abortion classic or dud?

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yes, i suppose i could save my original supposition by saying that this thread doesn't really conform to an argument as such. As Tom says, it was more like coping with a haywire robot than a dialogue between people who actually understand/care about what the other is saying -- a pre-requisite for any fruitful argument. now i want to say something rude about momus. best not.

Alan (Alan), Wednesday, 2 October 2002 09:35 (twenty-three years ago)

I can't belive someone would enlist people from other boards to argue this - it just seems so pathetic and sad. What does it prove, and whose mind has been changed? And even from a debate standpoint el-c far from "won".

Nicole (Nicole), Wednesday, 2 October 2002 09:41 (twenty-three years ago)

Nicole I think what Kiwi did was totally reasonable - it's an issue he cares a lot about and he didnt feel he could 'hold his own' against some of the people here. "Struggle with moral issues" is v patronising however, even though of course a lot of the people here do struggle with them, they just end up in a different position from Kiwi's.

It strikes me that technology will eventually provide a solution to the 'abortion question' by making it the norm for human infants to be conceived and gestated outside of a human womb.

Tom (Groke), Wednesday, 2 October 2002 09:54 (twenty-three years ago)

Perhaps, but understandably that 'norm' translates as 'the norm for those who can afford it' -- and doesn't that just open up a new can of worms...

Having said my piece all that way above, I figured I would just watch from the sidelines as El-C complained and all. Sorta sad, really.

Ned Raggett (Ned), Wednesday, 2 October 2002 11:35 (twenty-three years ago)

Kiwi's belief, though, that El Catracho "destroyed the best ILE had to offer" by refusing to actually enter into a debate is utterly mystifying; I think what Kiwi means is "you steadfastly refused to actually enter the debate and thereby frustrated a few people, good show old bean"

J0hn Darn1elle (J0hn Darn1elle), Wednesday, 2 October 2002 11:39 (twenty-three years ago)

Hi Ned,

Actually, I've figured I'd just watch from the sidelines as you all complained about me with your little ad hominem attacks. I think I'll just sit back and pour myself a nice tall glass of lemonade. Yawn...sorta sad, really.

Enjoy.

El Catracho, Wednesday, 2 October 2002 11:47 (twenty-three years ago)

*scratches head in bemusement*

Ned Raggett (Ned), Wednesday, 2 October 2002 11:52 (twenty-three years ago)

if anyone from either side of the debate has thought about this, or considered a different point of view then el camatcho has won, and so has everyone else. if no one did, then, perhaps, some people got to win by fleshing out their opinion and being confident and forceful with it. i'm not sure.

gareth (gareth), Wednesday, 2 October 2002 11:54 (twenty-three years ago)

Hey Ned,

Martin said that I'm the one that is supposed to be smug, not you.

El Catracho, Wednesday, 2 October 2002 11:55 (twenty-three years ago)

or, i suppose it depends on how you define 'win'

el camatcho hasn't made me change my mind at all. but then, is that down to my inflexibility or el camatchos lack of persuaveness. do i feel like i've been 'defeated'? its difficult for me to think in such terms with an issue like this. i haven't been able to accept any of el camatchos points (but then he could say the same in reverse). is an argument like this 'winnable'? should it be?

gareth (gareth), Wednesday, 2 October 2002 11:57 (twenty-three years ago)

*peers at screen some more, shrugs*

Ned Raggett (Ned), Wednesday, 2 October 2002 11:58 (twenty-three years ago)

ad hominem = against the person. maybe some people were doing that, others were questioning your ability to reason and argue. and rightly so.

Alan (Alan), Wednesday, 2 October 2002 12:10 (twenty-three years ago)

This debate is the closest ILX has ever come to resembling a USENET newsgroup. This is not a compliment.

It strikes me that the mindsets of both "sides" of this conversation are sufficiently alien to each other that it shouldn't come as a surprise that everyone is walking out of this thinking that the other side is incapable of reason or logic.

Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Wednesday, 2 October 2002 12:34 (twenty-three years ago)

Dan is totally right about USENET - the breaking of posts down to components as a way of ignoring the overall point; the reductio ad absurdem stuff; 'Socratic' as a synonym for 'evasive'; the final triumphant citing of 'ad hominem' combined with the bizarre Usenet-standard belief that one a.h. "attack" somehow invalidates everything else that's been said - it's all a terrible flashback. Nobody has mentioned Godwin's Law yet though sure enough look upthread and there are the Nazis!

Tom (Groke), Wednesday, 2 October 2002 13:04 (twenty-three years ago)

Ah yeah I was a bit naughty getting help, lets be honest me vs Sinker, Tom and Nabisco is harldy fair and its not as if any of you guys are going to help me out

I am dumb . cheers kiwi

Kiwi, Wednesday, 2 October 2002 13:36 (twenty-three years ago)

It strikes me that technology will eventually provide a solution to the 'abortion question' by making it the norm for human infants to be conceived and gestated outside of a human womb.

"Damn Jenny, that's a huge zit you've got on your forehead."
"That's not a zit, that's MY BABY, you horrible person! *sob*"

Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Wednesday, 2 October 2002 13:57 (twenty-three years ago)

El Catracho never answered my question and it was a fair one i thought.

the actual mr. jones (actual), Wednesday, 2 October 2002 17:08 (twenty-three years ago)

''This debate is the closest ILX has ever come to resembling a USENET newsgroup. This is not a compliment.''

phew...i'm glad i wasn't 'around' back then if this was the case, week in week out.

Julio Desouza (jdesouza), Wednesday, 2 October 2002 19:37 (twenty-three years ago)

I am going to simply repeat my post from upthread. IF the greater minds of ILE "lost" any debate (and no I have no interest in reading what anyone above said to El-C and vice versa) with anyone on this increasingly idiotic thread it was almost solely because the focus of the argument was shifted from the ONE essential unassailable fact of the abortion debate to the ludicrous metaphysical question which the Right to Life movement has based its entire existence upon. Focusing on questions of "life" where abortion (as a political and legal issue anyway) is concerned is a lose-lose situation for anyone who believes in the fundamental right of a woman to control her own pregnancy.

The repeat:

"Abortion is great (as in INCREDIBLY fucking CLASSIC). Questions about when life begins are stupid. There is NO compelling reason to force a women to carry a child to term. Any argument which distracts from that ARGUMENT is a bullshit one."

So if anyone on THIS board or ANY other board wants to focus on that FUNDAMENTAL question without resorting to the same tired smoke and mirrors of "when does life begin" then does so. But I guarantee that THIS is an ARGUMENT that you cannot win.

Alex in SF (Alex in SF), Wednesday, 2 October 2002 21:33 (twenty-three years ago)

I'm sort of with you, Alex, but I don't think it's possible to separate those two arguments. You can draw the following recent narrative out of the abortion debate:

1. Supreme Court says it's okay to do.
2. Some people say "b-b-but that's murder!"
3. (Murder is still officially bad.)

I.e., the objection that's being raised is that the act is a "murder," and as such shouldn't be allowed no matter what negative effects that may have on anyone else. And since the number of people raising that objection is a significant one -- and since that's their sole central objection -- you can't really have much of a discussion with them without responding to that objection.

nabisco (nabisco), Wednesday, 2 October 2002 21:46 (twenty-three years ago)

In other words, it's silly to call that question "smoke and mirrors" insofar as smoke and mirrors obscure the point, and for many people that is exactly the point, that a person is a person from conception onward and that you're not allowed to kill people.

(It's absolutely fine to say "well the Supreme Court disagreed so shut up cause I don't want to hear about it," but then you really shouldn't enter the discussion in the first place.)

nabisco (nabisco), Wednesday, 2 October 2002 21:49 (twenty-three years ago)

I really wish you could hear yourselves sometimes. In particular, a group of men, piling words upon words in an effort to win/score points/bolster ego/whatever. As a woman and ardent pro-choice advocator, I understand the necessity to debate and clarify this profoundly complex issue, but very few of you appear to have any ability to empathise or at the very least, have some level of emotional understanding of the subject. It all comes across as cold, overly-intellectualised and on occasion, unmindful of the fact that however much you try to downplay the fact, there is a huge emotional component to all of this, be it negative or positive.

Tatyana, Wednesday, 2 October 2002 21:54 (twenty-three years ago)

(hear, hear.)

jess (dubplatestyle), Wednesday, 2 October 2002 21:59 (twenty-three years ago)

Well, Tatyana, you'll notice that this thread has, unsurprisingly, been made mostly about the moral and legal aspects of abortion, two areas in which emotional reactions don't contribute to very useful discussions.

nabisco (nabisco), Wednesday, 2 October 2002 22:04 (twenty-three years ago)

emotion vs reason dichotomy?

di smith (lucylurex), Wednesday, 2 October 2002 22:06 (twenty-three years ago)

Yes and on a few occasions, when several people tried to introduce a more human aspect to the debate, it was quickly passed over in an effort to score a few more intellectual points.

Tatyana, Wednesday, 2 October 2002 22:07 (twenty-three years ago)

One woman described her personal experience of termination and she wasn't even acknowledged. She was totally ignored as the boys got on with the debate. Fucking sickening.

Tatyana, Wednesday, 2 October 2002 22:13 (twenty-three years ago)

Of course, several women on this thread have offered firsthand accounts of the experience, all of which have been overshadowed by a legal/ethical debate to which they're not particularly germane -- which isn't to say that they're not relevant, but that the experience of the act in one of a million variations doesn't necessarily help evaluate the morality of the act in the abstract.

That said, I think it would be interesting to have a thread that's not "abortion: right or wrong" but actually "abortion: personal experience thereof" (which is how this one sort of started out).

nabisco (nabisco), Wednesday, 2 October 2002 22:13 (twenty-three years ago)

And I don't see what's sickening or surprising about the fact that those contributions weren't commented on extensively.

nabisco (nabisco), Wednesday, 2 October 2002 22:16 (twenty-three years ago)

Extensively? She wasn't even acknowledged.

Tatyana, Wednesday, 2 October 2002 22:18 (twenty-three years ago)

there is something troubling about womens bodies being rationalised about by men, but since most of the people here are in full support of women controlling their own bodies, its not something i would choose to make a big deal of.

di smith (lucylurex), Wednesday, 2 October 2002 22:19 (twenty-three years ago)

It seems to me, Tatyana, that what keeps arguments like these from becoming more "human" is a certain amount of natural sensitivity on the part of the posters...the people who shared personal stories relating to the topic certainly added depth to the argument, and I don't think it's that they were purposefully passed over in a rush to get to the intellectual stuff, but instead were only briefly acknowledged so as not to pry into or to argue with people's individual (and highly emotional) experiences.

Sadly, I feel that this argument, if it's ever won, will have to be won by cold, hard, undeniable logic (though I doubt, unfortunately, this will ever happen, especially since you can't logically argue against the existence of an abortion-hating god), because too many of the people fighting against it will NEVER be able to understand or to empathize with the emotions involved...

nory (nory), Wednesday, 2 October 2002 22:20 (twenty-three years ago)

Also note that part of the debate above was whether our ideas about an ethical question are meant to derive from personal experience, consensus, higher power, etc. -- in essence, to work out just how much bearing a personal/emotional experience has on an ethical issue as a whole. (So I guess I'm wondering: are you saying you think the emotional aspect does have bearing on the ethical question that became the central discussion? Or are you saying we should be less interested in the ethical question and more interested in personal experience?)

nabisco (nabisco), Wednesday, 2 October 2002 22:21 (twenty-three years ago)

With all due respect Nory, I don't see a whole lot of "natural sensitivity" at all, that's my argument.

Tatyana, Wednesday, 2 October 2002 22:24 (twenty-three years ago)

Tatyana's points are exactly why I don't like joining abortion debates.

Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Wednesday, 2 October 2002 22:29 (twenty-three years ago)

Also, Di, it's worth noting that there's only a male/female issue involved here if you proceed from the premise that abortion is morally fine. I sort of do, personally, but the people everyone is arguing with here would argue that "murder" is "murder," of male and female "potential lives," and that there's no sex bias involved in a man telling a woman not to murder someone, etc.

Tatyana: I was sort of vaguely in agreement with what you were saying earlier, but now I'm starting to think you can sort of fuck off -- you really have no idea how any of us feel about those posts, and it's rude and presumptuous to pretend that simply because we didn't openly express our feelings about them we must necessarily have none.

nabisco (nabisco), Wednesday, 2 October 2002 22:30 (twenty-three years ago)

I totally disagree with you, Nabisco. There are TWO completely separate issues at work here: the political/legal one and the personal/moral one. The problem is that the latter is almost entirely USED to undermine the fundamental viability of the former. The "when does life begin" question must be answered by EACH individual considering an abortion, it SHOULD not be used to undermine the fact that EACH individual MUST have the right to be able to make ask themself the question if the circumstance arises. And that Tatyana is also why I am not particularly concerned (on this board anyway) about the emotional/human component of abortion, because the emotional component is often just used as another tool which certain people use to undermine the fundamental political fact of abortion (i.e. "there is NO compelling reason to force a woman to carry a child to term.) This is not a wholy PERSONAL issue. Abortions are NOT provided by anyone in 80% of US counties (and the percentage rises to 90 someodd percent in rural areas!) So sorry if I appear callous or cold, but in MY country this is a debate that me and my friends are losing and vulva or no, I am not going to concede it without a fight.

Alex in SF (Alex in SF), Wednesday, 2 October 2002 22:31 (twenty-three years ago)

Goodnight gentlemen, I'm "fucking off"

Tatyana, Wednesday, 2 October 2002 22:38 (twenty-three years ago)

Alex, you're reasoning from the initial premise that you're already right! The whole reason there is an abortion debate is that some people believe life definitively begins at conception, that there's no relativity or personal-decision to be made concerning that, and as such that abortion is "murder" and should not be allowed. You don't want to argue with those people -- in fact, you're saying that they should shut up, because the more they say that the harder it becomes to support the established legal right of women to make their personal decisions on the matter. But they're saying it, and if you want to argue with them you have to address that point! (You're only saying "we all have the right to make the decision on our own" -- but their argument is "no, we shouldn't, we morally can't." You're negating them, not arguing against their claims.)

So you're right: they're using their moral decision on the matter in an effort to change the legal status of it. You can just say "no fair" to that, sure, but don't bother saying it to them.

nabisco (nabisco), Wednesday, 2 October 2002 22:39 (twenty-three years ago)

(And many apologies, Tatyana: I figured someone who would describe other people's behavior as "fucking sickening" could handle a little "fuck off" in return.)

nabisco (nabisco), Wednesday, 2 October 2002 22:41 (twenty-three years ago)

I think the natural sensitivity can be inferred to exist in most of the men posting here, because of their obvious pro-choice viewpoints, and because of the arguments they've made. I'm not saying anyone shouldn't have been acknowledged, but really, how much could have been said (especially by a guy?) in acknowledgement? What can you say other than, "That's terrible, I really feel for you, I hope you're okay now." I'm sure that, had that woman told her story to these posters in real life, many of them would've given her a hug...but it's so difficult to type a response that doesn't seem trite.

Though I DO think it's a shame that the emotional element can't be a larger portion of the debate (its bearing on the ethical question, Nabisco), but I'm fairly positive that the powers-that-be (primarily men) sitting in some conference room or court room or white house discussing the possiblity of "reinterpreting" Roe v. Wade or some other such nonsense are not going to accept an empathetic, emotion-based stance.

nory (nory), Wednesday, 2 October 2002 22:42 (twenty-three years ago)

Not to imply that all men can't get the emotional part.

nory (nory), Wednesday, 2 October 2002 22:43 (twenty-three years ago)

I most certainly can, but I have a very early start in the morning.
Sorry for delay in responding, I was seeing to my child.

Tatyana, Wednesday, 2 October 2002 22:48 (twenty-three years ago)

Yes, you're right, men can't get the emotional part fully, nor can women who haven't faced this type of situation. All I'm saying is that some men can empathize about it better than others.

nory (nory), Wednesday, 2 October 2002 22:56 (twenty-three years ago)

I'm relieved to see I haven't scared you off entirely, Tatyana: that wasn't meant as a serious "go away," but it is very frustrating to have others make assumptions about how you may or may not feel about something (not to mention my being generally sick of the attitude that anyone who tries to discuss something on a hyper-rational level is obviously an emotionless self-aggrandizing prick).

For the record, my response to those posts ran about how Nory outlined it: I don't pretend to have had anything to say in response to them beyond the most generalized sympathy and good wishes (and approval). If you look at the beginning of the thread, you might agree that it would have run more in the direction you were asking for, if not for the arrival of posters who vigorously objected to the ethical premise of the thing as a whole (no matter what the circumstances, understandable, empathisable, or not).

nabisco (nabisco), Wednesday, 2 October 2002 23:36 (twenty-three years ago)

so how many googlers we going to get?

Mr Noodles (Mr Noodles), Wednesday, 2 October 2002 23:38 (twenty-three years ago)

Nabisco, I AM negating their ARGUMENT (I said MANY times I don't belief their ARGUMENT is important) and their ARGUMENT is an ATTEMPT to negate (or deflect attention away from) my argument. And the FACT is that the premise that LIFE begins at conception can't and shouldn't be argued because FUNDAMENTALLY it is not the most important issue at play in the debate surrounding abortion (again as a political issue). And guess what, Nabisco, "they" are winning! They are controlling what is even being debated! And their ARGUMENT is limiting access to abortion and circumventing and undermining what is, for the moment anyway, the law of the land. Don't talk to me about arguing fair, this isn't about "fair". It's about control and it always will be.

Alex in SF (Alex in SF), Wednesday, 2 October 2002 23:52 (twenty-three years ago)

Okay, Alex, I think I'm just really really poor at stating my positions lately, because this is another one of those instances where I feel like we're just agreeing: what you just said, above, is what I meant when I said the other option was just to ignore their moral objections entirely. In that sense I completely agree with you: "we" have already "won" on the legal end, and the objections of a vocal opposition shouldn't undermine that clear decision. All I really meant was that it's not worth arguing that to them, as it doesn't address their concerns. But yeah, in the legal and political sphere I'm all for shelving that moral debate and enforcing what even Ashcroft is forced to describe as a "settled" ruling.

nabisco (nabisco), Thursday, 3 October 2002 00:09 (twenty-three years ago)

Actually there was some acknowledgement - check Martin S and 'the actual mr jones' posts. As a moderator of ILE one of the things I'm proud of is the amount of community feeling and general niceness that often comes out when a poster shares something like this, but generally this is best seen when it happens at the start of a thread, rather than when a debate's got up a full head of steam (even if it's going around in circles). I thought the posts were interesting and brave, but also out of my experience in terms of offering a comment - apologies on behalf of the boards to anyone who thinks they were treated insensitively.

Tom (Groke), Thursday, 3 October 2002 04:36 (twenty-three years ago)

This would have been a hopeless thread if all we had done was sit around sympathising with the bad experiences described. I mentioned that feeling, and I received some sympathy for my (sort of secondary) bad experience, but debate was forced in a way that really demanded logical, rational response (even to people not willing to engage honestly), and that did determine the course of things. Tom is right about the atmosphere here, and Nabisco is right that the thread could easily have gone another way. I do think Tatyana is unfair in taking rational argument as indicating a lack of sympathy - some of us do our best to get good at rationally arguing about this matter because we feel so strongly, not as some substitute for emotion but as an extra weapon in the fight.

Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Thursday, 3 October 2002 19:34 (twenty-three years ago)


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