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A better reason to be attracted to someone: You have spent some time with them, and either not felt alienated, or have felt alienated in a pleasing way.

― Casuistry (Chris P), Tuesday, 7 March 2006 22:23 (twenty years ago)

I don't understand. Are you rejecting physical attractiveness as a criterion for being... well... physically attracted to someone? Or are you rejecting your own reaction to finding someone attractive?

― Shiny Maroon (kenan), Tuesday, 7 March 2006 22:24 (twenty years ago)

I am off to see the movie. More about this later, maybe!

― Casuistry (Chris P), Tuesday, 7 March 2006 22:25 (twenty years ago)

I don't want to sound shallow, but I enjoy having sex with people that I want to have sex with. Not as much people I don't.

― Shiny Maroon (kenan), Tuesday, 7 March 2006 22:25 (twenty years ago)

But Chris has also said that he's done with sex.

― jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 7 March 2006 22:27 (twenty years ago)

Unquenchable thirst. I don't know why this is mainly an associated with aesthetically pleasing things/people. Maybe because of the illusory nature of outward beauty? If you find someone's mind attractive then there is more room for digging? If you are captivated by a beautiful body and face then you can try to dig and dig, but it's like teflon clad diamonds or something? I do think that it's important to be physically attracted to your partner, but too much beauty is frustrating.

― unclejessjess (unclejessjess), Tuesday, 7 March 2006 22:27 (twenty years ago)

You just have to reason with yourself. Next time you see a guy that makes you get all sticky, just think, "Eh... he's probably a meathead anyway" and don't bother with him.

― Shiny Maroon (kenan), Tuesday, 7 March 2006 22:29 (twenty years ago)

I guess the guys I'm most holistically attracted to are guys who I feel are attractive to ME in a way that is unique. I'm tired of thinking about this.

― unclejessjess (unclejessjess), Tuesday, 7 March 2006 22:32 (twenty years ago)

I don't like the feeling of being attracted to someone that everybody is attracted to, I think. xpost

― Jordan (Jordan), Tuesday, 7 March 2006 22:32 (twenty years ago)

I like this Jesse. He makes sense.

― Laurel (Laurel), Tuesday, 7 March 2006 22:32 (twenty years ago)

Oh, I agree! I'm all about the holistically hot.

― Shiny Maroon (kenan), Tuesday, 7 March 2006 22:33 (twenty years ago)

I like this Jesse. He makes sense. -- Laurel (sininspac...), March 7th, 2006. ha ha, I don't hear that too often, therefore I LIKE LAUREL.

― unclejessjess (unclejessjess), Tuesday, 7 March 2006 22:33 (twenty years ago)

Shit, I forgot about the paragraphs...

― unclejessjess (unclejessjess), Tuesday, 7 March 2006 22:35 (twenty years ago)

JEFF's RELATIONSHIP TIP: People really aren't made for each other. The idea that two humans can get along for a long time is absurd. The best case scenario is to find someone who's baggage you can deal with and vice versa. If you can deal with the most annoying parts of their personalities, you're set! And make sure they are hot.

― Jeff. (Jeff), Tuesday, 7 March 2006 22:35 (twenty years ago)

Laurel's quite likeable.

― Sweet Tater (kelstarry), Tuesday, 7 March 2006 22:36 (twenty years ago)

Agreed.

― jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 7 March 2006 22:36 (twenty years ago)

Jesse, not so much.

― jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 7 March 2006 22:37 (twenty years ago)

(J/K I LOVE YOU BOO)

― jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 7 March 2006 22:37 (twenty years ago)

Jeff OTM. I hold no grudges against the hot.

― Shiny Maroon (kenan), Tuesday, 7 March 2006 22:38 (twenty years ago)

I think what Jeff said is right, but with the sunnier view that while, yes, you will have to endure the negative, there will be high points, and you have to make sure that you're both going to be able to make these high points happen together. I have met people who I think were "meant for each other" but they were the biggest fattest exceptions to a rule that ever happened.

― unclejessjess (unclejessjess), Tuesday, 7 March 2006 22:39 (twenty years ago)

BTW- Who is Laurel? Did we already get introduced? Is Laurel HOT?

― unclejessjess (unclejessjess), Tuesday, 7 March 2006 22:39 (twenty years ago)

I agree, Jeff knows what he's talking about. He read a book about scientific marriage or something, right? I find myself drawn to droopy, sad, brown eyes, strong chins and people who can deal with how spazzy and huggy I am. Dan is the only one who managed to fulfill all three requirements.

― The Milkmaid (82375538-A) (The Milkmaid), Tuesday, 7 March 2006 22:40 (twenty years ago)

As was previously established, all the girls here are hot.

― Shiny Maroon (kenan), Tuesday, 7 March 2006 22:41 (twenty years ago)

Oh that's right, Laurel from Michigan. Gotcha.

― unclejessjess (unclejessjess), Tuesday, 7 March 2006 22:41 (twenty years ago)

http://myspace-346.vo.llnwd.net/00472/64/33/472823346_s.jpg Hi, Jesse, I am Laurel. I live in New York, I just lurk around this here Chicago thread. To be fair I am FROM Michigan, so a fellow midwesterner. -- Laurel (sininspac...), March 7th, 2006 12:31 PM. (Laurel) (later) (link)

― jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 7 March 2006 22:41 (twenty years ago)

Shut up john.

― unclejessjess (unclejessjess), Tuesday, 7 March 2006 22:42 (twenty years ago)

Get used to it.

― The Milkmaid (82375538-A) (The Milkmaid), Tuesday, 7 March 2006 22:42 (twenty years ago)

I haven't seen that picture. My my my. And she smokes!

― Shiny Maroon (kenan), Tuesday, 7 March 2006 22:42 (twenty years ago)

Wow, is that Laurel?

― Eazy (Eazy), Tuesday, 7 March 2006 22:43 (twenty years ago)

NOW I'm going to the Jim. To summarize my points on beauty: I need a man who will provide for me. Provide jackhammer paced forking followed up by marathon snowballing. XOXO Jesse

― unclejessjess (unclejessjess), Tuesday, 7 March 2006 22:43 (twenty years ago)

How touching.

― Shiny Maroon (kenan), Tuesday, 7 March 2006 22:44 (twenty years ago)

"marathon snowballing"? How would that work? I'm reminded of "pooping back and forth forever."

― Shiny Maroon (kenan), Tuesday, 7 March 2006 22:45 (twenty years ago)

I just came in here to post this picture: http://www.cordair.com/bokor/images/beginnings/beginnings.jpg

― Nutsy the Squirrel (pullapartgirl), Tuesday, 7 March 2006 22:47 (twenty years ago)

OMG

― jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 7 March 2006 22:48 (twenty years ago)

I need a cigarette.

― jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 7 March 2006 22:52 (twenty years ago)

Is that Ayn fucking Rand?

― Shiny Maroon (kenan), Tuesday, 7 March 2006 22:53 (twenty years ago)

It is! It is Ayn Rand! gah. Jenny, you just blew my mind.

― Shiny Maroon (kenan), Tuesday, 7 March 2006 22:55 (twenty years ago)

Jeff is OT fucking M.

― Jordan (Jordan), Tuesday, 7 March 2006 22:56 (twenty years ago)

The guy in the Egyptian headdress looks like James Tolkan.

― Shiny Maroon (kenan), Tuesday, 7 March 2006 22:57 (twenty years ago)

Oh, I thought that was a topless nun.

― Nutsy the Squirrel (pullapartgirl), Tuesday, 7 March 2006 23:04 (twenty years ago)

Also... quite a gap there between Greek philosophers and Ayn Rand. No Da Vinci? No Freud? Ayn fucking Rand was the only thinker that mattered in 2000 years?

― Shiny Maroon (kenan), Tuesday, 7 March 2006 23:08 (twenty years ago)

I agree with Jesse and with Jeff as well. K3nan, there are ways of being attracted to people other than that sort of "OMG YOU ARE SO HOTT I CANNOT STOP LOOKING AT YOU OMGOMGOMGOMOMG" bullshit.

More later. Movie was good, more movie to come!

― Casuistry (Chris P), Tuesday, 7 March 2006 23:58 (twenty years ago)

there are ways of being attracted to people other than that sort of "OMG YOU ARE SO HOTT I CANNOT STOP LOOKING AT YOU OMGOMGOMGOMOMG" bullshit

My goodness. Did I ever say such a thing? Not being able to stop looking at someone wears off pretty quick, I've found. Are you implying that I do not forge relationships based on how interesting and compatible the other person seems? That's quite insulting. I was just wondering how you plan to take physical attractiveness out of the equation altogether. I'm not sure that's possible, or wise.

― Shiny Maroon (kenan), Wednesday, 8 March 2006 00:07 (twenty years ago)

And certainly there is more than one way to be attracted to someone. I can and have fallen very in love with excellent, admirable minds, which is also a good reason to bed down with someone for maybe a long while. But that's not what you said. You said finding someone attractive is not a good reason to find them attractive, and then went on about being so attracted to someone that you're somehow incapacitated, which I found difficult to parse. "Hot" is relative, sexy is relative, and "OMG YOU ARE SO HOTT I CANNOT STOP LOOKING AT YOU" can happen for any number of reasons, not just because the other person has balanced and proportioned features.

― Shiny Maroon (kenan), Wednesday, 8 March 2006 00:14 (twenty years ago)

Why am I having to defend this? You people must really think I'm a lech.

― Shiny Maroon (kenan), Wednesday, 8 March 2006 00:16 (twenty years ago)

Not at all related to the conversation at hand, I thought of a good cover song for the FFs -- "Hypocrite" by Lush. I can totally hear Sarah singing that song. In fact, that might actually BE Sarah singing that song.

― The Milkmaid (82375538-A) (The Milkmaid), Wednesday, 8 March 2006 00:52 (twenty years ago)

Kenan you protest too much.

― Jordan (Jordan), Wednesday, 8 March 2006 00:53 (twenty years ago)

Hey, does anyone listen to this Deerhoof rock and roll combo?

― Jordan (Jordan), Wednesday, 8 March 2006 00:58 (twenty years ago)

I bet Nick does.

― Jordan (Jordan), Wednesday, 8 March 2006 01:04 (twenty years ago)

I don't.

― The Milkmaid (82375538-A) (The Milkmaid), Wednesday, 8 March 2006 01:05 (twenty years ago)

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