Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

after a considerably dry spell, two dates this week!

i guess hope SPRINGs eternal HAHA GET IT IT'S SPRINGTIME

I was excited cause I got a message, then I noticed I got said message from a white dude with dreadlocks.

after a considerably dry spell, two dates this week!

first date was nice. might call him again, might not.
second date had to cancel but we're gonna hang next week probs

I didn't want to post it in case I jinxed it but OKCupid sorted me out with a date last Friday and a train ride home Saturday lunchtime. Woo hoo!

Is 2 hours after a painful breakup too soon to reactivate your account? Seems like the only way forward right now.

absolutely not, do it imo

among the most harmless pain salves there is

i'm in this situation right now where i think i kind of fucked things up with this one boy i met off of OKC. we met up and had an awesome time, good sex, etc. we made a date for a few days later, but i was in the midst of my annual spring "allergies are destroying my will to live" week, so i cancelled. then we were supposed to hang out at the anarchist book fair, but that was the day i made a date to hang out with this other boy...and i'm pretty sure he saw me with this other boy, and got kind of butthurt, but i'm like, "come on, both of us hate this 'monogamy' thing."

anyway, now he won't return my texts. guess i'm a dick.

that said, i met this other boy at a party and we've gone from there, and we both really like each other. i'm starting to think that most internet-started relationships in my life are the kind that won't last, and the ones that begin IRL are the ones that will last. is this anyone else's experience? not to piss on anyone's parade.

Internet-started relationships are tough in my experience especially because you're not meeting them in a natural social way, and de facto you're gonna have totally separate lives that might not intersect outside of this weird online dating thing. There's a girl I'm super into right now, but we're kind of having a hard time of it because she has her circles in small town VA and I have my circles in DC and its hard to make them intersect.

That's the biggest issue I've run across, the difficulty integrating into the independent life of someone else that isn't already naturally in your social circle.

you're not a dick btw, he's just a softy

yeah, exactly. like, the boy who i met off OKC— we should run in the same social circle, but we don't. like, we have one fbook friend in common. we live at opposite ends of the same neighborhood (roughly a 5 minute bike ride).

whereas this other boy and i have quite a few friends in common because he lives with two friends of mine, plus we're involved in the same sort of queer activist community. anyway.

what's even funnier is that the OKC boy and i had both seen each other naked (we shot for the same porn company, fwiw) before we met. which is hilarious, but also made things a little 'too fast too quick' type thing, in my own head at least.

Internet-started relationships are tough in my experience especially because you're not meeting them in a natural social way, and de facto you're gonna have totally separate lives that might not intersect outside of this weird online dating thing.

That's the biggest issue I've run across, the difficulty integrating into the independent life of someone else that isn't already naturally in your social circle.

This is super-otm.

like tb status

I mean....I use OKC a lot, yo

lol

hadn't picked up on that!

/soembarassedofmyselfwaitnoi'mnot

just thought i'd mention that i met a fantastic, gorgeous girl on OKC. dating for 3 months now, everything seems to be going great and this is the happiest i've been in years. A+++ would recommend unreservedly.

That's the biggest issue I've run across, the difficulty integrating into the independent life of someone else that isn't already naturally in your social circle.

― BIG HOOS aka the steendriver, Sunday, April 24, 2011 9:18 PM (1 week ago) Bookmark

i dunno, i kind of like this aspect. it's nice to move out of the comfort zone of your social circle. i'm 29 and most of my mates and the women they know are in the process of settling down, getting married, having kids. not the best group of people to meet a partner in. how is this different from meeting a stranger at a club you don't attend regularly, anyway?

pathetic to admit it, but when i meet a new girl i'm interested in, the fewer mutual friends we have on fbook, the more bonus points she gets

a beautiful girl just sent me a haiku on this...pretty much the best message i've ever got. she lives in edinburgh. still...

gr80 so right on that, unless it's they're friends with token people who are friends with everyone and generally represent good company.

Are you going to reply in poetry or prose?

So not coming through for me. No interest in actually meeting anyone just now. Just need nice self-esteem reinforcing messages from reasonably acceptable peeps.

Yeah, I'm getting nothing from this. Not putting anything into though, atm.

Think I just got rejected by \/!3nn4 T3ng!

congratulations?

At this point, I will take it.

congratulations!

Had to google who that was.

I'm irrationally avoiding messaging this one vaguely promising person because at this time of delicate ego, I refuse to engage first. Stupid.

a staggeringly attractive (& convincingly real) woman has emailed me on this website.

does this thing still use the 'woo' system?

this thread got pretty quiet in the wake of the d34thdr0n3 thread

some girl who seems pretty ok has been messaging me on this, haven't decided to meet up

7 months & another 2 relationships further on, I'm back on OKC again again again...

Got it together to invite a guy for a drink. I have some stuff about Russia on my profile (language, music, food - I did my degree in area studies and lived in St Petersburg for a couple of years, went back every year for 15 years or so). He did not have anything Russian-related in his, but in his reply said'are you a real Russian or a fake Russian?' I explained I was a Britisher. Turns out he was born in St P and left when he was five. We had our date in English, then stood on the street speaking Russian for another 20 minutes. He told me I was a totally different person in Russian.

No spark whatsoever.

"We had our date in English, then stood on the street speaking Russian for another 20 minutes. He told me I was a totally different person in Russian."

This is intriguing me to no end. One can actually seem a completely different person when speaking a different language?

(I do believe that to be true tbh - sorry there wasn't a spark)

That's a good story, Ljubljana.

I don't feel like a totally different person, but I do feel a bit different. More extroverted, more mildly flirty. I think it's because I was totally immersed in Russian at a time of my life when suddenly, various factors conspired to make me feel more like that person. But the language itself sort of lends itself, too.

I do really believe different languages lend themselves for different nuances, which in the eye of the other party will make it seem you are acting a certain way you wouldn't if you were speaking in a different way. If that makes sense.

What if I'm a casanova in Han Chinese or a genius in Lithuanian? I may never know.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qMLYTZNmUmw

I've a date on Thursday. Woo!

woooooo

Imo you should listen to a loop of "yakety sax" while browsing this site

lol

the rush of seeing like ten people look at your profile right after you renovate it entirely is kinda nice

Messaging with someone who seems really fun & cool...

Trying to judge whether/when raising the idea of meeting up in person might garner a positive response.

I kind of feel like a dick because I was messaging someone off and on, and then ended up really busy and getting a cold and feeling like a lump and it's been like... a month.