adoption is the craziest thing

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'Sup, y'all

The past 3 months of my life have been insane, particularly March; our birth mother went into labor early (31 weeks) and delivered freakishly healthy superbabies on March 3. Both boys are out of incubators and mostly feeding from bottles at gestational age 34 weeks. The birth mother's parental surrender became irrevocable as of this afternoon, which is why I'm only posting about it now.

I have a PLETHORA of stories to tell about the adoption process that ain't happening in a googlable forum but the main takeaway is that I feel like someone waved a magic wand at me and PRESTO I have children

Wahaca Flocka Flame (DJP), Monday, 24 March 2014 22:20 (nine years ago) link

btw super mazel tovs, cutest pics ever on the fbz.

Mordy , Monday, 24 March 2014 22:21 (nine years ago) link

Congratulations!!!!!!! That is so awesome.

How are the babies? Still in the NICU? What do they weigh? Pictures?

I'm unreasonably excited for you!

carl agatha, Monday, 24 March 2014 22:24 (nine years ago) link

thrilled for you both. i hear those adopted kids are pretty awesome, too.

r. bean (soda), Monday, 24 March 2014 22:31 (nine years ago) link

Thank you thank you!

The kids are in Level II care in the hospital. It's basically the super chill section of the NICU; they still have feeding tubes but have been getting most of their meals by bottle for almost a week. They've been weaned out of incubators and are rapidly approaching take-home weight (one is 5 lbs, the other is 4 lbs 14 oz). At this point, we just need them to exclusively bottle feed, continue to gain weight and not have any crashes on their vitals that require intervention (another scary superbaby fact: they have not needed intervention since their birth).

Wahaca Flocka Flame (DJP), Monday, 24 March 2014 22:33 (nine years ago) link

That was Ivy's situation, too - they're called "feeders and growers." It's maddening to have to wait! I'm so happy they are doing so well. I can't wait until you can take them home.

carl agatha, Monday, 24 March 2014 22:39 (nine years ago) link

Don't forget the pictures for us chumps who aren't on Facebook.

carl agatha, Monday, 24 March 2014 22:41 (nine years ago) link

I'll need to get to a computer to finagle pictures; I have intentionally only made my phone capable of posting pics to Facebook and Twitter

Wahaca Flocka Flame (DJP), Monday, 24 March 2014 22:59 (nine years ago) link


Babies for everyone!

Orson Wellies (in orbit), Monday, 24 March 2014 23:08 (nine years ago) link

So cool -- congratulations!

Babby's on fiber (WilliamC), Monday, 24 March 2014 23:16 (nine years ago) link

Oh wait, ignore that screen name.

WilliamC, Monday, 24 March 2014 23:16 (nine years ago) link

sure sure i have one baby and you have to have two, will this competative madness never end

Corpsepaint Counterpaint (jjjusten), Monday, 24 March 2014 23:21 (nine years ago) link

probably not until i learn how to spell competitive i suppose

Corpsepaint Counterpaint (jjjusten), Monday, 24 March 2014 23:23 (nine years ago) link

holy whoa, congrats Dan and fam!!

reddening, Tuesday, 25 March 2014 00:01 (nine years ago) link


Not one but TWO well-formed babbies! Awesome news, so happy for you and J. Let the parenting madness begin!

mom tossed in kimchee (quincie), Tuesday, 25 March 2014 00:03 (nine years ago) link

double the perry double the fun :D :D

set the controls for the heart of the sun (VegemiteGrrl), Tuesday, 25 March 2014 00:04 (nine years ago) link

aw, congrats, Dan! so happy for you!

horseshoe, Tuesday, 25 March 2014 00:12 (nine years ago) link

it's so wonderful, congratulations to you all.

estela, Tuesday, 25 March 2014 00:18 (nine years ago) link

congratulations! yaay baby happiness x2! :D

obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Tuesday, 25 March 2014 00:23 (nine years ago) link

parental surrender

but don't give yourself awaaaay


mick signals, Tuesday, 25 March 2014 00:33 (nine years ago) link

^_^ ^_^

, Tuesday, 25 March 2014 00:35 (nine years ago) link

I hope you had the biggest beer ever at 4 today. :D I told you this many times the other night but this is just the best thing and couldn't have happened to better people. You are going to be awesome parents. Now those babies gotta keep growing so I can meet and cuddle them!

Airwrecka Bliptrap Blapmantis (ENBB), Tuesday, 25 March 2014 00:48 (nine years ago) link

Good job.

Jeff, Tuesday, 25 March 2014 01:13 (nine years ago) link

Had no idea abt this DJP. Congrats!

congratulations!, djp. so lovely to hear.

mustread guy (schlump), Tuesday, 25 March 2014 02:38 (nine years ago) link

fyi, I'm putting the pictures I shared on Facebook in here:

Please let me know if you can't see them.

Wahaca Flocka Flame (DJP), Tuesday, 25 March 2014 04:01 (nine years ago) link

Good work, DJP. Kids will be great if you keep them away from Dirty Dancing.

images of war violence and historical smoking (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, 25 March 2014 04:05 (nine years ago) link

Those are some handsome babbies! I love the look on the little guy's face (the one wearing the crimson shirt) in the pic with you and the boys--he's looking like you like "oh damn, that's Dad."

mom tossed in kimchee (quincie), Tuesday, 25 March 2014 09:35 (nine years ago) link

jealous of the cuteness tbh

nah, really, great post (Noodle Vague), Tuesday, 25 March 2014 09:36 (nine years ago) link

Fantastic news!

Michael Jones, Tuesday, 25 March 2014 10:12 (nine years ago) link

Oh my gosh those pictures are so wonderful. You and J are glowing and the babies are AMAZING.

carl agatha, Tuesday, 25 March 2014 10:57 (nine years ago) link

awesome news, awesome photos!

vickyp, Tuesday, 25 March 2014 12:53 (nine years ago) link

Oh wow, what wonderful news!

Of course Pope Dan would end up with SUPER BABIES!!

tokyo rosemary, Tuesday, 25 March 2014 14:50 (nine years ago) link

congrats dan!

mookieproof, Tuesday, 25 March 2014 14:50 (nine years ago) link

mookieproof, Tuesday, 25 March 2014 14:54 (nine years ago) link

DJP! Congratulations! Well done!

emil.y, Tuesday, 25 March 2014 15:32 (nine years ago) link

shamrock butts

Airwrecka Bliptrap Blapmantis (ENBB), Tuesday, 25 March 2014 15:44 (nine years ago) link

this is so awesome. congratulations!!

goole, Wednesday, 26 March 2014 12:48 (nine years ago) link

very cool, congratulations!

sleeve, Wednesday, 26 March 2014 16:56 (nine years ago) link

Thank you, everyone!

Yesterday we had the boys transferred to a hospital in Boston so that we could sleep at home. The Portland hospital was thinking that D would be released first with J leaving a few days behind; the Boston hospital looked at them and basically was like "we expect these guys to be out of here Monday" (!!!!!!!!) The Boston hospital is also feeding them twice as much as Portland was and neither boy is having problems eating.

Wahaca Flocka Flame (DJP), Saturday, 29 March 2014 17:36 (nine years ago) link


every moser (wins), Saturday, 29 March 2014 17:55 (nine years ago) link

Whoa, nice work, DJP!

polyphonic, Saturday, 29 March 2014 18:26 (nine years ago) link

Wonderful news!

carl agatha, Saturday, 29 March 2014 21:16 (nine years ago) link

so fun to see these guys irl today!

call all destroyer, Saturday, 5 April 2014 21:11 (nine years ago) link

They're pretty great, right?

Wahaca Flocka Flame (DJP), Sunday, 6 April 2014 00:15 (nine years ago) link

I imagine you are busy with a few (well, two) other things right now, but I hope at some point you're open to sharing more about your adoption experience. I have some social work colleagues who work in adoption, and it does, in face, sound like the craziest thing. Interested in your perspective.

mom tossed in kimchee (quincie), Sunday, 6 April 2014 01:44 (nine years ago) link

in fact, not in face

mom tossed in kimchee (quincie), Sunday, 6 April 2014 01:45 (nine years ago) link

They're pretty great, right?

― Wahaca Flocka Flame (DJP), Saturday, April 5, 2014 8:15 PM (2 hours ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

totally! i never realized that a fun thing about being a twin would be co-napping.

call all destroyer, Sunday, 6 April 2014 02:31 (nine years ago) link

I'm in the process of doing this right now, actually; I don't know anything about your situation or experience prior to this point but if it's anything like mine it was a hell of a trip, so congratulations.

joygoat, Sunday, 6 April 2014 02:59 (nine years ago) link

in fact, not in face

In face as well

I will be much more open to talking in September when everything is finalized. I will say that the boys rule and I love them and leave it at that.

Wahaca Flocka Flame (DJP), Sunday, 6 April 2014 03:35 (nine years ago) link

I am super happy for those of you tht have met the twins, but as a dude that has not yet met them I hate you all.

Corpsepaint Counterpaint (jjjusten), Sunday, 6 April 2014 03:46 (nine years ago) link

Jealousy it's what's for breakfast

Corpsepaint Counterpaint (jjjusten), Sunday, 6 April 2014 03:46 (nine years ago) link

two weeks pass...

I have only just found this joyous thread! Congratulations D and J!

Madchen, Sunday, 20 April 2014 14:23 (nine years ago) link

one year passes...

Has anyone fostered children? Or been fostered? Or would this be better in a new thread?

ljubljana, Thursday, 12 November 2015 03:25 (eight years ago) link

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