Craigslist hilarity

or making shit up on craigslist because bored

must be depressing to view all social interaction as transactional

the part about how he got the big girl laid deserves some kind of award for bullshit

CAD that's harsh IMO - I can identify with this guy even if I wouldn't do what he did, and I'm pretty sure that while he was interested, he took a moral stance for his own reasons

horseshoe he wasn't in opposition to that custom but this one girl annoyed him and for whatever reason he flipped at her - dude's probably been burned by someone he liked once too often and too young to deal w/ it

um he's saying how he DOESN'T want to view it as transactional tbh

sorry lj i'm reading the part about how spending his time and money on a girl "entitles" him to one of three things

moral what? from what i understand he strategically deploys a category of woman deemed unfuckable by him in this anecdote for...what reason, exactly?

god i just found the part about how the sex would have been bad anyway

it's good to not mind buying drinks for women and it's also good to not mind at all outwardly and not mind too much inwardly if it doesn't pan out for ya

if this guy is smart enough to write a 'coherent' 800 word essay about his adventures not buying this girl a drink hes smart enough to understand why he shouldnt--no sympathy

LJ, if you're uncomfortable with the custom of dudes buying drinks for women in bars, i feel you to a certain extent; dudes buying me things makes me uncomfortable tbh, but i don't think this dude is who you want to align yourself with.

um he kinda backtracks even on that and the things are v general - in point 3 he rails HARD against the custom of drink as sexual transaction

horseshoe you are correct to say I am uncomfortable with the idea one can ply someone with drink and curry favour thusly - I don't like bars and I don't like chatting people up when they're drunk, but yeah this guy's nutzoidness, while sweet, is a bit too much

i dont think anyone but this guy actually thinks thats buying a girl a drink is a trade for sex

xp but he views the entire thing through an overly sexualized frame to begin with--like, he couldn't just have a chat without getting hung up on how it might lead to him getting fucked

wish it wasn't an image so i could c+p the weird things he says about sex

nothing sweet about that rant, man

CAD he's overthinking it, he's young, he's both turned on by the idea of sex and also hesitant to go through with it due to burgeoning moral quandaries - I sympathise STRONGLY with that position

whoa where are you getting all that stuff

read it again, dude; it's not what you think it is

lol xp

haha though rereading the post two things to consider: the guy is in salt lake, and this is the second post in a week hes written about buying girls drinks

also the sheer volume of the post. on craigslist.

Louis yer a good guy but in this case you keep bad sympathetic company. I will now go to a club and get involved in an awkward situation related to social conventions so you forget about this guy.

I'm reminded by this (actually I think I said it in our other feminism debate, but fuck it I only have about five stories) of being appalled by my right-on forward-thinking male friends casually talk about their 'two minute rule', by which if you go past two minutes of chatting to a girl in a club without her making it clear that you're getting sex tonight, you are free to walk off. Like guys really, all of this stuff we agree on yet you can think this?

guys who desperately want people to notice what gentlemen they are are not in fact gentlemen, and usually their anger at that fact not getting noticed comes out in vv interesting ways

yeah totally :/

sry lj, i'm just not seeing it dude.

three things cad is not sympathetic abt:

1) not having your shit together unless there are actual bad problems in your life
2) being cheap
3) overthinking it

"the two-minute rule"

like, that's the sort of shit I find repellent, but I think this dude is cackhandedly trying to combat it maybe?

omar once again seems to be on or around the money - and it's good advice for me as well

hahahahahaha CAD that kinda describes me circa right now :D

:)

well this thread was useful for a few things - kate and suzy dropped some science about Feministing and Omar gave me lyfe advice, wd say I'm in credit tbh

i don't like feministing. fwiw.

how's that for lyfe advice

i don't like feministing. fwiw.

― the girl with the butt tattoo (harbl), Tuesday, August 3, 2010 9:11 PM (32 seconds ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

haha i was thinking of launching into a tl;dr post about how a feminist blog that meets with my approval has yet to come to my attention but i figured who gives a shit.

the best feminist blog to read are the posts i write for gawker, and you should email them to all your friends, every day, over and over

if the ladies of ilx launched a blog i would read it, it wouldnt even have to be about feminism

it's called "no boys allowed in the room!!" iirc

harbl, u should start a blog. for me!

and it always feels like SNOOPING when I glance at it

also harbl that is lyfe advice I will bear in mind when I read Feministing articles - "apply yr own judgement" altho my judgement is in need of fine-tuning so w/e

louis i think you should join the army

i have a blog but it's a microblog, it's going to be hard for you to see unless you have a powerful microscope

i will get one!

jk it's a megablog, you might be able to read it from space

woo i am really tired where are all these dumb jokes coming from

harbl make a tumblr

harbl.tumblr.com

i will "reblog" you

haha i was half-wondering if a microblog was a real genre i should be aware of

it's not, right?

grown so old

That buying girls drinks thing = the world of single people is a total mystery to me

The only reason that thing is even sort of funny to me is it's in Salt Lake City, where the drinks have v little alcohol in them.