I wonder sometimes if I am the victim of a malicious rumour

nothing personal, in case jjusten thinks i'm baiting or attacking him again

uh what the hell?

it's sarahel's world we're just living in it

xp - dude you got pretty over the top defensive a few weeks back and made my dumb joke into some dramatic thing, that was totally not my intent. I don't want to start anything up again.

It certainly doesn't seem like you're trying to start anything.

who the fuck makes fun of another person's dog

on an internet message board for fuck's sake

it's sarahel's world we're just living in it

― call all destroyer, Tuesday, February 16, 2010 5:56 PM (2 minutes ago)

CAD isn't my sock btw

she was joking

facepalming

get a life

http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_fr44lIzC03k/SloLqmKjdlI/AAAAAAAAAOQ/K1b6dlqpo9E/s400/PoodleFest+001.jpg

everyone should be banned from this thread except for op imo

maxlicious

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-__VV94ziiQ

song was so comforting to me when i was 16.

I kind of hate Depeche Mode but yeah, that.

I'm so glad I sleep during ilx's most active hours

I have no idea what happened here and did not read the thread but I too would like to express some love for that song.

dyao all coming in, surveying the wreckage

http://farm1.static.flickr.com/122/263588231_547497e8dc.jpg

http://bestlittlebookshelf.files.wordpress.com/2010/01/a-separate-peace1.jpg

http://www.lyc-cassin-gonesse.ac-versailles.fr/lectures%20conseill%E9es/bonjour%20tristesse.jpg

http://booklit.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2007/12/radiguet-devil-flesh.gif

http://www.yozone.fr/IMG/jpg/Le_Grand_Meaulnes_couv.jpg

When I was about 16 my bff made a mix tape and when "Blasphemous Rumours" came on the tape went all warpy and quiet and then corrects itself just before the song ends... creepy trufax.

dyao, is Le Grand Meaulnes as a ref to my quote from it upthread, or did you also get that vibe from the OP, or it just because?

Whichever: awes.

lol Bill A - also got that vibe from the OP. didn't actually recognize that as the beginning to le grand meaulnes!

all the books I posted were from a course I took called "first novels" where the prof tried to claim that first novels by authors usually shared common characteristics. a rather ludicrous idea, but the syllabus has really stuck with me, and all those books/the OP have a similar vibe. so maybe the prof wasn't so crazy after all

dyao, is a separate peace a reference to my "a separate piece of ass"

In real life, when acquaintances (or even strangers), despite their best efforts at spinning a narrative, tell me autobiographical tales that reflect badly on them, I render fair judgment in my mind but keep my true opinion to myself. If they ask me for advice, I don't respond sincerely, because, of course, that would be rude and pointless.

By contrast, when I am reading fiction and encounter a narrative voice such as that of the original post above, I understand, as an experienced reader, that the author expects me to recognize the voice as that of an unreliable narrator.

What I do NOT do, in either case, is treat disingenuous narcissism as a genuine cri de coeur, because compassion is worthless if it requires one to be stupid.

awww...

cutty a separate piece of ass
means you are probabaly dating a cancer
patient
in advanced stages. exercise upmost caution

(I meant none of that, btw.)

Ugh, I hate that feeling when old school buddies NEVER WANT TO TALK TO YOU AGAIN.

Take heart, sometimes it isn't personal. Sometimes they are having a really bad time. Sometimes it is something personal that they don't want to talk about. Sometimes a family member is seriously ill. I have been on both sides of this, one time I felt rude about pestering a couple of people because I found out later that a parent or some other family member had died.

Another time I didn't want to talk to some old friends and I felt bad about it, because I didn't want them to think it was me, it's just that a family member was having serious alcohol problems and I didn't want to embarrass that person about it, so I just kept to myself until that person cleaned up their act.

I can't imagine this going on forever, unless the school you went to was really horrible. I have some old classmates who want nothing to do with my old high school because of some sex abuse stuff. I wasn't a party to it, so my memories look nauseatingly rosy to those people, I keep my mouth shut around them.

If someone i barely knew in primary school 30 years ago messaged me on facebook I'd probably ignore them too, tbqh. Theyre strangers. Why take offence? Who gives a shit about someone you played hopscotch with at age 6.

And I have nothing to do with anyone who i went to high school with either.

Not all of us had a great happy super fun time wish show high school era. If I could I'd go back in time and kick a lot of people square in the shins.

Especially since school-mates were people you met when you had the least agency of your life; it was accidental that you were thrown together and if you really want to stay in touch, you can. Otherwise, why bother?

what trayce said

I LOLder sometimes if I am the victim of a malicious EXCELSIOR!

a few thoughts:

1- he's probs upper-middle class British, which explains similarity to LJ.
2- he's a sock, for sure.
3- at the same time, i can sort of agree with HI DERE here. i was mean to kshighway at first, but that's only because i can be ruthless with younger people who still like Wilco (sorry about that, btw). otherwise, it DOES seem like a lot of new posters are assumed to be socks, which certainly wasn't the case when i first started posting in march of 2006.

THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH WILCO

:)

just don't touch me.

pardon me?

joeks, daniel, joeks.

no worries!

Taking the OP at face value, I cannot imagine the FB friends who haven't replied or did not seem sufficiently interested in dialogue actually hate this guy. If they really hated him, they never would have added him in the first place.

I seem to honour roughly 50 per cent of requests from HS classmates; of the others, I bounce half and keep others in Friend Request Limbo. People kept their distance from each other for the first 10 years but Facebook prompted a flurry of back in touchness and Christmas drinking.

Wow, this thread is depressing. Glad to see a few people acting like people after the 100+ post lollercoaster.

So, yeah, all questions of why it happened aside, I can vouch for the fact that having a load of people who you thought were your friends suddenly give you the freeze-out fucking sucks. Particularly when there's no clear reason why the freeze-out happened and no one has the decency to discuss it with you. But this is the kind of thing that people do when they're in their teens and early twenties and haven't quite figured out how to have healthy relationships with others built on communication and respect. Given that, it's probably for the best to forget about what happened half a lifetime ago and try to focus on whatever good shit you've got going on in your life now. But I can attest to the fact that it isn't always the easiest thing to do in the wake of nonsense like that in your past. I mean, that one event from forever ago is the root of a lot of trust and intimacy issues I deal with to this day. I think it's also made me a lot more careful about who I involve myself with, as well, though, so I'm pretty happy to have a small circle of people in my life now who I love and trust implicitly. There's shit to learn from bad stuff in the past, but mostly it's just something to shake off and forget about.

OMG THE WORD 'SOCKS' IS IN MY DISPLAY NAME SO I MUST HAVE LOADS OF SOCK PUPPET LOGINS OMG OMG

Don't flatter yourself, ILX. Some people have lives outside of the internet.

So, yeah, all questions of why it happened aside, I can vouch for the fact that having a load of people who you thought were your friends suddenly give you the freeze-out fucking sucks.

Well thats as may be, but the OP says "15 years ago, I was an 18-year-old boy in England". He's talking about someone he hasnt seen or contacted for 15 years. I dont think contacting them now out of the blue demands instant OMG WHERE HAVE YOU BEEEEN IVE MISSED YOOOOOOOOOO delighted responses. In fact, baffled polite distance/silence seems more likely and normal, to me, after a 15 year gap!!

But, that's how I roll, YMMV, etc.