Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

Just sent my first message on OKCupid today - eeeek!

I have a date on friday with someone who msged me from okc just as i'd given up on the whole bag as a lost cause. I've mentioned it elsewhere so I wont go on but god, I'm a little bit of excited and so is he. This feels special.

Oh I did mention him upthread lol. Well, its been a crazy week.

Theres this girl I connected with through this back in like November, we exchanged msgs and she told me she was quitting OKC, but wanted to friend me on FB & exchange #s. We did that and stayed in touch for a while and hung out sporadically, but in the last few weeks we've started texting like all day every day, and we're spendin this weekend together. Hopefully we'll iron out what's goin on here, hopefully somethin's goin on. She's rad and ridonkulously gorgeous and just the right kind of off-kilter so I want to get closer instead of run away.

fingers crossed

hahaha, I deleted my account because I got like zero responses and a day after I zapped it a woman found me *on another website*, said she saw my profile on OKC, and then asked me out.

Um, So I joined okcupid last night and,recieved a message this morning from this dude who says he likes water sports, in a not going sailing or fishing way. I nearly peed my pants (which ironically was what he wanted me to do) with shock.

So, it's given me the creeps a bit. I am quite a laid back person but feel that as a first message it was a bit strong. Okay if I have hung out with you a bit, we could get to talking about it, but up front like that has put me off this whole endeavour.

I will be honest and say I joined to massage my fragile ego, and wasn't expecting that kind of thing so early on!

Sheesh, I think I might be a freak magnet.

hahahaha there are definitely some freaks on this piece

I totally see the funny side, an it'll make a,great story for the pub tonight. However, I am now NEVER going to actually date anybody on this. A word of advice dudes, slowly slowly catchy monkey and then, maybe, perhaps, they'll pee on you ;)

oh don't swear it off cause you got a crazy

that's crazy talk

this is good shit imo

Yeah OKC is full of crazies. But sometimes it suprises you.

I now seem to have a bf thanks to it, so um, there you go :)

*high fives*

I should put a bit more effort into this, I suppose.

Way to go Trayce!

Go Trayce! I hooked up with cuet Michigan girl last night, yay me. +1 OKCers of ILX.

*high fives* all round!

I just got a long email from my OKC boi, and it was romantical and adorable and amazing and made me melt into a puddle.

Not the kind of puddle my okcupid boy was asking for I hope? ;)

Seriously, really happy for you Trayce. It's lovely when you find that "fluffy" connection.

I have disbanded my account, think I will give up on my romantic quest.

Hahah yeah not that kind of puddle ;D Yeah we hit it off via email for a week even before we met up - it just got ridiculously *better* once we met, and it's really blown me away.

Dont give up rosie! Life is weird sometimes but sometimes weird can be good! Pee pee aside.

But on that note, I'm gonna suspend my account now. I dont need it anymore :)

feel awesome for u trayce

I really didn't expect to get so lucky! D:

Way to go Tracey!

yeah my weekend also went mind-bogglingly well ('i had thought you just wanted to be friends' 'i had thought you had just wanted to be friends!' lol) and there might could be a thing happening here

Thats "Trayce" thanking u Tuomas! ;P

PS go Hoos! Things happening all round!

after a considerably dry spell, two dates this week!

i guess hope SPRINGs eternal HAHA GET IT IT'S SPRINGTIME

I was excited cause I got a message, then I noticed I got said message from a white dude with dreadlocks.

after a considerably dry spell, two dates this week!

first date was nice. might call him again, might not.
second date had to cancel but we're gonna hang next week probs

I didn't want to post it in case I jinxed it but OKCupid sorted me out with a date last Friday and a train ride home Saturday lunchtime. Woo hoo!

Is 2 hours after a painful breakup too soon to reactivate your account? Seems like the only way forward right now.

absolutely not, do it imo

among the most harmless pain salves there is

i'm in this situation right now where i think i kind of fucked things up with this one boy i met off of OKC. we met up and had an awesome time, good sex, etc. we made a date for a few days later, but i was in the midst of my annual spring "allergies are destroying my will to live" week, so i cancelled. then we were supposed to hang out at the anarchist book fair, but that was the day i made a date to hang out with this other boy...and i'm pretty sure he saw me with this other boy, and got kind of butthurt, but i'm like, "come on, both of us hate this 'monogamy' thing."

anyway, now he won't return my texts. guess i'm a dick.

that said, i met this other boy at a party and we've gone from there, and we both really like each other. i'm starting to think that most internet-started relationships in my life are the kind that won't last, and the ones that begin IRL are the ones that will last. is this anyone else's experience? not to piss on anyone's parade.

Internet-started relationships are tough in my experience especially because you're not meeting them in a natural social way, and de facto you're gonna have totally separate lives that might not intersect outside of this weird online dating thing. There's a girl I'm super into right now, but we're kind of having a hard time of it because she has her circles in small town VA and I have my circles in DC and its hard to make them intersect.

That's the biggest issue I've run across, the difficulty integrating into the independent life of someone else that isn't already naturally in your social circle.

you're not a dick btw, he's just a softy

yeah, exactly. like, the boy who i met off OKC— we should run in the same social circle, but we don't. like, we have one fbook friend in common. we live at opposite ends of the same neighborhood (roughly a 5 minute bike ride).

whereas this other boy and i have quite a few friends in common because he lives with two friends of mine, plus we're involved in the same sort of queer activist community. anyway.

what's even funnier is that the OKC boy and i had both seen each other naked (we shot for the same porn company, fwiw) before we met. which is hilarious, but also made things a little 'too fast too quick' type thing, in my own head at least.

Internet-started relationships are tough in my experience especially because you're not meeting them in a natural social way, and de facto you're gonna have totally separate lives that might not intersect outside of this weird online dating thing.

That's the biggest issue I've run across, the difficulty integrating into the independent life of someone else that isn't already naturally in your social circle.

This is super-otm.

like tb status

I mean....I use OKC a lot, yo

lol

hadn't picked up on that!

/soembarassedofmyselfwaitnoi'mnot

just thought i'd mention that i met a fantastic, gorgeous girl on OKC. dating for 3 months now, everything seems to be going great and this is the happiest i've been in years. A+++ would recommend unreservedly.

That's the biggest issue I've run across, the difficulty integrating into the independent life of someone else that isn't already naturally in your social circle.

― BIG HOOS aka the steendriver, Sunday, April 24, 2011 9:18 PM (1 week ago) Bookmark

i dunno, i kind of like this aspect. it's nice to move out of the comfort zone of your social circle. i'm 29 and most of my mates and the women they know are in the process of settling down, getting married, having kids. not the best group of people to meet a partner in. how is this different from meeting a stranger at a club you don't attend regularly, anyway?

pathetic to admit it, but when i meet a new girl i'm interested in, the fewer mutual friends we have on fbook, the more bonus points she gets

a beautiful girl just sent me a haiku on this...pretty much the best message i've ever got. she lives in edinburgh. still...

gr80 so right on that, unless it's they're friends with token people who are friends with everyone and generally represent good company.

Are you going to reply in poetry or prose?

So not coming through for me. No interest in actually meeting anyone just now. Just need nice self-esteem reinforcing messages from reasonably acceptable peeps.

Yeah, I'm getting nothing from this. Not putting anything into though, atm.

Think I just got rejected by \/!3nn4 T3ng!

congratulations?