Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

he is probably secretly addicted to meth

I am pretty sure Dr Casino must be otm.

Well, "regularly" might make it sound like you're a several-times-a-day kinda person. And there's nothing wrong with that - I used to go out with a woman who got high at least three or four times a day (meanwhile graduating summa cum laude) - but I could imagine more casual smokers not thinking of themselves in that category.

wtf am i meant to do with a "wink"? i don't think i have the patience for this method of meeting girls tbh.

Yeah there are fields i just wont ever fill in on any website - and theyre ones that would compromise my career or reputation.

So tomorow I have my first OkCupid date...

I've gotten a couple of other odd messages lately but I got this one from a girl yesterday:

"hi! saw that we live in the same city. I was just wondering, I think your hot and I would like to hang out with you. if you want to, lol. u know what you dont even have to reply to this, I will just give you my address and you can come visit me this sunday if you want to. come after 9, I will leave the door open for u. my address is *censored*. hope to see u soon...-Ashley"

Wish me luck, guys. :)

LATER

This is her:

http://i42.tinypic.com/23lbpjc.jpg

The guy responds to skeptics

"holy fuck no, at least talk to her for a bit first"

I thought about it, but...it's kind of exciting to know so little you know? I figure I have to take some risks anyway, live a little.

"I know you are trolling but you are gonna get raped."

I hope so. ;)

...

Alright guys, time to do this. Will post story later.

yeaahh this is a plot out of a Law and Order/The Closer episode

dude never comes back alive.

where do you find this shit cunga

From a private message board. Occasionally I'll check the site for topics/threads that are popular, and it always turns up gems.

dude hasn't logged back in since yesterday afternoon. Hopefully he's not in a ditch somewhere.

He is in jail.

SEX JAIL.

still hasn't logged back into his account btw

cops got him

He still hasn't logged in yet.

Probably aren't many computers in the dungeon where he's being kept :-/

So date 2, lots of references to lots of drugs in the past, but not so much now I think. Didn't ask any more - timing was terrible, just after a horrible row at work, couldn't focus.

I had an exchange of about 3 short e-mails last week. I have't started a 4th yet because I tend to see something on anyone's profile and think "it will never work". However, my long streak of singledom is telling me that I should take my chances, e-mail Jane Doe a few more times and see if I can arrange a fun little meeting for us. Would you all call the first meeting a first date?

Yes, in the most casual possible sense of 'date'. But no need to say 'date' in the email. Just talk about it as meeting up.

it's only a date if you bang them

so much for the phrase 'not on the first date'

just thought Lorax might want to know that in case he feels like forcing the issue

Well of the few times I had met folk off the web in the past I never called it a date... but for technical purposes it's nice to know ~Thanks

Well, depends where on the web. If it's a dating site...

I don't actually think I should take the piss on this thread any more. Too much bad karma.

How many pleasant okc dates with the same person, ending in 'see ya then yep ok see ya' (rather than 'it was kissy') are ok, before the more interested party can reasonably start to think 'put up or stop contacting me'?

Obviously depends on the people, but I am thinking for most people it's about 3 or maybe 4.

2

2 or 3

minutes

2 eh? Dammit. I like this person very much but he unnerves me slightly. Just need a bit more time.

:-) xpost

Some ppl like to take their time, I wouldnt worry overly... but its all about the body language and how they react, too, I think. I wouldnt know, its been years since ive had to go on a date and the very idea is making me feel ill and depressed.

unnerves? How so?

Hard to pinpoint. Might just be nerves. Awkward silences where there should be none? Prob my fault as much as his!

I sometimes fall back on standard questions--(so you like--- hiking, indie movies, music , travel to x...) when silence occurs.

"do you like to fart? are you crazy?"

"so, there's this one ralph wiggum scene, let me ask you..."

cool people write conversation topics on their hand

"so, there's this one ralph wiggum scene, let me ask you..."

LOL so trying this on the next date I end up havening.

Just got an IM out of nowhere at 3 in the morning! She's 21 and a largish state away and just messaged me because she couldn't sleep either, was bored and I came up as a match, so it's obviously not going anywhere, but it helped knock some of the rust off my conversational skills. And now I can get my 4 hours of sleep with a less shitty attitude.

So. Moved to a new city less than two weeks ago, updated my zip code and did nothing else with OK Cupid. End up getting two v. cute girls messaging me. I go out with the first, twice now, and we've hit it off remarkably well, some excellent chemistry, it's very cool. However, before the second date where we really hit it off, I made a coffee date with the second girl. That's tomorrow, and while obviously I'm doing absolutely nothing wrong, I'll be damned if I don't feel screwy and two-timey about it.

Someone yell at me for being neurotic, plz.

You are being neurotic. I am yelling, though you cannot hear me because I am way the hell over here on the other side of the internet.

Yeah make the most of it while you can, for srs :/

Thanking u. My old broody lonely self is kinda not prepared to accept that things are going pretty well atm so I'm kinda looking for things to feel shitty about, I think.

I should probably shut the fuck up.

I'd rather 2 new dates than scraps from the ex Im still living with who is breaking my heart imo.

Ugh, that suuuuuuucks, I'm sorry Trayce. I had an ex living with me for awhile, I ended up moving into my uncles' place for a few months while still paying all the rent, as that shit is untenable.

Yeah, you're being neurotic but I do the same thing so it's cool. Seriously tho - - you have no 'relationship' with the first girl where you'd be two-timing her, and plus the whole premise of your endeavors here is that you're new in town and trying to meet people - - you should feel really great about the fact that you've got more than one thing on your social calendar! Bravo!

She's 21 and a largish state

Hurry up and get on that before ESOJ does [/Pato]

21 bit young for me these days

:D

fwiw I met someone incredibly promising on this yesterday but I'm not going to say any more.