Innocuous things that make you irrationally angry (a list thread)

you shouldn't have to feel like you have to walk on eggshells because of their pussy-assedness. IMO, just keep doing what you're doing until they have the stones to come over and 'complain'.

that said, wtf is the baby supposed to do about the issue, it's a baby, they cry, fuck those neighbors.....

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and we don't just sit there and let the baby cry! we don't want the baby to cry! anytime she cries, we are actively doing all we can to make her stop. and loud thumping noises coming from the ceiling are not likely to help soothe her. aargh.

I have irrational anger today and I dont know why or what at, so it's all leaking out and getting all into areas of my life I am not angry at. I feel bitchy and irritable and defensive but the more I worry about how that's making me behave the worse I get and the feedback loop is giving me a fucking headache.

xpost I mean it's your fucking house, what are you supposed to do, sit in silence? It's one thing if you're like me and you blast kung-fu movies loudly and the neighbor comes over to ask to turn it down...then you turn it down, but I mean even if they're on an irregular schedule, they should understand that everybody else isn't.

A couple of years ago we had a harpist downstairs. Harps are REALLY REALLY LOUD and she'd be striking up at all hours. We spoke to her and said we understood she needs to practise but please don't do it under our bedroom and at stupid hours. She was considerate (after a fashion) for about three months then just lost interest. If ever we get a harpist down there again I'm down there in a flash. Fuck it, we're not having our goodwill abused like that again.

xxpost maybe the IA's all need a group outing for a yearly massage and trip to the shooting range

xp but then we've had an incredible string of arseholes down there. I think I did a list here once.

It is difficult if youre a professional tho. My friend Kat is a concert French Horn player (French Hornist? idk) and she has to practice. Her housemated used to bitch at her cause housemate worked from home or something and wanted peace, I was like ffs dont move in with a musician then?

housemated?

I am really not having a good day. I need to see a brain specialist /mrgumby

that's the thing, i'm a good neighbor! if they came down and said they were having problems, i'd do whatever i could to make things better. i've had noisy neighbors before, I know what it's like. but if they're just going to thump on the floor, fuck em

It is difficult if youre a professional tho. My friend Kat is a concert French Horn player (French Hornist? idk) and she has to practice.

Two points there (mainly directed at this harpist woman but hey):

1. If you're in a block of flats and your instrument is that loud, consider practising elsewhere
2. If you must practise at home, speak to your neighbours at least once, don't slink around avoiding them then blast their tits off with daily noise

yeah I agree with the whole thumping-on-the-floor thing, it's sort of weak. Being nice to people usually gets the best results.

Yeah being pass-agg about that stuff is nagl in the extreme.

In my first flat when I moved out, a friend who visited one day was basically confronted when he went to leave by an angry old man weilding a hammer. Turned out the old cunt was a shift worker and he'd been piss mad at the TV going on at my place innocently in the daytime for WEEKs and never said a word, and just lost it one day at my poor friend paul who happened to walk out my door at the wrong time.

The dude could have just said he was a shift worker, problem solved. Ugh.

Yeah I mean what's everyone supposed to wrap themselves in blankets and wear headphones and eat soup through a straw for fear that one/all neighbors hate noise of any kind and might one day snap?

Shiftworkers need to be telling people these things. Hard enough being a shiftworker, without dealing with noise when you're sleeping. I'd be introducing myself to everyone in the building the day I moved in.

even so though having explained that, you can't expect everyone else to shut down their lives during the day...not blasting music/television is really the most they can.

Iworked rotating day and night shifts, and I just Dealt With It /sunglasses.gif. I mean I couldnt expect my neighbours to be across my ever-changing shifts. I took on the work, I knew what was involved. God, it fried yr synapses living like that for too long though I tell you what.

xxp Yeah, you can't expect everyone to just know that your requirements are abnormal. As usual communication resolves ~98% of conflicts.

We used to pad around the place until we realised no bastard returns the favour so now we just do what we like. We don't make noise late night or anything, though.

Trayce did u ever go on a hammer wielding spree y/n

Oh and we've been wearing earplugs to bed for almost 10 years (even if we had quiet neighbours 'er indoors clicks in her sleep so)

Veg: no, I'd just blearily go to goth clubs right after my shift and dance like a spaz til I was exhausted then go home and sleep for 2 days.

Good times.

lol

worst I've ever done is evening shifts, though that's cuz I've never worked anywhere open after 11 pm

One of my old housemates was a midwife and she usually did nightshift for 3 or 4 go-rounds a year, maybe a month each time. But she was really good about it, she'd tell us a couple of weeks ahead of time, but since we all worked full-time none of us were ever home much during the day and it worked pretty well.

But also, to be honest, normal life generates noise, and if you can't handle that, maybe living in a block of flats is unwise

Many many xp

yea I mean to be honest if someone came up to me and said "hey I'm a shift worker, can you keep the noise down", I'd ya know make sure not to listen to my Motorhead cds at volume 50 at noon, but like I'm not going to inconvenience myself and deny myself the ability to watch television or do things that I usually enjoy just because you work a different shift. Because after all, are you going to make the same accomodation for me?

I dunno, I don't ever think like that. I'd just try to be considerate.

Pro musicians are in a bit of a pickleboat tho. When I was with R, the neighb came over one Saturday - middle of the damn afternoon (and they dont have kids/work nights) to complain that "the bass is coming trhgou the walls". We dont live in a flat, we live in a house. Admittedly the house next door is butted up v close to ours. But R was playing digital music on a PC . I couldnt even hear it from the NEXT ROOM.

The neighbour's a whiny priq.

The time R was emulating Battles tracks VERY LOUDLY with his guitar was extra roffley though. That was prob worth complaining about hahaha :D

what kind of moron shows an Elmo cookie to a 2 year old, a cookie that they are not intending to give to the child.

I'd fucking cry too, ya bastard.

Last night some bloke on Q&A proposed to his gf on national television. ia because

1. it's a sodding political show, it's got nothing to do with you
2. good work giving yr gf a private chance to say 'no' without 600,000 people staring at you

I hate it when assholes are driving under the speed limit in the left lane, and instead of being mr. Light flasher, I pass on the right (legal in FL), and the asshole speeds up to try and not let me pass

when people write "must of" instead of "must've", I get irrationally angry

by which I mean, the degree to which that angers me is wholly out of proportion

you've come to the right place, Dan Perry

But also, to be honest, normal life generates noise, and if you can't handle that, maybe living in a block of flats is unwise

Yes! People have this attitude that no one else in society should impinge on them in any way whatsoever.

Now THAT is a truth bomb. I know I over-play things for lawls on ilx pretty often but in rl I'm really not difficult. But every once in a while I encounter people who think that just because they've told you something once, you shouldn't do it ever again. Boggles my mind.

I had a roommate like that once and in retrospect I was way more shook and WAY nicer than I should've been about saying, "Look, just because you communicated your wishes doesn't mean I'm always going to remember exactly how you wanted that thing. I'm trying. Chill out."

Oh FFS I hate those 'I HAVE SPOKEN' types - I'm likely to 'forget' that kind of edict on purpose. Remembering a nut allergy is one thing but I cannot possibly keep lists of safe subjects and phobias to be skirted etc. Me to those people: 'remember, you can't have EVERYTHING.' Had a flatmate in the early '90s who was very over-entitled in that regard and I finally just started treating all her orders as suggestions to be contemplated and declined politely whenever they were put to me in house meetings. She had a quite babyish voice so couldn't really shout, whereas I can turn it up to 11 and let her know that if it ever went to yelling, she was toast.

there is this group of ppl at work who do talk really loudly. it's a huge, mostly open-plan office floor and my group is on one side and this second group is all the way over on the other. my job requires some concentration because i'm dealing with dates and numbers and legal language. their job is a lot simpler, and when they get bored, they treat their office space like a fucking homeroom. once when i was over in that section, i heard them scoffing about someone who had told them (more than once) to be quiet, like that person was just a hung-up bitch. i guess if i complained i'd get the same brush-off too.

an unrelated ia: people who think it's hilarious when someone orders a normal/quasi-fattening meal and gets a diet soda to drink with it. like "omg, you're so delusional if you're on a diet and you're eating a burger." because no one in the world ever ordered a diet coke just because that's what they like to drink and they enjoy the flavor.

in fact, that's why i've been drinking coke zero: the "diet" aspect in the name was annoying me.

Or because theyre diabetic, or etc

re: the noise thing I had some downstairs neighbors who used to do that when the music was too loud (which, by the way, you could barely hear in the next room, but I did have a sub, so maybe that's it), they'd just like take a broom and bang on the ceiling...I sort of figured that it was them wanting me to turn it down but after the third or fourth time I was just like, wtf it's not that loud, so I just turned it up whenever they did that, figuring they could talk to me directly if they had a problem with me. Eventually I just went down myself to ask what the hell it was all about (leaving the music on so I could hear it myself); it just rattled the light fixtures a little bit, you couldn't hear it unless you listened to it. Ridiculous

Irrationally angry at too many things today. Slept heavily, slept in, feel groggy, lost phone, train ran late, train sat in the railyar for 15 mins with no explanation, weather is muggy, and I am feeling generally like an a-grade fucking tool.

Can I quit this week and start again next week? :S

Yes you may. Tell you boss to blow it out her ear and you'll see her on Monday. If she gives you any guff, send her my email address :)

Hahah :D Ah if only :) Right now I'd quite like to just go sit under a tree in the Botanic Gardens and stare at some ducks for a few hours. Ducks are a good meditation.

Not at all innocuous, but I am beyond irrationally angry about this right now. Went to go use the toilet facilities and some waste of oxygen decided to shit in all three stalls (including the fucking urinal) and then completely fill each toilet to the rim with wadded up toilet paper, rendering each unusable. THIS IS THE ONLY BATHROOM WE HAVE ACCESS TO. So angry.

(including the fucking urinal)

wtffffff

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