to have any expectations going into any given thing, which I don't really, but still.. damn.

:/ I know how it feels, I arsed up my last few OKC dates horribly :( Nerves = drinking = me being a tard.

Oddly my problem was the opposite: dinner w/o follow-up bar-going option deprived of the requisite level of drunkenness for me to have felt comfortable in my own skin.

*note: I am typically comfortable in my own skin when not intoxicated, though this does not apply to occasions whereupon I am trying to sell myself as a prospect to seemingly-unattainable women.