Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

although if i'm anything to go by, if there's someone i click with online, anybody else i'm talking to is kinda...deprioritised, shall we say - i'd imagine most people are the same, so if yr having rly upbeat regular chatz with someone it's reasonable to assume you are the one they are concentrating on too

DEFINITELY.

i don't get the "their" comment

emil.y and kate mithering upthread

you don't know if it's a girl or not?

but yeah exciting times for ilx's london bachelor brigade - autumn is truly the classy season for romancing imho

gf has moved down to college for a year, considering this tbh

KIDDING, sheesh

you dog

he just wants an excuse to objectify women imo

gonna be doing a lot of objectifying women yh

by that i mean we the strapping menfolk of ilx

i thought you wanted the woman to use the strap-on, L?

Stop this, right now.

― Andrew (enneff), Friday, 25 August 2006 12:46 (4 years ago)

sorry - i got confused about whether i was posting in this thread or the pubic interest one

squeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee ok you guys. EVEN GIVING ME EMPLOYMENT TIPS

dude i gave you employment tips!

objectify u-35 men as possible recruits for five a side a lot quicker and more ruthlessly than i objectify any other category for any other reason tbh

so like you look at them and say, "have you seen the ass on that one?"

squeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee ok you guys. EVEN GIVING ME EMPLOYMENT TIPS

You're becoming a live sex show performer, Louis? With pegging as your specialty?

in one

<3 Christine!!

so like you look at them and say, "have you seen the ass on that one?"

not a prerequisite for a decent five a side footballer tbh

:-B

my god - ilx can you bear with me for the next 4 or 5 days as I attempt not to jinx the most so-gonna-happen thing of my life

That depends. Can you shut up about it for the next 4-5 days in an even better attempt not to overthink/overdiscuss it which will effectively be jinxing yourSELF?

that is sage advice, not a word more

so gwan who is she?

http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2009/03/18/article-1162554-03F75F34000005DC-698_468x328.jpg

storming her castle on yr white steed

I wish you good luck with her.

oh god i have to go on a date today

protip -- try escalating to aim after a few messages if yr feelin it. its more casual and no more anxiety over writing/waitingfor replies

or just meet them IRL

christ I can't sleep I'm so excited

agreed lewis IRL is the ultimate goal but a lot of people are still too apprehensive about the whole 'internet dating' thing to escalate that quickly. YMMMMMMV

Hm. The guy I met on OKC who is reasonable and nice enough has just finally admitted to me that he is schizophrenic. :/

He seems aware of it and managing it and etc but OH BOY do I not want to go there.

I had a friend in my 20s who went mad and he was a nightmare.

That's a tough one.

I mean, there's a bit part of me that wants to give the lecture about how mental illness is just the same as any other disability and there is no illness that is quite so maligned and creates such negative (and also incorrect) stereotypes and misunderstandings as schizophrenia. And that you should really try to judge your wanting to date someone on *their* *current* behaviour rather than past experiences with other people.

But I know from experience that a lot of people just aren't willing to "go there" as yeah, it kinda does come with the expectation that there may be more work/understanding/adjustment than in the relationships you've been used to.

This just in:
It's really quite sweet that someone wrote to me complementing me on the uniqueness and intelligence (?) of my profile. Though the subject title "OMG, you have a brain" and the dismissal of the other women he's been looking at as "being into pink bunnies and the Jeremy Kyle show" is really somewhat belied by his misspelling of the mathematical term and film "Pye".

Not that I have a problem with mispellings. I misspell things all the time. It's just that slagging off other people for being thick (and a slightly arrogant attitude going with it) combined with something that to a more pedantic person would look, well, more than a bit thick... really NAGL.

I suppose he could just have done it to test my own pedanticness in the hopes that I'll write back correcting him...

Also, I'm quite sure I am probably a horrible person for noticing this. :-(

pretty sure it's pedanticity :)

Good thing I'm not actually a pedant and don't give a shit.

pedantitude

pedance

here's a bit part of me that wants to give the lecture about how mental illness is just the same as any other disability and there is no illness that is quite so maligned and creates such negative (and also incorrect) stereotypes and misunderstandings as schizophrenia. And that you should really try to judge your wanting to date someone on *their* *current* behaviour rather than past experiences with other people.

Yeah this. Look, I'm admiring this guy for fessing up (if its true - I havent met him but no one would admit to this if not true!).

I've had schiz friends before, I couldnt handle them. I suffer from depresson myself - i'm not strong enough to bolster someone else's issues,

That said this guy seems very aware of his illness and lucid and across it, which I find quite ingrigueing, I get to ask him about what its like. But I dont want in on that world :/

Yeah, I've had friends with schizophrenia too. I would totally not blame you for that being a deal-breaker.

No one ever *wants* in on that world. Trust me.

I'm just saying ask the questions, find out what it's like before making the decision.

Sorry, that came out way more snarky than it was intended.

And looking at my "pye guy"s profile, he does actually look quite sweet, really. I'm going to try and make a conversation starter out of it rather than be a pedant out of it and see if he reacts in a "ha ha oops" way or gets butthurt.

I should probably clarify, now I think about it, that I wasnt really into the idea of meeting this guy anyway even before this came up. So I dont feel to conflicted; it can just stay an online friend thing, prob.

Its odd. He doesnt seem ... unwell, you know? The only odd thing thats happened so far is a conversation we had that got very out of hand (tmi wise) that he now claims to have no recall of, so theres that.

Unless its some bored guy yanking my chain and theres nothing wrong with him.