Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

go on dates imo, and lots of 'em

^^^

i DO want to meet women, but I'm not sure this is way to go about it. I feel like a sexual predator and a pathetic loser simultaneously.

― Joint Custody (ian), Monday, February 22, 2010 9:08 PM (9 minutes ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

thanks!

Remember that the women on the site are also choosing to be on the site! There's not really any predation here and if it is pathetic, you're all in it together.

who said being a sexual predator is bad anyway

dont get the sexual predator thing--we're talking about getting a drink w/someone.

it's not pathetic either! we all spend a measurable portion of our day talking to ppl on the internet--you're actually winning because you will get to meet them in person and they will be women.

ian, i think it is good, just go on some dates, talk to people, leave politely if you're not into it, see what happens. (asking people out isn't predatory, btw! and you are great!)

this thread plus a few friends recently having success (and failures, and just generally, yknow, experiences) has made me think abt making a profile even. but i am not quite in that place and mostly just want to meet more people to go to shows with, not go on blargh dates and def not feel neurotic abt it. i'm pretty consumed right now with creative work and work work and ideas about the world, and so, i worry about derailment. i guess that is life tho. and derailment can always put a person on a better track, to extend that metaphor...

who said being a sexual predator is bad anyway

― this is awful I want Togo home (harbl)

lol criminal defense lawyer

eh OKC strikes me as being just like facebook except everybody is much more honest about their reasons for being on it

my reasons for being on facebook are very clear--to keep track of shows & to play scrabble.

sorry for gettin all emo guys i guess i'm just unsure what to think of this whole venture.

don't sweat it dude

dont get the sexual predator thing--we're talking about getting a drink w/someone.

― call all destroyer

Unless you plan on slipping her a roofie.

But seriously, go for it. It's just two people meeting who want to meet each other. What's the worst that can happen?

yeah fuck it i was just being moody, i'm gonna go for this thing. this one girl is a 95% match but a 65% friend--can someone explain to me how the two numbers are calculated and what the diff is?

but i am not quite in that place and mostly just want to meet more people to go to shows with, not go on blargh dates and def not feel neurotic abt it.

Well, this was pretty much my MO. My profile was pretty clear about the fact that I wasn't actively looking for anything heavy or serious, so I did wind up just going on lots of casual dates. Which was fine, because I was similarly unenamoured with the idea of having to rearrange my life around someone. So it can be done.

But then of course I met someone who was in the same boat and similarly not seeking a relationship and with whom I have hit it off just mind-blowingly well and with whose life I am now all kinds of intertwined. It sneaks up on you when you least expect it, I tells ya. So I can testify that these kinds of sites do occasionally work, and even occasionally work way beyond what you might expect.

I meant to go on lots of dates, casual ones, where neither I nor the other person would get too involved! Instead I dissed one, kissed one, and then got stuck with the third and I can't escape (and I don't want to). My totally wrongheaded experience suggests that when you meet a really good candidate, you can't go wrong even if you have no idea what you're doing.

You guys give me hope. Thank you.

I just signed up for this at the weekend. Quite a departure, but I'm so tired and sad of being alone, and waiting for the perfect girl to simply drop out of the sky infront of me one day hasn't been working too well to change that, so...

i checked this out a while back too, but it was mostly kinda depressing since all my good matches lived overseas

btw I didn't mention this last night but my first match was this kind of gross expat who I've met before so I immediately disabled my account lest she see that I am a good match for her

I should answer questions pretendin to be a mad hat conservative, or a fundie

...kinda depressing since all my good matches lived overseas
― sonderangerbot, Tuesday, 23 February 2010 14:58

I just came back to comment along very similar lines. So far my global matches are generally (though not entirely) a lot more appealing than my local ones, which is a shame.

Wonder if I should move to Redwood, California for a pretty 95%'er...

I think I"m gonna get a beer with this chick Bianca tomorrow night?

Upside: classic chic, plus she'll be easy to spot in the bar.
Downside: propensity for multiple births could be inconvenient.

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I think I"m gonna get a beer with this chick Bianca tomorrow night?

^^answers your question

:)

She has strong opinions about pizza, which imo is an indicator of good values.

bianca

she told me her parents were going to name her ian if she was a boy.

okay I'm back on this, answering more questions. :->

i received a message from a str8 male this morning \(°—°)/

she told me her parents were going to name her ian if she was a boy.

<3 at first O_o

i received a message from a str8 male this morning \(°—°)/

― nitzer ebbebe (gbx), Tuesday, February 23, 2010 5:18 PM (27 minutes ago) Bookmark

was it Lo15 J4gg3r? i got one of those.

straight male lois j@gg3r

guys you're really overdoing this % match business. it's a handy broad sorting mechanism (for verification, look at your worst matches some time!) but beyond that, there's just no telling. you can fizzle with a 95 and spark with a 75.

ha, no it was from someone sending me a joke (i asked for jokes on my profile). no idea how/why i got messaged (ilxor???), but w/e

sounds like a dude was fulfilling a request and u acted like a bigoted homophobe, basically, u are worthless

*shoots self with arrow*

not so homophobic after all, heh, heh

date for tomorrow is confirmed w/ time & location btw guys.

Woo! Go ian!

I think there are only 50 people total on OKC in my neck of the woods. ;_; stop giving me the same people damnit

new round of quiver matches today is some bs imo

whoo have fun ian!

LOL ian you + me are 90% and 90% match now haha.

I want to know what the determiners are for the "enemy" rating! That one has me curious, is it having opposite answers on mandatory 's maybe.

it's a handy broad sorting mechanism

snigger

yes, a+

snigger

well that's a twist i didn't see coming

*snort*

Well, it wasn't horrible, but there was no chemistry & i don't think I'd want to spend any more time hanging out this this particular lady.

good 4 u for trying though

you miss 100% of the shots you don't take