Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

women spontaneously cry in public ALL THE GODDAMN TIME but when a GUY does it... ooooooh, boy.

x-post Yeah see, that's just not right.

lol I was going add that I'm sure you're a great date and that many dudes would be sad to not have a chance at a second date but seriously TEARS??? C'mon.

you know if i was dating a girl and she cried after 1 date i'd be turned off, too.

I went on a date with a girl, I made her cry when I told her the story about my dog dying. I never saw her again. I actually thought the date had gone quite well.

OK crying about your dog dying might be acceptable. Crying in the situation Laurel described? Not OK.

There are people on here that I know who they are in RL. Haha it's sort of like, one assumes that if we both wanted to go out, we'd have um spoken to each other already?

laurel i think you should go the eharmony route.

Laurel, I think that is an engaging and honest profile.

Not sure whether to go back on here. Like KBP I can vouch for the fact it works, but real-life serious heartbreak experiences may ensue. But I could just schedule nonstop datefests to keep me focused on, you know, possibilities.

I'm on it but I'm just too lazy and uncommitted to go on regularly enough to actually have exchanges with people, much less go on dates. (Still trying to decide whether I should get in touch with cute guy I met at party & facebook friended last weekend, or just be passive and assume we'll meet again...if THAT'S too much work then internet dating is way too much.) I think it's the kind of thing you can't really let lapse, you have to stay on or off!

Someone's IMing me and wants to meet and go bowling? I intended to go really slowly on this thing, but he's all Chatty Kathy.

er...is he nice?

Um. I think so? I can't really tell. If it were left up to me, I'd just rule out everyone I didn't already know, who didn't already know my friends, and with whom I didn't already share music, subculture allegiance, etc. Which leaves me pretty much where I am, which is why I'm online dating.

go for it laurel, whats the worst that can happen, besides him turning out to be a murderer

i'm more judging him for suggesting bowling...on the bright side it's low pressure but man it's sort of boring

so uh do it if you like bowling?

I don't like the IMing because there's real-time pressure to agree to a date. You can turn it off in settings...

risk of seeing ppl one knows in real life om okcupid kinda freaks me out tbh. like once i sent a girl a message and it was killy. o-O

did her status not say she had a boyfriend??

she was single iirc

Argh I still have an okc profile wtf. I just edited the whole thing so it gives away as little info as possible. And says I like futurama. Also, the photo on it appears to be at least 8 years old and I have brick red and blonde hair.

ok i just read the last week of this thread - lol what the fuck lorax. i'm kinda mad at all of u for scaring away this delicate aspie flower, how about soem constructive criticism instead of snickering at him like he is the uncool kid at school

bowling is really fun! and there is usually beer!

the secret to bowling: do it exactly the same every time = win
i don't know what the secret to winning dating is tho. possibly not that.

Yeah I love bowling. I'd be psyched to be asked on a bowling date tbh.

me too.

So the secret to winning at dating is to finger the balls as deftly as possible and then throw them down a hallway... wait, thats not right.

No, the secret is not to put too much spin on things, and if you're just starting out, it's okay to put it between your legs and push.

did he own a possum?

<3 this and all the bowling jokes

The secret is not to put too much spin on things, and if you're just starting out, it's okay to put it between your legs and push.

Really good general advice for the graduates imo.

but seriously, if i signed up on that site, i'd probably do something like post a picture of myself wearing a Child Abuse band t-shirt standing in front of an elementary school, that would seem funny at the time, but probably a bad idea in terms of attracting dates.

well, it would probably attract a few people who get it and a lot of people who "get it" and would annoy you and think they know you.

lj would be on it tho

xp - at least it would probably deter guys who want kids.

wait, there are guys who want kids?

I read somewhere that bowling actually was the perfect activity for a first date... not as much interaction as going for a coffee or dinner, but not as little as going to watch a movie. Or maybe I made it up?

tza I've been with a couple of guys who desperately wanted kids! (so they were shit out of luck with me). It is interesting how few guy actively want kids though: I run with the theory many men just let it happen.

I want kids eventually

eventually

the cunning escape clause

"why don't girls like me with all my lovable flaws PS i just rudely brushed off a girl for having a flaw"

This is why I cannot be bothered with online dating, TBH.

you gotta kiss a lot of frogs loraxes to find your prince captain

My captain, he is looking for me. High and low. On the seven seas.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/pressoffice/images/bank/programmes_tv/drama/ends/300_jared.jpg

But I've given up looking for him, and am sticking to wasting my time on twitter.

and there is usually beer!

That's what he said! Hey, I was convinced.

I think I might turn IMs off, people are annoying me.

Wait so did you meet up with him?!

No no, it's going to be a while. I'm actually kind of too busy til after Thanksgiving, which I know sounds crazy.

Oooooooohhhhhhhh. The way you put it yesterday I thought you meant he wanted to go out last night!

This website works btw.

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you said it bro

guess who's back

back again

Suddenly I have all these emails and I'm leaving down for 5 days! Bad timing. But ok because it gives me time to get psyched up to do this right. Usually I worry to death about whether the guy likes me enough and never think about whether I like him. This time, I will be RUTHLESS and HEARTLESS and cut them down like stalks of grain instead of trying to win their approval. That sounds like a good plan, right?

Whoo go Laurel! You will have too many options not to anyway ;)

Fine line. Trying to be interested in anyone besides the ex because, uh, there's a reason he's "ex," but only his type really appeals. Except, y'know...better.