2 of my high local matches are my ex, and my best mate D. Hahah oh dear :/
― Eyjafjallalalalalatrolololol (Trayce), Thursday, 22 April 2010 04:52 (fourteen years ago) link
lots of 40+ polyamory types
Ughhh I see those around too. I think OKC is very heavily used/promoted in poly circles, certainly in Aus it is.
― Eyjafjallalalalalatrolololol (Trayce), Thursday, 22 April 2010 04:53 (fourteen years ago) link
Now my thoughts are wandering back to last night's date. Interesting. I'm not normally one for the slow burn.
― ljubljana, Friday, 23 April 2010 01:15 (fourteen years ago) link
:D
― sausage s4rgent (acoleuthic), Friday, 23 April 2010 01:17 (fourteen years ago) link
Just got my first, so far only profile visit. She's probably fleeing in horror after setting her computer on fire.
― a black white asian pine ghost who is fake (Telephone thing), Saturday, 24 April 2010 03:32 (fourteen years ago) link
Second date being lined up. I am thinking that leaving 'drugs' blank means 'yes, I love drugs'? This could be an issue.
― ljubljana, Saturday, 24 April 2010 03:35 (fourteen years ago) link
Are you ok with them liking certain drugs, or are they all deal breakers?
― kissogram powers (Abbott), Saturday, 24 April 2010 04:18 (fourteen years ago) link
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ci9jA_4O3GI
― mookieproof, Saturday, 24 April 2010 04:24 (fourteen years ago) link
Tbh I know very little about drugs, so this has to be mostly prejudice. I'd be fine with occasional pot. I mean, like with alcohol, it all depends on how the person reacts to it, right? I don't think I'd be ok with acid or e if they were very regular, but it's hard to articulate why. Maybe it would be fine if I didn't have to deal with it! Heroin I think would not be ok, but there again I'm generalising to what it does to people I see on TV.
I guess I'm just assuming that not answering the question implies 'a lot' as opposed to 'a little'.
― ljubljana, Saturday, 24 April 2010 12:44 (fourteen years ago) link
don't think there's any prejudice in saying heroin user is a deal breaker tbh
― sonderangerbot, Saturday, 24 April 2010 12:51 (fourteen years ago) link
What's the protocol on kids? I think if you have them, you should probably say so. This guy has a 17-y-o daughter but left 'kids' blank. (He did tell me about the kid without prompting, so it's not like he was trying to hide the fact once I met him). That's why I'm concerned about him leaving 'drugs' blank!
― ljubljana, Saturday, 24 April 2010 13:02 (fourteen years ago) link
Prolly just means they smoke pot but don't want to put that on a website, I think.
― Doctor Casino, Saturday, 24 April 2010 15:17 (fourteen years ago) link
^^^ this
― GREAT JOB Mushroom head (gbx), Saturday, 24 April 2010 15:20 (fourteen years ago) link
I smoke weed 1-2 times a week, and I think I left the drugs field blank, too. Saying I do drugs "regularly" seemed like a lie and saying never was obviously not the truth, either.
― homosexual II, Saturday, 24 April 2010 16:19 (fourteen years ago) link
How does that seem like a lie? Sounds pretty regular.
― Nhex, Saturday, 24 April 2010 16:40 (fourteen years ago) link
he is probably secretly addicted to meth
― harbl, Saturday, 24 April 2010 16:58 (fourteen years ago) link
I am pretty sure Dr Casino must be otm.
― ljubljana, Saturday, 24 April 2010 17:18 (fourteen years ago) link
Well, "regularly" might make it sound like you're a several-times-a-day kinda person. And there's nothing wrong with that - I used to go out with a woman who got high at least three or four times a day (meanwhile graduating summa cum laude) - but I could imagine more casual smokers not thinking of themselves in that category.
― Doctor Casino, Saturday, 24 April 2010 17:21 (fourteen years ago) link
wtf am i meant to do with a "wink"? i don't think i have the patience for this method of meeting girls tbh.
― snakebite and a passable pinot noir (Upt0eleven), Sunday, 25 April 2010 13:02 (fourteen years ago) link
Yeah there are fields i just wont ever fill in on any website - and theyre ones that would compromise my career or reputation.
― Eyjafjallalalalalatrolololol (Trayce), Monday, 26 April 2010 04:26 (fourteen years ago) link
So tomorow I have my first OkCupid date...
I've gotten a couple of other odd messages lately but I got this one from a girl yesterday:
"hi! saw that we live in the same city. I was just wondering, I think your hot and I would like to hang out with you. if you want to, lol. u know what you dont even have to reply to this, I will just give you my address and you can come visit me this sunday if you want to. come after 9, I will leave the door open for u. my address is *censored*. hope to see u soon...-Ashley"
Wish me luck, guys. :)
LATER
This is her:
http://i42.tinypic.com/23lbpjc.jpg
The guy responds to skeptics
"holy fuck no, at least talk to her for a bit first"
I thought about it, but...it's kind of exciting to know so little you know? I figure I have to take some risks anyway, live a little.
"I know you are trolling but you are gonna get raped."
I hope so. ;)
...
Alright guys, time to do this. Will post story later.
― Cunga, Monday, 26 April 2010 05:14 (fourteen years ago) link
yeaahh this is a plot out of a Law and Order/The Closer episode
― Nhex, Monday, 26 April 2010 05:16 (fourteen years ago) link
dude never comes back alive.
― ian, Monday, 26 April 2010 05:25 (fourteen years ago) link
where do you find this shit cunga
― sausage s4rgent (acoleuthic), Monday, 26 April 2010 12:41 (fourteen years ago) link
From a private message board. Occasionally I'll check the site for topics/threads that are popular, and it always turns up gems.
― Cunga, Monday, 26 April 2010 15:38 (fourteen years ago) link
dude hasn't logged back in since yesterday afternoon. Hopefully he's not in a ditch somewhere.
― Cunga, Monday, 26 April 2010 15:45 (fourteen years ago) link
He is in jail.
― ENERGY FOOD (en i see kay), Monday, 26 April 2010 15:46 (fourteen years ago) link
SEX JAIL.
still hasn't logged back into his account btw
― Cunga, Monday, 26 April 2010 20:33 (fourteen years ago) link
cops got him
― Nhex, Monday, 26 April 2010 21:03 (fourteen years ago) link
He still hasn't logged in yet.
Probably aren't many computers in the dungeon where he's being kept :-/
― Cunga, Tuesday, 27 April 2010 18:24 (fourteen years ago) link
So date 2, lots of references to lots of drugs in the past, but not so much now I think. Didn't ask any more - timing was terrible, just after a horrible row at work, couldn't focus.
― ljubljana, Sunday, 2 May 2010 01:30 (fourteen years ago) link
I had an exchange of about 3 short e-mails last week. I have't started a 4th yet because I tend to see something on anyone's profile and think "it will never work". However, my long streak of singledom is telling me that I should take my chances, e-mail Jane Doe a few more times and see if I can arrange a fun little meeting for us. Would you all call the first meeting a first date?
― CaptainLorax, Sunday, 2 May 2010 19:40 (fourteen years ago) link
Yes, in the most casual possible sense of 'date'. But no need to say 'date' in the email. Just talk about it as meeting up.
― ljubljana, Monday, 3 May 2010 01:38 (fourteen years ago) link
it's only a date if you bang them
― sausage s4rgent (acoleuthic), Monday, 3 May 2010 02:14 (fourteen years ago) link
so much for the phrase 'not on the first date'
― tambourine pants (electricsound), Monday, 3 May 2010 02:15 (fourteen years ago) link
just thought Lorax might want to know that in case he feels like forcing the issue
― sausage s4rgent (acoleuthic), Monday, 3 May 2010 02:17 (fourteen years ago) link
Well of the few times I had met folk off the web in the past I never called it a date... but for technical purposes it's nice to know ~Thanks
― CaptainLorax, Monday, 3 May 2010 03:07 (fourteen years ago) link
Well, depends where on the web. If it's a dating site...
― ljubljana, Monday, 3 May 2010 03:17 (fourteen years ago) link
I don't actually think I should take the piss on this thread any more. Too much bad karma.
― sausage s4rgent (acoleuthic), Monday, 3 May 2010 03:18 (fourteen years ago) link
How many pleasant okc dates with the same person, ending in 'see ya then yep ok see ya' (rather than 'it was kissy') are ok, before the more interested party can reasonably start to think 'put up or stop contacting me'?
Obviously depends on the people, but I am thinking for most people it's about 3 or maybe 4.
― ljubljana, Monday, 3 May 2010 03:37 (fourteen years ago) link
2
― tambourine pants (electricsound), Monday, 3 May 2010 03:37 (fourteen years ago) link
2 or 3
― ksh, Monday, 3 May 2010 03:48 (fourteen years ago) link
minutes
― sausage s4rgent (acoleuthic), Monday, 3 May 2010 04:00 (fourteen years ago) link
2 eh? Dammit. I like this person very much but he unnerves me slightly. Just need a bit more time.
― ljubljana, Monday, 3 May 2010 04:49 (fourteen years ago) link
:-) xpost
Some ppl like to take their time, I wouldnt worry overly... but its all about the body language and how they react, too, I think. I wouldnt know, its been years since ive had to go on a date and the very idea is making me feel ill and depressed.
― Eyjafjallalalalalatrolololol (Trayce), Monday, 3 May 2010 08:01 (fourteen years ago) link
unnerves? How so?
― curmudgeon, Monday, 3 May 2010 20:01 (fourteen years ago) link
Hard to pinpoint. Might just be nerves. Awkward silences where there should be none? Prob my fault as much as his!
― ljubljana, Monday, 3 May 2010 22:58 (fourteen years ago) link
I sometimes fall back on standard questions--(so you like--- hiking, indie movies, music , travel to x...) when silence occurs.
― curmudgeon, Tuesday, 4 May 2010 13:58 (fourteen years ago) link