Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

i got a free month of a-list, so if anyone wants some AWARDZ just lemme know

This website works btw.

Aw Phil :D

i might be going on a facebook 'date' on sunday.
but maybe i'll decide to flake out cuz i am scurred of womens.

quite right.

x-post Oh just go, you never know. I know what it's like to be weirded out though. The few dates I went on as a result of a dating website I was on years ago were never really all that great and it can be pretty intimidating. Just go and hang out and not dwell on the DATE factor.

Umm remember when I said I went on a date once with someone who got rly upset when I said I didn't think we should go out again, I thkn he might have cried and we had to leave the bar? Yep, he's on there.

lol!

Oh dear. You made him cry though so he probably won't bug you.

why u break <3

B/c he dressed like an Amish. As a lifestyle choice. NB: Was not actually an Amish.

did he own a possum?

I hope he doesn't read ILX b/c that will make him sound terrible when actually he was a nice, smart guy. But just...no.

Does an Amish allow pets? Maybe I should write him to ask.

A nice smart guy WHO CRIED when you told him you didn't think you should see each other again. O_O

This was just one date too, right?

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I mean I like to think I give good first-date value, but that's just...a lot.

women spontaneously cry in public ALL THE GODDAMN TIME but when a GUY does it... ooooooh, boy.

x-post Yeah see, that's just not right.

lol I was going add that I'm sure you're a great date and that many dudes would be sad to not have a chance at a second date but seriously TEARS??? C'mon.

you know if i was dating a girl and she cried after 1 date i'd be turned off, too.

I went on a date with a girl, I made her cry when I told her the story about my dog dying. I never saw her again. I actually thought the date had gone quite well.

OK crying about your dog dying might be acceptable. Crying in the situation Laurel described? Not OK.

There are people on here that I know who they are in RL. Haha it's sort of like, one assumes that if we both wanted to go out, we'd have um spoken to each other already?

laurel i think you should go the eharmony route.

Laurel, I think that is an engaging and honest profile.

Not sure whether to go back on here. Like KBP I can vouch for the fact it works, but real-life serious heartbreak experiences may ensue. But I could just schedule nonstop datefests to keep me focused on, you know, possibilities.

I'm on it but I'm just too lazy and uncommitted to go on regularly enough to actually have exchanges with people, much less go on dates. (Still trying to decide whether I should get in touch with cute guy I met at party & facebook friended last weekend, or just be passive and assume we'll meet again...if THAT'S too much work then internet dating is way too much.) I think it's the kind of thing you can't really let lapse, you have to stay on or off!

Someone's IMing me and wants to meet and go bowling? I intended to go really slowly on this thing, but he's all Chatty Kathy.

er...is he nice?

Um. I think so? I can't really tell. If it were left up to me, I'd just rule out everyone I didn't already know, who didn't already know my friends, and with whom I didn't already share music, subculture allegiance, etc. Which leaves me pretty much where I am, which is why I'm online dating.

go for it laurel, whats the worst that can happen, besides him turning out to be a murderer

i'm more judging him for suggesting bowling...on the bright side it's low pressure but man it's sort of boring

so uh do it if you like bowling?

I don't like the IMing because there's real-time pressure to agree to a date. You can turn it off in settings...

risk of seeing ppl one knows in real life om okcupid kinda freaks me out tbh. like once i sent a girl a message and it was killy. o-O

did her status not say she had a boyfriend??

she was single iirc

Argh I still have an okc profile wtf. I just edited the whole thing so it gives away as little info as possible. And says I like futurama. Also, the photo on it appears to be at least 8 years old and I have brick red and blonde hair.

ok i just read the last week of this thread - lol what the fuck lorax. i'm kinda mad at all of u for scaring away this delicate aspie flower, how about soem constructive criticism instead of snickering at him like he is the uncool kid at school

bowling is really fun! and there is usually beer!

the secret to bowling: do it exactly the same every time = win
i don't know what the secret to winning dating is tho. possibly not that.

Yeah I love bowling. I'd be psyched to be asked on a bowling date tbh.

me too.

So the secret to winning at dating is to finger the balls as deftly as possible and then throw them down a hallway... wait, thats not right.

No, the secret is not to put too much spin on things, and if you're just starting out, it's okay to put it between your legs and push.

did he own a possum?

<3 this and all the bowling jokes

The secret is not to put too much spin on things, and if you're just starting out, it's okay to put it between your legs and push.

Really good general advice for the graduates imo.

but seriously, if i signed up on that site, i'd probably do something like post a picture of myself wearing a Child Abuse band t-shirt standing in front of an elementary school, that would seem funny at the time, but probably a bad idea in terms of attracting dates.

well, it would probably attract a few people who get it and a lot of people who "get it" and would annoy you and think they know you.

lj would be on it tho

xp - at least it would probably deter guys who want kids.