"Can I say you're my girlfriend on Facebook?"

Yeah, and apparently hitting "not now" lets pending people look at your stuff until you make The Big Decision about them.

But on mine, it's like I'm not allowed to make that decision at all.

Not now doesn't let them see private stuff, but they will see anything that's public (this can be more than you think)

If you go into the requests page you can delete all hidden requests.

i got my first parental friend request a week or so ago. it's in limbo but so not gonna happen. they haven't mentioned it since.

It's not random but it's people that have the most mutual friends with you, I believe. Same thing when you're on someone else's profile and their "random six" are usually people you also know or have friends in common with.

I'm looking at the sidebar now, and it has shows one person with whom I have 57 mutual friends, and another one with whom I have 3. So this doesn't seem to be true.

three or four of the six will be people you have mad friends in common, and then two are randoms. That's almost always the case.

I have alternate facebook accounts that I use to check what can be seen on my main one, just to make sure I'm not leaking

Not now doesn't let them see private stuff, but they will see anything that's public (this can be more than you think)

I've said this before somewhere but this confuses me - if the stuff is public, anyone can see it anyway, regardless of wether they friendreq you or not, right?

I dont think ive ever made a "public" FB status update. Mine are all locked to "friends only", with a subset filter applied so that certain family memmbers/ppl I dont know are locked out totally and never see anything I say.

Also dayo thats a great idea.

i wonder if you look at a bunch of other friends' photos that don't contain an ex or a crush if it would put facebook off the scent?

I'm sorry but can I just:

God has a way of getting our attention! One of the miners said that he'd never prayed until he was trapped underground for 67 days. The day you hear God's voice, harden not your heart! He stands at the door and knocks. Let Him in so you won't have to knock to get out of a predicament!

REALLY???? God got this guy's fucking attention by STICKING HIM IN A HOLE FOR months??? Of all the smug, self-righteous bullshit I just don't even.

Between this doorknob and the guy who can't stop talking about how awesome Christine O'Donnel is, I'm about to go on another defriending spree.

Kudos to Gr8080 for posting that what Chile calls "33 men trapped in a mineshaft, a national drama", China calls "April."

Except the Chinese don't bother drilling them out.

ILX spoke, Facebook listened

http://www.cnn.com/2010/TECH/social.media/10/20/facebook.ex.photos.mashable/index.html?iref=NS1

Facebook is doing its very best not to make you terribly sad.

You see, it used to constantly show you photos of your ex, which might have reminded you just how great things were before he or she dumped you, but it has stopped that now. Exes no longer show up in the "Photo Memories" box.

Photo Memories appear in the top right corner of some Facebook pages, including the Friends and Photos sections.

They show your friends tagged in photos long-forgotten, but the friends shown are picked using Facebook's algorithm for figuring out whose updates you're most interested in.

too bad for some/most ppl that's often their exes

Yeah also how would FB know its an ex anyway?

Was wondering that myself.

i mean, they would know if it's someone you had been romantically connected with on FB, but if the relationship was pre-FB or you weren't "official" on FB - i can't see how that'd work.

Haha, now that would be just fuckin' sick if Facebook keeps tabs on whom you've changed your relationship status with and posting pictures of them on your "Memories" wall.

Well played, Facebook. Well played.

I'm telling you, it knows.

I read another article that did specify they'd hide people who you previously had set to In A Relationship With on fb so yeah, does nothing for romances over 4-5 years old..

You should be able to retrospectively add relationships in a similar way to how you add previous employers and school/college history.

^^ or the way the Mormons baptize dead people?

"Can I say you were my girlfriend on Facebook?"

They really should develop this option.

i'll show you a social graph

I look forward to it.

The only person I ever *have* been "in a relationship* on fb with still comes up regularly on my memories feed, so bollox to that claim, FB. We're still mates and still post on each others walls and shit tho so I dunno.

What's difficult for FB as a company, I would think, is that the things people say they want from the site are balanced out by other things people want but don't express, and are contradictory e.g. "Respect my privacy, FB (but don't take away the fun of snooping on friends and strangers plz)" or "introduce more features and open up the site more (but don't let it become "like myspace")"

Thin lines.

I don't even have a damn memories feed.

Its not its own page, it just slews photos down the righthand side on some random pages, kind of like it does with ads or events or "you might know this person". Its seems a bit random as to where it displays it.

haven't seen photo memories in forever

http://www2.thedailybeast.com/blogs-and-stories/2010-10-18/the-facebook-news-feed-how-it-works-the-10-biggest-secrets/

dope huge popup

http://i51.tinypic.com/2s156hc.jpg

Awww sorry I'm on my phone so no pop up :S

hahaha it's not yr fault dude, it's the Daily Beast's!

Daily Savage Beast

photo memories likes to show me pictures of my gf with her exes

which file under 'things i would rather not see most every single time i am using a computer'

Kid died videotaping Notre Dame's football practice. His last words are in the pic.

Extremely windy on campus today. Apparently the tower he was up on blew over into the road and he was killed. Check out his last two facebook statuses. Terrible.

http://i52.tinypic.com/jjsnlv.jpg

O_O

the two comments at the bottom of that jpg are like the final immutable epitaph of social networking

Was leaving a "Happy Birthday" comment on a friend's wall today when I discovered what I guess is a new slightly creepy feature called "see friendship". This button (which appears w/your post on some walls) takes you to a page containing indexes of every wall post you've made w/that friend (and vice versa), every mutual friend, every mutual "like", every relevant photo you've appeared in or commented on, every event you attended together, and links for similar pages for both you and other friends, and other couplings of your friends.

I should also note this is not limited to your own friends, as you can also pull up pages for friends of friends.

i don't see it. the only thing i get is "see wall-to-wall". maybe it hasn't reached me yet.

dear fb, please stop putting my crushes in my top news feed

I haven't clicked on their profiles in forever and am ignoring them

thanks

hide them dayo!!!!!!!!!!

i don't see it. the only thing i get is "see wall-to-wall". maybe it hasn't reached me yet.

It might be the new version of w2w.

dear fb, please stop putting my crushes in my top news feed

I haven't clicked on their profiles in forever and am ignoring them

thanks

― dayo, Saturday, October 30, 2010 10:57 AM (2 hours ago)

and the photo memories thing made me realize - "Wow this guy sure takes a lot of pictures."