Innocuous things that make you irrationally angry (a list thread)

On the envelope, where you write the full name of the addressee, they write 'Adam & Petula'.

Eh? I still don't get what's wrong with this. I write this to all my friends who are couples but don't share the same name for whatever reason.

I changed my name when I married btw (inasmuch as you don't do anything other than call yourself by it), it was the most practical thing and I hate that people think I "mean" something by doing it. If mine had been the less-misspelled one we couldve easily both taken my name.

aaagh as I said upthread they put 'Adam & Petula' on the envelope BECAUSE they're pissed off that she didn't take my surname. Having to explain this is starting to make me irrationally angry btw.

(unless I was unclear in which case genuine apologies)

It's not a warm familial 'oh hai' type of thing, it's expressly disgruntledness that their nephew's wife didn't do what all good and faithful women should do and surrender her identity to her husband.

I still don't understand... what would be the right way for them to address the envelope? both of your full names??

Well yes, if you're following convention.

That would never occur to me as a thing to do if I'm mailing something to a couple.

don't make me explain this again

Well, it's the fact that they disapprove that you don't like, right? If a close friend did the same thing you wouldn't mind? I think that's what ppl are having trouble with. Anyway, if they really wanted to be p-a, they'd write "Mr Adam Surname Esq (and Petula)" or something :)

^ was just thinking that that's maybe how i'd do it, i dunno. it's best i dont write people i think

TS: Disapproving of a wife keeping her name vs Declaring it "selfish" to not want children

thread just went atomic

Well, it's the fact that they disapprove that you don't like, right? If a close friend did the same thing you wouldn't mind?

Yeah, and close friends do do it and we don't mind at all. It's this one woman, she seethes about us keeping our names and is still passively-aggressively making the point nine years later.

xp aaaagh the 'selfish' thing, if I get started on that I WILL go on for hours

xp yeah just regretting that (my friend's mum did the latter, although not to me - it still riles me)

Sooo anyway... escalators, huh!

because srsly how is NOT sprog farming any more selfish than producing a whole human being just because YOU want one? aagh okay I'll stop

ESCALATORS. I think it's when people rush to jump in front of me and then just stand there taking up the entire 1.5m width of the thing that makes me angrier than any other escalatine activity.

The phrase "cool beans". I have no idea why but it drives me insane to the point of getting angry at the person who has said it.

I don't think I have heard anyone say that for years!

good

ok fuck the 'selfish' thing, i'll get behind that anger

1. people taking up the entire width of the sidewalk and walking at a snail's pace, to boot
2. ordering drink at a bar and bartender shoots rude look and says "I CAN'T HEAR WHAT YOU'RE SAYING!" instead of "pardon me?" or whatever else it might be polite to say when you're requesting someone to repeat themselves. y'know, fuck you, aside from the fact that you're working largely for tips, which should be motivation enough to be personable, you could just be human in the situation. the place is not crowded, and i don't enjoy yelling

1. people taking up the entire width of the sidewalk and walking at a snail's pace, to boot

There's a trick to this. Usually the pavement is 5m wide and the person is .8m wide yet he/she manages to prevent egress. Have been trying to unlock the secret for years but have failed thus far.

yeah, it's maddening.

wandering vs walking. When you're in a hurry, sidewalk suddenly becomes Main Street, Disneyland.

the sidewalk

this was my question in oz -- i feel like in the states when people are gonna walk into each other head-on, the standard is to shift to the right. but in australia i wasn't sure -- might it have something to do with driving on the left?

(britishes are all pasty sods, just walked through them of course)

There's no standard in oz, people just magically waft past one another. Frequently there's this crazy dance where two people walk into each other seven or eight times in a row before anyone gets anywhere.

Last month I did this exact crazy dance with an American tourist who asked me what the standard was here. That is when I realised we do not have a standard.

Walking up behind one of them and steppong on their heel so their shoe comes off is a good trick of mine

er I mean, I would think.

oh fuckaxpost

Drives Mr Veg round the twist when we visit Melb. I kind of like the nebulousness, myself. xpost

I've been noting peple drift around on the footpath, lately, and I am such a rapid walker. I'll go to move round them and they'll drift to the right as if blocking me on purpose.

are they wearing suits & dark glasses? watch out for ASIO

I've been noting peple drift around on the footpath, lately, and I am such a rapid walker. I'll go to move round them and they'll drift to the right as if blocking me on purpose.

- People who already own a house/flat and spend a good two hours trying quite forcefully to con you into committing yourself to a $600,000 loan + 25yr mortgage

...who the heck does this?

Bloody every second person I know.

You need to start hanging out with less annoying people imo.

Had it recently. 'No really the market is about to slump by up to 30%, that means you could quite easily pick up a 2br flat in the red grid for under $550,000, you should do it, go on go on go on go on go on go on go on go on' xp yes

Last year we even had a friend get all P-A with us, 'oh if I had a boyfriend who didn't own a house I would dump him'

dag adam you have some fucked up friends!

(says a guy who doesn't own a house)

this has got me thinking about how there are a lot of annoying people in australia.

If someone said 'oh if I had a boyfriend who didn't own a house I would dump him' to me I would laugh very loudly in their face.

This thread is giving me a headache.

I know, it's exponentially worse here because of the whole Great Australian Dream thing. There's an entire generation of Australians who see home ownership as the only indication of success and if you don't own a house you have failed at life.

Well I do agree home ownership is a good aim, its home PRICES that have screwed that up tho.

So I'll have zero living security when I'm on a pension. Just fantastic.

wow it's like oz has become usa x 10 in the worst way

silly me thought the great australian dream was to not be ex-convicts j/k

Both our fathers are the worst of the lot. They've been putting incredible pressure on us for 10 years and they don't ever stop. The irony here is that they both own a billion investment properties, so it's exactly people like them who have inflated the market beyond our means. Okay this is drifting back into rational anger again, sorry.

xp yeah mookie oz is insane now. Property is so falsely inflated here that the prospect of buying anything at all is actually comical.

wow it's like oz has become usa x 10 in the worst way

Dude you can still (apparently) buy huge homes in the US for under $300grand.

Here, in all the big cities, apartments start at that price. Houses are $400k even out in the suburbs. Where I live, a house would set me back 800k easily.

Adam why dont yr father(s) offer to sell you one of their properties?

well, where i live too.

y'all are limited by, in my understanding, the fact that there's no fucking water.

things are cheaper here, but in places that you've likely not heard of and tend to lack jobs.