Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

hmmmmmmmmmm

in other words - people could like trendy crap and still be interesting. Like - there could be a guy that liked chart pop that I might cringe at, but he could still be a totally awesome guy that has interesting reasons for liking it.

i mean, im sure 9 times outta 10 it isnt something that affects their irl persona...it's just a book they read & liked

and felt it was important or worth putting in an online dating profile.

x-post yeah, of course!

altho i have a chuck p bias i think and assume ppl who list him prob LOVE him, are crazy and annoying

meh, ppl dont know what 2 write i think

i have absolutely no idea what i would put in an online dating profile.

sarahel: popist about literature

but seriously, there's a difference between the visceral thrill of chart-pop and the trend-based herd mentality of reading shitty fad-creating bumfodder - to compare the two is false and i think does chart-pop a massive disservice

a better comparison to these books would be like angels and airwaves or something, but music and books don't really compare

my own profile is odd and may need some work

odd? pantene anyone?

;-) <3 you Louis.

that bit was removed months ago :p

xp - i dunno, what's viscerally thrilling about it? Isn't part of its appeal that it's popular? Dumb trendy novels could also be viscerally thrilling ... to someone.

xxxp - I use pantene conditioner, fyi

Pop music is by its very nature viscerally thrilling and arresting; that is how it works. See Tim F after class.

Dumb trendy novels in practice tend to be stodgily written and the thrill is 'aspirational'; the reader is sucked into a thought-process where they are concerned with the direction of the narrative.

I guess I'm coming from a perspective of someone that is unthrilled by trendy novels and chart pop - harry potter, twilight, miley cyrus, brittney - none of that appeals to me.

You obviously haven't heard Party in the USA.

xpost- i think it's sometimes easier to get along with people who like cheesy popular stuff like twilight than people who are passionate about obscure stuff...for example, people i like and people i meet at metal shows have very little overlap. and yeah, i'm stereotyping in the opposite direction there, but that's been my experience so far. i'd rather meet someone with different interests who otherwise is pleasant and shares my values than someone who matches up well in certain categories but is super-alternative or pretentious.

is there some activity you would like to engage in with these people?

well yeah but you know it's finals and then there is a long break before next term and maybe i should just wait until january or february because thigns are so busy now...it's easy to justify doing nothing.

xp - No, I live under a rock.

kinda guessing that my response to it - were i to hear it - would be akin to that of my grandmother were she to be exposed to Lightning Bolt.

to put a book on one's list of favourite books is not like putting a musical artist on one's list of favourite music; the two signify different things, and different kinds of attachment.

some trendy novels are well-written and i can understand the appeal (harry potter); others aren't and gain their success through appealing to a herd mentality (twilight)

most or all chart-pop is written to appeal to people who might only hear it in passing, and isn't about the formation of a specific cult (obv those more general cults of lol youth and lol beauty receive plenty of fellation)

i kinda like super-alternative people, as long as they have some connection to reality

i think it depends what role music and books play in your life, though.

Right cause Lightening Bolt isn't popular at all.

TBH I love popular crap as much as the next person but there is something very annoying about Chuck P to me. Bah. Couldn't really give a shit about the others really although I'd be skeptical of someone who listed HP or twilight and only that.

God why is this conversation still happening. I'm so made at myself for starting this.

yeah like twilight isn't THAT offputting, i was just saying it would make me pause, it could say very little about them

I'm just saying that based on my tastes I would probably find any Miley Cyrus song painful, and my grandmother who likes easy listening crooners would find Lightning Bolt painful.

btw

http://23.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_kuayurGAzw1qzpwi0o1_400.gif

it isn't about whether something is popular at all. I'm a huge fan of Adam & the Ants for chrissake.

debate over

xpost

i mean - it just can't continue after that.

I think in some respects my standards are pretty low.

omg shut up pls

(sry I'm in a pissy mood tonight :-()

if that's a sincere apology, i accept it.

FITE

shrug

NO!!! No fite. It wasn't nice. I am just v tired and easily annoyed right now. :-(

all i was getting at - was that i would probably dislike miley cyrus, but that a guy that liked her might be cool.

FIN

I am sorry Sarahel. Tiredness broke my internal censor - it wasn't yr fault.

it can be my fault. i don't care. it's just a message board.

^posts that sum up ilx

miley cyrus and lightning bolt are both shite by the way

Don't like people who can actively ignore/feel proud for not reading 'real' literature and yet will spend many a day re-reading Twilight or Chucky P. If you have Fight Club in with a bunch of other novels tho, then ok, good for you. Or if you just don't know where to start with something to read and Fight Club/Twilight is just something a friend recommended you like, I'm alright with that. It's the especially ignorant cunts I can't deal with.

Nu-crush: I re-met someone on okc that I met IRL two years ago. Uhhhhhmm. Yeah.

ooh, someone you liked then?

the last straw for me was actually finding someone on OKC whom i'd met IRL through friends and gone on a pretty awkward date with, i was like "OH NO he can SEE ME!" and decided it was about time to disable my profile. i do not have the stomach for online dating at this point in my life, i am better off brazenly hitting on people when drunk.

Y.

risk of seeing ppl one knows in real life om okcupid kinda freaks me out tbh. like once i sent a girl a message and it was killy. o-O

― ian, Wednesday, November 4, 2009 2:17 AM (1 month ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

did her status not say she had a boyfriend??

― quaq quao, sweetie (electricsound), Wednesday, November 4, 2009 2:20 AM (1 month ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

she was single iirc

― ian, Wednesday, November 4, 2009 2:23 AM (1 month ago) Bookmark

He wasn't single then, but he is now!

you should go for it, L.

OKC is confusing me at present.

Either I'm ultra-picky right now with OKC or the pool has shrunk dramatically.

Maybe it's a spring/summer thing. What action there's been of late has been with a nice lass whom I met there but who's deleted her profile. I think it's not a good time of year for internet dating. You'd think it'd be great what with everyone spending more time indoors and perhaps more inclined to actively seek human company rather than let it happen organically but no. Even my own date-drive is down, slightly.

The lesson here is that SAD is a thing, basically.

that is kinda true, holidays make people feel frazzled and spring makes people (well, me) very antsy. maybe even january will be an improvement?

laurel you should get back in touch with the guy, maybe having met before will make things easier