Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

you made this difficult for yourself when you had imaginary drunk sex with her and then she imaginarily fell in love with you.

― estela, Tuesday, October 27, 2009 4:17 PM (6 minutes ago)

for once I exhibited more restraint than estela. i thought about posting something along these lines, but felt it would be too cruel.

ug my problem is that I listed that I wanted new friends on OK CUPID but I only did that because some girls don't want to date someone unless they become friends first...

but since ilxor has made this into a big deal maybe I'll text her back and take her out to the bar for trivia tonight. she is poor and doesn't have a car - a real diamond in the rough

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the thing is, xp, I'm not looking for new friends unless it leads to a relationship or nsa partner, but even with nsa partners I have never hit an obese girl and I still am picky!

but like I said - I made it difficult on myself as soon as I first started chatting with her

wait she's POOR? nevermind then
you could just be friends though, for real. you might like her.

you are just way way ahead of yourself imo.

if I do take her out tonight my only hope is that I am wrong about what type of people I'm interested in meeting (maybe friends is okay). but as you all can tell I am feeling pretty weird about taking her out so I probably shouldn't do it at all

i think you are giving yourself a little too much credit in this situation.

dude, aren't you living at home with your parents?

xp i wasn't being cruel, i think people often cause themselves unnecessary stress by scripting difficult situations that might never happen.

you gotta hit that

keep diggin' that hole, big man

if anything, what I learned from all this is that I should never tell a girl that she is pretty in an introductory e-mail on a websites like okcupid. it might scare her off

this girl has scared me off and I totally agree estela

xp to estela: - oh definitely, but it also functioned as a pretty powerful zing, dear.

did it occur to you she may have offered to hang out of pity since you made such a point of not having anyone to go with?

keep diggin' that hole, big man

i got nothing to hide

I would have taken her - the concert got canceled.

i got nothing to hide

what about that scarf collection

women's, men's or both?

we're gonna stop talking about my situation because I rather hear yall's OK CUPID stories from now on (and I hadn't planned on talking so much about this in the first place. I fail at being 100% open to everyone about anything - it's a personality trait of mine that led to a much longer board exchange than it should have been.. and it also led me to talking to this girl in the first place)

honestly though, estela, tehresa, and the other girls reading this: would you be scared if a guy said you are pretty in an introductory e-mail off a dating site?

it depends on what else the guy said, honestly.

are you a girl too?

a girl sockpuppet, yes

xp I always thought you are a boy kinda like the German dude I knew named Sasha. Maybe you come off as a boy?

what sarahel said, but no, not immediately.
if that is ALL they said, i'd probably be annoyed and not interested.

me & harbl:

http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/thumb/b/b3/Female_troll_2.jpg/180px-Female_troll_2.jpg

damn I would put my hand in that sockpuppet

^ the wrong way to go about it

well the problem is I only want to put my hand in sockpuppets that don't seem interested in me

xpost - if it were just "hey you're pretty" i probably wouldn't bother replying, if he said other stuff that could start a conversation it could be fine though. it's not a SCARY statement.

i agree that you shouldn't go out with people you're fairly sure you won't be interested in, but it seems to me the bigger issue here is giving out a lot of personal information all at once to someone you're fairly sure you won't be interested in. maybe it's because i'm female and trained into paranoia, but i'd be careful with that even if i felt more excited about the person.

the other issue here is that, if you said you were interested in meeting friends, why it's such a big deal to hang out w/ someone you don't want to fuck. but i guess you do want to meet sex partners and are just being dishonest, which is why most internet sites like this are creepy.

otm

I said I was interested in everything tehresa

but maybe I should scratch friends off the list.

OK girls, I'll let you deconstruct how bad my last letter was to random stranger

Subject: hello miss mysterious

I like your profile.. my first impression is that you are adorable. I've always wondered if girls like you that seem to be really strong-willed (second impression) are girly-girls or not?

So that's my question. Do you have a girly-girl side to your personality? How would you describe the part of your personality that you said might get mistaken for "bitch" - the part of your personality that I guessed was strong-willed?

I have a side to me that isn't anything like the pictures of stuffed animals on my profile... yeah, I'm 100% male and probably more hetero than the average guy (that's why once you get to know me I could get away with posting pictures of myself with cuddly stuffed animals)

Please write back :)
What is your ethnicity?

(I should of wrote "if you get to know me")

it sorta reads like something a 40 year old foreign man would write

i think that's a creepy letter and i would not reply.

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What is your ethnicity?

lol crepe

ok stupid cupid

also

ug my problem is that I listed that I wanted new friends on OK CUPID but I only did that because some girls don't want to date someone unless they become friends first...

made it seem like you listed that you only wanted new friends. but even that seems like a misrepresentation, since you clearly are not interested in making friends. take it off your profile.
xpost

I'm 100% male and probably more hetero than the average guy

I mean really

hahaha

you saw the picture of the stuffed animals in wydll btw (i had to defend myself for having a main picture like that)
and I honestly wanted to know her ethnicity, she has herself listed as asian

sorry for harsh but that's really really really rude to ask

sometimes I subconsciously make my intro letters bad though

yeah that's gonna get you laid

wait, are you saying that you actually sent that message to someone you wanted to date?

why are you asking for advice you clearly have no interest in taking, captain "got any links to free sex sites?" lorax

believe me I am taking everyone's advice on how bad the last letter was, I knew it was bad but now I know to avoid the ethnicity line etc..

I kinda hope for a girl that likes the lovable loser