Innocuous things that make you irrationally angry (a list thread)

I must admit I do get irrationally angry when someone I know gets married and immediately changes her email address to reflect her husband's name

seriously innocuous

When we got married I was right in the middle of immigrating, since I came over on a Fiancee visa. And we'd opened bank accounts and social security cards and what have you all in my unmarried name...we sort of figured, eh, we'll change it when everything's done. It took about 5 years for the whole process to be over with and by then I felt like, I'd moved over here with nothing but a suitcase, and the only thing that I had left of 'me' as I knew myself was my family name. So I was glad I kept it.

Friends & family think that explanation is moronic but whatever. "It's just a name". Okay yeah but why are you so keen on me changing it if it's 'just a name'.

Exactly, 'just a name' is the perfect reason to stfu about it. God traditionalists give me the shits.

Initially P considered hyphenating, and I threatened to hyphenate too because I was buggered if I was going to let some musty patriarchal convention thrust a status shift athwart our relationship. A few hours later she became as irrationally angry as me and resolved to keep her name.

Mr Veg doesn't mind either way. Whichever is the least annoying and hassle-free.

I would've changed my name if I'd married N. I love his surname and mine sucks!

Maybe I should just marry him anyway, lol.

my wife didn't change her name (which i appreciate, actually). it's occasionally been a pain when i have to retrieve a towed car that's in her name, for instance, but whatever. several of my friends like to refer to me as mr (wife's surname).

sure it's this thread, but you (schlafsack) seem to be irrationally *very* angry about a great many innocuous things. calling ppl arseholes for sending you xmas cards? is it an insult that they failed to add yr university degrees to yr titles?

i don't know your family, but if it's really like that you should take this year's xmas cards to the Passive aggressive notes thread.

xp MAYBE

mine sucks!

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nah.

On the envelope, where you write the full name of the addressee, they write 'Adam & Petula'.

Eh? I still don't get what's wrong with this. I write this to all my friends who are couples but don't share the same name for whatever reason.

I changed my name when I married btw (inasmuch as you don't do anything other than call yourself by it), it was the most practical thing and I hate that people think I "mean" something by doing it. If mine had been the less-misspelled one we couldve easily both taken my name.

aaagh as I said upthread they put 'Adam & Petula' on the envelope BECAUSE they're pissed off that she didn't take my surname. Having to explain this is starting to make me irrationally angry btw.

(unless I was unclear in which case genuine apologies)

It's not a warm familial 'oh hai' type of thing, it's expressly disgruntledness that their nephew's wife didn't do what all good and faithful women should do and surrender her identity to her husband.

I still don't understand... what would be the right way for them to address the envelope? both of your full names??

Well yes, if you're following convention.

That would never occur to me as a thing to do if I'm mailing something to a couple.

don't make me explain this again

Well, it's the fact that they disapprove that you don't like, right? If a close friend did the same thing you wouldn't mind? I think that's what ppl are having trouble with. Anyway, if they really wanted to be p-a, they'd write "Mr Adam Surname Esq (and Petula)" or something :)

^ was just thinking that that's maybe how i'd do it, i dunno. it's best i dont write people i think

TS: Disapproving of a wife keeping her name vs Declaring it "selfish" to not want children

thread just went atomic

Well, it's the fact that they disapprove that you don't like, right? If a close friend did the same thing you wouldn't mind?

Yeah, and close friends do do it and we don't mind at all. It's this one woman, she seethes about us keeping our names and is still passively-aggressively making the point nine years later.

xp aaaagh the 'selfish' thing, if I get started on that I WILL go on for hours

xp yeah just regretting that (my friend's mum did the latter, although not to me - it still riles me)

Sooo anyway... escalators, huh!

because srsly how is NOT sprog farming any more selfish than producing a whole human being just because YOU want one? aagh okay I'll stop

ESCALATORS. I think it's when people rush to jump in front of me and then just stand there taking up the entire 1.5m width of the thing that makes me angrier than any other escalatine activity.

The phrase "cool beans". I have no idea why but it drives me insane to the point of getting angry at the person who has said it.

I don't think I have heard anyone say that for years!

good

ok fuck the 'selfish' thing, i'll get behind that anger

1. people taking up the entire width of the sidewalk and walking at a snail's pace, to boot
2. ordering drink at a bar and bartender shoots rude look and says "I CAN'T HEAR WHAT YOU'RE SAYING!" instead of "pardon me?" or whatever else it might be polite to say when you're requesting someone to repeat themselves. y'know, fuck you, aside from the fact that you're working largely for tips, which should be motivation enough to be personable, you could just be human in the situation. the place is not crowded, and i don't enjoy yelling

1. people taking up the entire width of the sidewalk and walking at a snail's pace, to boot

There's a trick to this. Usually the pavement is 5m wide and the person is .8m wide yet he/she manages to prevent egress. Have been trying to unlock the secret for years but have failed thus far.

yeah, it's maddening.

wandering vs walking. When you're in a hurry, sidewalk suddenly becomes Main Street, Disneyland.

the sidewalk

this was my question in oz -- i feel like in the states when people are gonna walk into each other head-on, the standard is to shift to the right. but in australia i wasn't sure -- might it have something to do with driving on the left?

(britishes are all pasty sods, just walked through them of course)

There's no standard in oz, people just magically waft past one another. Frequently there's this crazy dance where two people walk into each other seven or eight times in a row before anyone gets anywhere.

Last month I did this exact crazy dance with an American tourist who asked me what the standard was here. That is when I realised we do not have a standard.

Walking up behind one of them and steppong on their heel so their shoe comes off is a good trick of mine

er I mean, I would think.

oh fuckaxpost

Drives Mr Veg round the twist when we visit Melb. I kind of like the nebulousness, myself. xpost

I've been noting peple drift around on the footpath, lately, and I am such a rapid walker. I'll go to move round them and they'll drift to the right as if blocking me on purpose.

are they wearing suits & dark glasses? watch out for ASIO

I've been noting peple drift around on the footpath, lately, and I am such a rapid walker. I'll go to move round them and they'll drift to the right as if blocking me on purpose.

- People who already own a house/flat and spend a good two hours trying quite forcefully to con you into committing yourself to a $600,000 loan + 25yr mortgage

...who the heck does this?

Bloody every second person I know.

You need to start hanging out with less annoying people imo.

Had it recently. 'No really the market is about to slump by up to 30%, that means you could quite easily pick up a 2br flat in the red grid for under $550,000, you should do it, go on go on go on go on go on go on go on go on' xp yes

Last year we even had a friend get all P-A with us, 'oh if I had a boyfriend who didn't own a house I would dump him'

dag adam you have some fucked up friends!

(says a guy who doesn't own a house)

this has got me thinking about how there are a lot of annoying people in australia.

If someone said 'oh if I had a boyfriend who didn't own a house I would dump him' to me I would laugh very loudly in their face.