Innocuous things that make you irrationally angry (a list thread)

san te seems so angry upthread

I feel a kinship towards San Te.

love when people get irrationally angry at people who apparently have not read every single ILX post ever made, it's so cute

I'm all for people wearing pyjamas anywhere they want, but the fact that it's just this swarm of teenage girls bothers me a lot for some reason.

Like, okay girls you already wear teeny short shorts and leggings and barely enough of any clothes...do you really want to do the 'widdle girl just got out of bed' thing too? Also I am old and crabby and do not care for nubile antics.

http://www.threadbombing.com/data/media/2/brush_girl.gif

ok, that's hella cute

HAHAHA! I think we've found this thread's mascot.

HA

aw

whiney weingarten

The sole reason we still have a home phone is for my mother to call us so we can ignore it. If we didn't have the landline she'd call us on the mobiles and we wouldn't be able to get away from her.

This wouldn't be a problem but she goes ON AND ON AND FUCKING ON about the same four extended family members that we haven't seen in several years and in all likelihood will never see again, and if you say ANYTHING AT ALL she gets all shitty and defensive and broods for weeks. Oh and she is a tory bigot.

(OT obv)

This thread has corrupted me. I just sneezed and immediately got a 'bless you' and now I am irrationally angry.

getting mail addressed to me that presumptively calls me mrs instead of ms really annoys me. the irrational part is that i should be used to it by now since it's still common practice here but i am infuriated every time i see it.

have a blessed day

getting mail addressed to me that presumptively calls me mrs instead of ms really annoys me. the irrational part is that i should be used to it by now since it's still common practice here but i am infuriated every time i see it.

― estela, Friday, 10 December 2010 09:22 (2 minutes ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

We get letters from family members (xmas cards and such) addressed to 'Adam and Petula' because they refuse to acknowledge the fact that P kept her surname. Makes both of us livid.

(her name is not Petula, I made that up)

I mean srsly, if you're thoughtful enough to send us xmas cards why undo it by being a complete arsehole? Makes no sense.

I didn't change my name when we got married but one of my closest friends still sends mail to me addressed to the married name that *I didn't take*

I mean, ffs my facebook profile is still my unmarried name, my EMAIL address is my unmarried name...she knows I didn't change my name, we've talked about it. And she's not some traditionalist who thinks I should. Drives me crazy. and when I ask her why she uses it she just says, "Oh I forgot that you didn't change it'.

annoying more than enragening but GOD

Why is changing one's name the default to that type of person? It doesn't make sense. The default is doing nothing at all. It's exactly like people just assuming you have kids without even asking you oh god now I'm onto the kids thing I should shut up.

'How many kids do you have? Oh, you don't have kids? Did you... was that...' <tail off into the interrogator trying to think of a nice way to say 'WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU'>

Usually at that point I jump in and explain that we don't want kids, and 99.94% of the time the response is 'ah, well, there's always time to change your mind'

SEE NOW I AM IRRATIO0NALLY ANGRY AGAIN

I mean srsly, if you're thoughtful enough to send us xmas cards why undo it by being a complete arsehole? Makes no sense.

On a tangentially related note, this reminds me that I wanted to stick an xmas card under my next-door neighbours' door but then I remembered that I can't spell her name and have completely forgotten his name (yes, I suck at the whole neighbourly thing, but they have been fielding my post and signing for it, so they are good people)

referring to you as Adam and Petula <> being a complete arsehole. those are your names (well, not petula's).

if shit like this makes you 'livid', it is indeed surprising that anyone bothers to send you xmas cards.

cf: thread title. "innocuous" and "irrational" are the key words here.

spacecadet: maybe you can address the Christmas card to "MY ESTEEMED NEIGHBORS" or "TO WHOM IT MAY CONCERN THAT LIVES NEXT DOOR TO ME"

"All at no. 36" had sprung to mind (they have some sprogs too whose names I have never been told, probably) but I feared its "shit, I don't know your weirdy foreign names"-ness was a little too transparent

perhaps a bottle of cheap wine and a knock on the door is easier

xxp Yeah what's with people repeatedly missing the point of this thread.

mkproof, they know her surname but they deliberately omit it because they disapprove of her decision to keep it. I hate everything about xmas cards btw.

spacecadet: INTERCEPT THEIR POST

that is a cunning idea, but I think our mailboxes are too robust, and also an Eastern European couple in the UK probably have 98% of their incoming mail wrongly addressed anyway, given that I have about 60% and have no particularly unusual letters in my name

I think delivering a bottle of plonk in person is a solid idea.

Do you need to borrow a cup of sugar? Because you could rock up to the door and say 'hi Brian, can I plz have one (1) cup of wait Brian is your name isn't it'

Logic being that getting his/her name wrong is probably more dignified than sending a xmas card to 'dearest neighbour'.

Ooh that's pretty sneaky. I like that.

Yeah, cunning wording should get you through that one. Don't address the card, and on the inside kick off with 'MERRY CHRISTMAS! I just wanted to thank you so much for blah blah blah...'

xpost x-many

Venting bc of bloody work: innocent email asking a single question, which you answer. 5 minutes later, an email asking for more data. Which you provide. Then person reveals reason for askign both questions which you could have answered at the beginning. On a daily basis. Actually their entire company does this, i think it's part of their training.

Instead of dashing off random thoughts on your blackberry, how about you actually take a moment, figure out what it is you REALLY need and ask for that instead of pussy footing around for an afternoon. Just for a laugh, let's pretend for a while that that emails pollute the environment & you need to conserve them.

RARRRR.

mkproof, they know her surname but they deliberately omit it because they disapprove of her decision to keep it.

Hang on hang on this doesnt make sense.

Are you saying the envelope says "Adam & Petula Surname"? Or the inside of the card says "dear Adam and Petula" because FFS, thats normal. Theyre not going to address you as "dear mr and mrs surname, have a great xmas!" on an xmas card.

petula surname is a great fiction name imo

I want to do a load of English language misuses but none of it is innocuous and all of it makes me rationally angry.

xp ahahaha yes

Are you saying the envelope says "Adam & Petula Surname"? Or the inside of the card says "dear Adam and Petula" because FFS, thats normal. Theyre not going to address you as "dear mr and mrs surname, have a great xmas!" on an xmas card.

― manic pixie dream girl phenomenon (Trayce), Friday, 10 December 2010 11:12 (3 minutes ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

On the envelope, where you write the full name of the addressee, they write 'Adam & Petula'.

For about 15 yrs Telstra sent bills addressed to 'Mrs Adam Surname', I don't know which is worse.

We get letters from family members (xmas cards and such) addressed to 'Adam and Petula' because they refuse to acknowledge the fact that P kept her surname. Makes both of us livid.

Haha, today a wedding invite from John's stepbrother came in the mail, addressed to "John and Abb13 [his last name]." I thought: they don't really know or care about us at all. It's better than his stepbrother's mom, who not only calls me by my husband's surname, but still misspells my first name after ~5 years of me gently correcting her. She's a weirdo, though. She only calls John's mom "The Mother," like she's a character in The Wall or something.

Example sentence: "Tell The Mother that she needs to stop this codependent, toxic relationship." This woman makes me irrationally angry, actually.

wow. Passive aggressive much? She sounds like a treat.

My in-laws had a whole conversation in front of me about me changing my name, operating on the assumption that of course it wsa something I planned on doing. Eventually I just lost my temper and pointed out that I had no plans on doing any such thing. I'm right here. How about you ask ME?

Name-changing or not is such a non-issue in 99.5% of my life, it is maddening when it's an issue for such a small minority of people. GET OVER IT.

SOmehow it's okay with me when my mom and dad write letters addressed w/my first name and his last name, though. Like 'awwww, they are still too Mormon to recognize any other possibility.'

xxxp aaagh people who misspell people's names after five years of reinforcement get on my tits (again, rational anger therefore OT)

However, when my parents write checks with my first name & his last name like that...that gets tricky. I've been telling bankers "uh I just got married" every xmas and birthday for 2.5 years.

My inlaws did that when we first got married . Our stupid bank wouldn't accept the check and we had to get them to void it and rewrite the check.

Weird, appaz in Aus women can use either name (or both, hyphenated) without changing paperwork and legally it's fine.

I must admit I do get irrationally angry when someone I know gets married and immediately changes her email address to reflect her husband's name. I'm all 'aaargh why don't you just strap an ironing board to yoself aaaagh' (unless her née name is Cockpants or something in which case I completely get it).

(true story: a friend of ours got married and changed her name from something with 'cock' in it to the sexiest Scottish surname ever, so obv we were 100% supportive)