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― harbl, Friday, 4 December 2009 19:51 (fourteen years ago) link
The flogging-acceptable place never existed, I'm pretty sure.
I've heard there is a place on 5th & Spring where people do this
― pash rules everything around me (Curt1s Stephens), Friday, 4 December 2009 19:51 (fourteen years ago) link
But no, really. A place where someone could go to a person of their preferred gender and be like "Hey, whips and chains" and that person could be free to be all like "Yes, I'm consensual" or "No, sorry, that's not my thing."
― kingkongvsgodzilla, Friday, 4 December 2009 19:53 (fourteen years ago) link
craigslist.org
― jazzgasms (Mr. Que), Friday, 4 December 2009 19:53 (fourteen years ago) link
gay bar
― pash rules everything around me (Curt1s Stephens), Friday, 4 December 2009 19:54 (fourteen years ago) link
btw contenderizer one problem with what youre saying is--removing race from the occasion--that its the responsibility of the person who is offended to forgive and educate the person who offended them, and not, instead, the responsibility of the person who did the offending to apologize and educate their dam selves― max, Friday, December 4, 2009 2:39 PM (4 minutes ago)
― max, Friday, December 4, 2009 2:39 PM (4 minutes ago)
i think that it IS the responsibility of offended people to forgive, educate and understand - to the extent possible, depending on the nature of the offense. and sure, i think it's the responsibility of those who offend to apologize, learn and understand. basically, everyone is obliged to give one another the benefit of the doubt and to treat one another with a measure of compassionate open-mindedness.
understand that this argument only makes sense when the point of offense/contention is relatively minor. not saying that we should always smile and try to understand those who abuse and oppress us.
― a dimension that can only be accessed through self-immolation (contenderizer), Friday, 4 December 2009 19:54 (fourteen years ago) link
no i really disagree with that
― harbl, Friday, 4 December 2009 19:56 (fourteen years ago) link
giving people the benefit of the doubt is important but not everyone's opinions are equivalent
― harbl, Friday, 4 December 2009 19:58 (fourteen years ago) link
not everyone's opinions are important either
― jazzgasms (Mr. Que), Friday, 4 December 2009 19:59 (fourteen years ago) link
definitely not
― harbl, Friday, 4 December 2009 20:00 (fourteen years ago) link
also:
agree that what i'm saying DOES seem to square with the "political correctness has gone TOO FAR!!!" arguments you hear on fox, and with the sort of things that poor sad white mans supposedly say now that they don't entirely run the whole game. in idealizing a bygone moment that never really existed, i'm giving in to the fundamental conservative impulse. so i'll take all punches on that score.
but i'd like to think that kingkonggodzilla's right, and that what i'm doing is looking forward for a way out of the deadlocked, polarized, endlessly outraged culture war that we seem to have locked ourselves into.
― a dimension that can only be accessed through self-immolation (contenderizer), Friday, 4 December 2009 20:00 (fourteen years ago) link
contenderizer you keep discussing this on a level of abstraction that doesn't exist so it's all kind of shrug
― horseshoe, Friday, 4 December 2009 20:01 (fourteen years ago) link
You can't promote tolerance in those who are intolerant by being dismissive and intolerant yourself.
― kingkongvsgodzilla, Friday, 4 December 2009 20:01 (fourteen years ago) link
i feel a lot less outrage when i don't spend all my time educating people on how they should treat me but ymmv!
― harbl, Friday, 4 December 2009 20:01 (fourteen years ago) link
OTM x 1000%
― jazzgasms (Mr. Que), Friday, 4 December 2009 20:01 (fourteen years ago) link
iving people the benefit of the doubt is important but not everyone's opinions are equivalent― harbl, Friday, December 4, 2009 11:58 AM (2 minutes ago) Bookmark
― harbl, Friday, December 4, 2009 11:58 AM (2 minutes ago) Bookmark
note that offense exists everywhere. christians get offended by gay pda's. bigots get offended by the suggestion that their race is not superior. being offended doesn't mean that you don't have to try and understand.
― a dimension that can only be accessed through self-immolation (contenderizer), Friday, 4 December 2009 20:03 (fourteen years ago) link
"offended people are NOT necessarily any more correct"
― a dimension that can only be accessed through self-immolation (contenderizer), Friday, 4 December 2009 20:04 (fourteen years ago) link
everytime i see this thread title i get "ass like that" by eminem in my head, goddamn it.
― Mountain Dewm (M@tt He1ges0n), Friday, 4 December 2009 20:05 (fourteen years ago) link
that is so unfortunate
― horseshoe, Friday, 4 December 2009 20:05 (fourteen years ago) link
why don't you do us all a favor c., and give us a specific concrete example of what you're talking about instead of speaking in abstractions
― jazzgasms (Mr. Que), Friday, 4 December 2009 20:05 (fourteen years ago) link
contenderizer you keep discussing this on a level of abstraction that doesn't exist so it's all kind of shrug― horseshoe, Friday, December 4, 2009 12:01 PM (3 minutes ago) Bookmark
― horseshoe, Friday, December 4, 2009 12:01 PM (3 minutes ago) Bookmark
― a dimension that can only be accessed through self-immolation (contenderizer), Friday, 4 December 2009 20:06 (fourteen years ago) link
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gGz6oIm6jhk
― pash rules everything around me (Curt1s Stephens), Friday, 4 December 2009 20:07 (fourteen years ago) link
i'm curious about examples of offended responses to someone saying something racist that are morally equivalent or "just as wrong/right" as the latter.
― omar little, Friday, 4 December 2009 20:07 (fourteen years ago) link
otoh "tolerating the intolerant" opens the door to many frustrating and fruitless discussions that don't get anywhere. for example, if i had to honor someone's earnestly-held opinion that it's ok to abide by stereotypes because they exist "for a reason" i would probably spend the entire discussion wishing for death.
― elmo leonard (elmo argonaut), Friday, 4 December 2009 20:09 (fourteen years ago) link
why don't you do us all a favor c., and give us a specific concrete example of what you're talking about instead of speaking in abstractions― jazzgasms (Mr. Que), Friday, December 4, 2009 12:05 PM (13 seconds ago) Bookmark
― jazzgasms (Mr. Que), Friday, December 4, 2009 12:05 PM (13 seconds ago) Bookmark
― a dimension that can only be accessed through self-immolation (contenderizer), Friday, 4 December 2009 20:10 (fourteen years ago) link
now where have I seen many frustrating and fruitless discussions that don't get anywhere before?
― pash rules everything around me (Curt1s Stephens), Friday, 4 December 2009 20:11 (fourteen years ago) link
the internet?
― harbl, Friday, 4 December 2009 20:12 (fourteen years ago) link
i'm curious about examples of offended responses to someone saying something racist that are morally equivalent or "just as wrong/right" as the latter.― omar little, Friday, December 4, 2009 12:07 PM (2 minutes ago) Bookmark
― omar little, Friday, December 4, 2009 12:07 PM (2 minutes ago) Bookmark
but it's easy to perceive offense in situations that aren't so cut-and-dried offensive. e.g. "niggardly", resulting shitstorms, etc. my only point was that to feel as though one has been offended does not automatically mean that the offending party has done anything wrong.
― a dimension that can only be accessed through self-immolation (contenderizer), Friday, 4 December 2009 20:14 (fourteen years ago) link
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20091202044731AASWipb
― velko, Friday, 4 December 2009 20:21 (fourteen years ago) link
wrong thread lol
― velko, Friday, 4 December 2009 20:22 (fourteen years ago) link
thing is, I can easily see how ~this guy~ would not understand how he was being offensive, or sexist, or threatening. getting offensive people to cop to their own offensiveness is a losing battle ime.
― elmo leonard (elmo argonaut), Friday, 4 December 2009 20:27 (fourteen years ago) link
dude you're the one stacking the deck! you're being so abstract that if anything comes up that could show your arguments are absurd you can go "oh no i didn't mean that" because you never specify what you do mean. anyway i gotta go thanks man see u
― harbl, Friday, 4 December 2009 20:27 (fourteen years ago) link
did u see the stack on that deck
― velko, Friday, 4 December 2009 20:32 (fourteen years ago) link
gimme a minute to come up with something...
― a dimension that can only be accessed through self-immolation (contenderizer), Friday, December 4, 2009 2:10 PM (21 minutes ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink
the fact that you have no examples makes it really hard to understand why you're even arguing this
― ice cr?m hand job (deej), Friday, 4 December 2009 20:32 (fourteen years ago) link
http://www.angelfire.com/or2/nigel/sofia.jpg
I never been bootied, I save that for the fartsThe kids blowin' hot air that got they heads gassedTail-waggin' rappers and y'all still come in dead lastI rain on suckas while some choose to drizzelYou come up with beef, you leave with no teeth and gristle
― doobieborther, Friday, 4 December 2009 20:33 (fourteen years ago) link
re: the concrete example that que asked for
i dunno. i have had many friends over the years who, especially when drunk, will reveal questionable aspects of themselves. will make unpleasant jokes, will confess attitudes i find distasteful, etc. bitching in their loneliness about "women". having weird pseudo-psychoanalytic theories about why people are gay. at the very worst, getting into "the problem with ____ people" type straight-up old-school racism.
sometimes i've called people on it, sometimes not - depending on the severity and situation. but i think a lot of people have weird little pockets inside their brains where strange transactions work themselves out. i have the idea, perhaps ridiculous, that people in general are much less apt to publicly voice these things than they once were.
elmo argonaut super otm wr2 this though. a big reason why we don't have these sorts of floodgate-opening, consciousness-raising discussions anymore is that the issues have largely been settled. there's no point in endlessly rehashing the same material, listening politely to the same old dunder-headed "theories" and offering a politely worded rebuttal. i get that.
like i said way back, i'm not 100% clear on how i feel about any of this. i've been trying to explore an idea more than argue a thesis.
― a dimension that can only be accessed through self-immolation (contenderizer), Friday, 4 December 2009 20:35 (fourteen years ago) link
Yeah, unfort you are probably right. But getting pretty smart, mostly reasonable people like the frquently posting crowd on ILX to understand how it's offensive should not take 1000 posts, imo.
― WHY DON'T YOU JUST LICK THE BUS DIRECTLY (Laurel), Friday, 4 December 2009 20:35 (fourteen years ago) link
touche
but i think we've all been in accord about his being a creepy jerk from word 1
― a dimension that can only be accessed through self-immolation (contenderizer), Friday, 4 December 2009 20:48 (fourteen years ago) link
did you see the touche on that one (sorry)
― bnw, Friday, 4 December 2009 20:49 (fourteen years ago) link
guys you can't let this thread die
― unobtaintium (Shakey Mo Collier), Friday, 4 December 2009 20:52 (fourteen years ago) link
But getting pretty smart, mostly reasonable people like the frquently posting crowd on ILX to understand how it's offensive should not take 1000 posts, imo.
― WHY DON'T YOU JUST LICK THE BUS DIRECTLY (Laurel), Friday, December 4, 2009 2:35 PM (21 minutes ago) Bookmark
has it??
― ice cr?m hand job (deej), Friday, 4 December 2009 20:57 (fourteen years ago) link
1,l69
― a dimension that can only be accessed through self-immolation (contenderizer), Friday, 4 December 2009 20:59 (fourteen years ago) link
that's a pretty un-concrete concrete example
― jazzgasms (Mr. Que), Friday, 4 December 2009 20:59 (fourteen years ago) link
in the interest of keeping things going, I am curious as to whether ILX thinks that any/and all generalizations made about an ethnic group or subset thereof are inherently racist
― unobtaintium (Shakey Mo Collier), Friday, 4 December 2009 21:00 (fourteen years ago) link
any and/or all
― unobtaintium (Shakey Mo Collier), Friday, 4 December 2009 21:01 (fourteen years ago) link
chinese ppl are the most disgusting savages in all the world imo
― omaha deserved 311 (call all destroyer), Friday, 4 December 2009 21:04 (fourteen years ago) link
that's a pretty un-concrete concrete example― jazzgasms (Mr. Que), Friday, December 4, 2009 12:59 PM (1 minute ago) Bookmark
― jazzgasms (Mr. Que), Friday, December 4, 2009 12:59 PM (1 minute ago) Bookmark
again, i tend to think that lots of people have ideas like this kicking around their heads, and that many of us have these kinds of conversations in private, on reasonable, civil terms. but the only way they seem to occur in public is in the form of highly polarized shouting matches, where each side claims a position of unassailable moral superiority and insists that all opposition be defeated. which depresses me. and i think it contributes to a squashed, dishonest civic culture.
― a dimension that can only be accessed through self-immolation (contenderizer), Friday, 4 December 2009 21:17 (fourteen years ago) link
in the interest of keeping things going, I am curious as to whether ILX thinks that any/and all generalizations made about an ethnic group or subset thereof are inherently racist― unobtaintium (Shakey Mo Collier), Friday, December 4, 2009 1:00 PM (16 minutes ago) Bookmark
― unobtaintium (Shakey Mo Collier), Friday, December 4, 2009 1:00 PM (16 minutes ago) Bookmark
― a dimension that can only be accessed through self-immolation (contenderizer), Friday, 4 December 2009 21:19 (fourteen years ago) link
Just read this thread, and all I could think about the whole time was this particular post by goole.
:)
― afa the i can c (roxymuzak), Monday, 7 December 2009 00:36 (fourteen years ago) link
ahahahahahahahahaha
― ☆ ★彡☆ ★彡☆ ★彡 (ENBB), Monday, 7 December 2009 00:38 (fourteen years ago) link