Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

slow is good

tremendous sense of value

MegaLOL at this.

A guy I was chatting to on OKC who was nice enough messaged me a while back saying "wow you really weren't kidding about slow replies!"

... cos I'd stopped replying to him :/ Its not just him though. I gave up on okc, it was making me feel weird after the horribly failed dates I went on. I just dont find anyone I like - or when I do, theyre hot, 22 and not at all interested in a message from me I guess.

Heck I even messaged 2 good friends on okc semi jokingly - both of whom I'd date in a heartbeat - and apart from jovial "haha youre on here too!" stuff it went nowhere. In fact one guy even made a rude comment on his twitter about "people you know using okc to message you thats just stupid". erk ok dude I get it.

i have a date this weekend :)

she says on the chat "you can't really see in my pics, but i have quite a big arse."

oh no! anything but that! lololol

― carles II of spain (max arrrrrgh), Wednesday, January 5, 2011 1:39 AM (5 days ago)

it seemed to go really well. she was actually even hotter than her profile pics so i felt a little intimidated, but we ended up talking and drinking for six hours and went for noodles on a whim, so it was all good. hopefully we can meet up again.

yeah dude thats a high quality evening good luck

did she have a big arse

i am in touch with 3 or 4 girls on here atm who are all replying at length and seem interested yada yada, they're just taking 3-4 days between responses. doesn't usually bother me but when it's compounded by the multiplicity of females i feel like i'm waitin forever

i also met a couple girls friday night at a thing which was nice, you know, having a conversation irl

i think the least vulgar way of putting it is she had "a nice figure" :)

xposts

o hoos and his multiplicity of females

sucks when you have a first date that you think went well then *crickets* on any follow-up

yeah thats lame as fuck

last summer i was soooo diggin this girl i met on here and when i got in touch for a follow up she was all 'i have a lot going on right now'

it took me like a full day to figure out that meant 'i am not gonna go out with you again'

i had actually thought she meant 'i'm really busy'

o the innocent ways of the freshly single

sucks when you have a first date that you think went well then *crickets* on any follow-up

― bnw, Monday, January 10, 2011 1:19 AM (2 minutes ago) Bookmark

yeah, that does suck. but right now i'm just gonna be happy that at least one date went well and i wasn't boring the shit out of her or anything.

yeah, you should be. i pulled the "no response" on a girl once and then saw her at a subsequent party. man, she gave me looks like I had killed her family. and now I kinda get it :/

the other night on the train this girl kept lookin at me and it started to dawn on me that she might recognize me from okc cause i thought i recognized her from there lol

^^had one of these when i was living in my old place. v hot in person but her profile made her sound like a moron

also weird is seeing girls on there who you know to be "in a relationship" irl

i met a dude on NYE who was friends with a friend and gave me a ride home and it didn't dawn on me until the next day that we'd had like 4-5 message exchanges on OKC all the way back in 2005! whoooops!

There's a new article posted!

http://cdn.okccdn.com/blog/math_of_beauty/PrisonersDilemmaBig.png

http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/the-mathematics-of-beauty/

Couple comments on here made me feel contrite so I messaged a guy I'd stopped talking to, last night, and apologised for going silent and explained I'd gone off OKC as it wasnt working for me. He replied thanking me as silence responses bug him. They do me too, so I felt a bit bad (he seemed like a nice enough bloke).

You lot all seem to at least get bites/actual meetings. I'm having zero luck. Why can't some of y'all on this thread be in my local area on okc? ;)

http://cdn.okccdn.com/blog/math_of_beauty/PrisonersDilemmaBig.png

It's like Pascals wager, with about the same results.

the other night on the train this girl kept lookin at me and it started to dawn on me that she might recognize me from okc cause i thought i recognized her from there lol

― aka the pope (BIG HOOS aka the steendriver), Sunday, January 9, 2011 7:38 PM (Yesterday) Bookmark

yeah this happens with alarming regularity to me, these days, and i realized somewhat ashamedly that its actually a reason i want off the okc. plus here is a problem i have: i exchange chatty chats with ladies with ladies, because that is polite and what you do if a person approaches you. normally it peters out (they don't write me back, probably because i never 'make a move' and ask to meet irl, which is fine by me), but there is one chick lately who keeps writing short little messages, like the idle chit chat of AIM and w/e, and i'm beginning to think that unless i say 'not interested' (i might be?) or 'occupado' (i might be?), it's just gonna be endless little witticisms.

given that we're talking about the let down---what's the most polite way to say 'nah' to someone you've been talking to in a string of, say, 12 messages (over the span of like four days)? i keep responding because it's just idle chit chat, but in terms of sheer numbers, it could be misinterpreted as serious interest. also she visits my profile...3x a day. i have made a point of ~not~ visiting her profile more than twice since this all started. :-/

reverend dollars i luv u

also did anybody else just receive an offer to "help mod" the site or am i leaving my okc tabs open that often that they think i'm on all the time

lol

You lot all seem to at least get bites/actual meetings. I'm having zero luck.

fwiw hardly anyone msgs me lately (there was a short burst of activity when i changed cities, and i was actively on the site pretty frequently), but i also haven't really been on the site in awhile

Just change little things in your profile often, upload new photos — I notice I get a lot of visitors after I do that.

Yeah I am actually considering killing my profile and starting a new one, doing all the questions again etc. I think my username isnt helping me (calling myself "trayceee" was a joke in 2003 and I cant change the fuckin thing).

I'd be curious to see if my ex bf/housemate N still comes up as my #1-2 match if i redid everything.

Mine is stuck saying I live in a city I don't live in.

Oh fwiw I get a lot of *visitors* - and even the occasional message - but they are 99% from men over 45 who are in no remote way shape or form my type. Middle aged (possibly divorced) accountants just arent my thing.

Nor are overwreight pervo polyamorist roleplayers ugh.

Thinking of creating an okcupid profile
(previously had one, never really populated it, never did anything other than snoop around)

Can never come up with an account name, actually thought of "ex lion tamer", realized that it's the non-punned version of Trayce's current ilx name.

But it's still kind of a funny, because I have been mauled by exes, right?

Hahah thats kind of why I picked ex loin tamer, chortle chortle!

...get coat etc

I'd go on a date with you mh!

I'm not lacking for the possibility of ~dates~ per se, just kind of wondering what sort of local possibilities there are I had not considered. Okcupid-using possibilities.

Oh cripes, I wasnt implying you need dates, I was just being a perv ;)

trayce if you sign up for "A-List" you can change your name. sign up for a month, change it, cancel.

also btw guys guilty confession but if u want a dope username just go pan thru rejected jbr screennames

like i srsly get messages that are just to compliment me on it. i'm such....i'm such a fraud :(

what is yrs?

there is a famous radio show from my state
there is a famous jedi knight

aaaaaaand i've just gotten another message from this chick i'm now kinda leery of?

I would have no idea what kind of clever username to think up :(

Also, I have NFI what I answered for the bulk of the q'ns, it was 6 years ago, so re-doing them would be a wise idea.

me and this one girl are arguing about whitman & nabokov

i feel so

............

stimulated

Walt or Slim?

Slim Nabokov is the best!

lol