"Can I say you're my girlfriend on Facebook?"

i dunno - there are a lot of updates I miss from people I care about because my friends list is kinda big - having a bunch of random people i've never met and probably never will meet, but who are friends of friends, would just add to the clutter.

Thats why I was adding ppl and just hiding their posts... then I decided that was daft, and I defriended a whole bunch of ppl (old ex workmates, people from an IRC channel I havent been on in 10 years, friends of friends Ive never met etc) and now I've basically stopped accepting requests unless I really know someone.

Way to have sex

yeah, i don't hide or defriend anyone really, unless they're someone that i have a major falling out with and seeing their name/pic makes me want to punch things, namely them.

Wow, today I got friend requests from a coworker at Taco Bell (worked there at age 16) and a coworker at Burger King (worked there for 3 weeks at age 19). And both people are at those respective places of employ. I love my home town.

http://gawker.com/5678843/facebook-ceos-halloween-treat

pretty otm

http://gizmodo.com/5679129/facebook-helps-predict-when-youre-likely-to-get-dumped

Facebook status updates can be creepy and revealing, but they can also help predict when you're likely to find yourself dumped. Naturally, there's good news and bad news to be found in the data.

...

Apparently David and his team looked at about 10,000 Facebook status updates and searched for patterns related to break ups. Their discoveries? You're very likely to get dumped on Mondays, right before Spring Break, two weeks before Christmas, and at some point before the summer holidays.

discovered what I guess is a new slightly creepy feature called "see friendship".

seeing this now too, also annoyed that i can't hide "elections" posts

Gap will give away 10,000 pairs of free blue jeans for the first 10K people to check in to Gap on Facebook Places.

'x number of sleeps till I do something fun' SHUT UP

Ugh I hate those. Even worse when they dont elaborate. "Three days omg!"

It's largely the ubiquity of the term 'sleeps' that riles me.

just read this status update:

food (words) for thought: y'all ever notice that "lol" looks like a dude who's drowning? I don't think he's laughing out loud. lol

http://i55.tinypic.com/2pz9nr6.gif

http://holycrapthatsfunny.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/03/drowning.jpg

Gmail RIP?

http://www.businessinsider.com/facebook-email-2010-11

just came here to post about that

Given Facebook's miserable record with privacy issues and their tendency to force "features" on users, there is no way I will use Facebook email. I get creeped out enough when Google starts serving ads based on the content of my emails.

Is Facebook going to offer Docs, Maps and a Voice service? No? And even if they did, would I want my semi-private stuff anywhere near Facebook's security record? No.

I don't think Google needs to worry (yet).

i havent used it yet, but doesnt their new groups functionality offer rudimentary group editing of some sort?

"Lifeguard Sleeping, Girl loling"

and a major problem with facebook e-mail will be that most of the people we give our e-mail addresses to are not people we want to necessarily know on Facebook.

I hadn't even thought about that but so so OTM. Here, potential employer, have my resume and a link to my FB page so you can find out the color of my soul, my favorite TV shows, and which of Henry VIII's wives I am most like.

"A fellow fan of 'Columbo'? Oh, I can't let this applicant slip away."

Given that Facebook has already replaced email for many younger Internet users--and become the "start-page" and communications hub for many of the rest--it makes great sense for Facebook to offer a full-fledged email product to become the very thing it made irrevevant.

*irrelevant,

although irrevevant, too

So at least six months ago, and probably more, I unfriended a guy who was a friend back in my wild days because he grew up into a hardcore pro-war type and I got tired of having to read about putting boots in the asses of various Muslim countries every time I logged on to FB. and he just tried to re-add me, which I would have ignored, but also sent me a message asking why I unfriended him and I don't know what to say. "Our shared past is an insufficient bond to overcome how repellent I find your ideologies?" That just seems kind of harsh.

Also I think part of my issue here is that I get kind of bummed when people that I knew who used to have some amount of imagination and curiosity about life grow up to embrace hardcore redneckery in tiny, boring towns in Delaware and take up hunting and boat ownership and conservative politics, and that makes me feel like a snobby jerk.

people like that i usually add and hide. what happened to the apps btw? i was really liking my simple last.fm app

Embrace some redneckery.

current people i am considering hiding: people who constantly post "SAVE THIS DOG" links. if i wanted a dog, i would already have one. you should assume that most of your facebook friends probably have all the dogs they want. and if they don't, they probably know where the humane society is.

separate subject: how many unresponded-to friend requests do you let pile up before you just tear through them on a mad binge of rejection? i've got 78 in the queue and it's making me twitchy. i don't know why i don't just immediately ignore them. i guess it's because i'm in a relatively small city, and a lot of these are "mutual friends" of lots of my other friends, and there's kind of this sense of, oh maybe i'll find out who that person is and they'll be cool and i'll want to be their friend, but that would be awkward if i've already rejected them... but that's pretty stupid, i guess.

i pretty much respond immediately 99% of the time

if i kinda sorta know you i add you basically

The people who'd be offended by a refusal are best kept in limbo. It's totally passive-aggressive but then, in many cases, so is the request itself. As to the mutual friends adding you before you've actually interacted with them, you don't really owe them anything. You could mention to the friend in common that X added you but you don't add people you've never met and hope it filters back.

My tween cousins are in my feed and occasionally go on sprees of liking and quizzing that MUST be hidden.

ok i just not-now'ed the lot of them. i feel better.

Embrace some redneckery.

I literally embrace redneckery every time I hug someone in my family.

This FB email thing is nuts. FB already emails me everything it burps up.

I got my FB email setting stripped down to event invitations, which is all I really need to know.

as long as the new facebook mail lets me forward all that stuff to gmail ill probably be okay with it

i accept everyone i sort of know, but i clean house at least once a month and delete people who have not given me a clearer idea of how i know them or why i should keep them around...

these days the only people i don't know who i'll accept are people who have interesting stuff posted on their walls. if it's all about vol football, forget it. (even worse, like one i bounced today, if it says "i only use facebook for professional reasons, as a representative of [name deleted] PR agency.")

loooooooool

sounds like theyd post some pretty great stuff

press releases in your newsfeed

I literally embrace redneckery every time I hug someone in my family.

embrace redneckery > hug snobby jerkery

foodies > klansmen

holy shit yall

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