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So have any of your kids come out? I knew for a long time Ophelia likes girls. She talks about gender politucs, homophobia,... a lot. The other day she confided she's in love with a girl. Alas it's not mutual. She asked if I was ok with her liking girls. I said:"Why wouldn't I be! Too bad for the boys. And the girls are lucky bec you're a smart, beautiful and good person. Love is great. And one day there will be a girl that loves you back. I'm sure of it."

nathom, Tuesday, 26 February 2019 15:57 (five years ago) link


a Mets fan who gave up on everything in the mid '80s (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, 26 February 2019 16:25 (five years ago) link

Our daughter came out a year or two ago (that I can't remember when indicates how little drama this involved). She's been in a relationship with the same girl since then.

L'assie (Euler), Tuesday, 26 February 2019 17:00 (five years ago) link


There's more Italy than necessary. (in orbit), Tuesday, 26 February 2019 17:04 (five years ago) link

Xpost hurrah! I told her how happy I was she confided in me. Apparently elisabeth already knew but said she didnt tell me as it was/is confidential. So happy she told her sister.

nathom, Tuesday, 26 February 2019 17:12 (five years ago) link

she sounds like an awesome kid.

kinder, Wednesday, 27 February 2019 19:26 (five years ago) link

She is. :-)

nathom, Wednesday, 27 February 2019 19:56 (five years ago) link

awesome kid and awesome MOM for real

mom tossed in kimchee (quincie), Thursday, 28 February 2019 02:12 (five years ago) link

Cripes Nath how old are your girls now!? it seems like yesterday they were babbies.

Stoop Crone (Trayce), Thursday, 28 February 2019 02:18 (five years ago) link

I know! The hell. It's going way too fast. Yesterday diapers, now menstruation pads. Lol

nathom, Thursday, 28 February 2019 14:52 (five years ago) link

And I am not awesome. Just trying to do good. :-)

nathom, Thursday, 28 February 2019 14:52 (five years ago) link

ten months pass...

Our older kid came out this summer as gay but we already knew since they’d had a girlfriend for several months. Now they are 9 and came out to us an non-binary and are out at school but not with relatives. I had an easier time with the first coming out only because I’m more familiar with it, not that I’ve been anything but supportive about the gender expansiveness.

Sarah McLusky, Sunday, 29 December 2019 16:31 (four years ago) link

I had an easier time with the first coming out only because I’m more familiar with it

yeah, social knowledge is learned and the social paradigm for gays is better established now than for non-binary.

A is for (Aimless), Sunday, 29 December 2019 19:30 (four years ago) link

So true. Also I had to wrap my head around the fact that they are being called a different name at school by friends and teachers alike. It really is not so shocking considering they stopped wearing dresses right around turning 5. Anyway, it comforts me how comfortable my kid is self-advocating. They even asked the teacher for a new solution when they didn’t feel right going to either the boy or girl segregated sex-ed lesson. In response, there was a special lesson created just for them.

Sarah McLusky, Tuesday, 31 December 2019 03:34 (four years ago) link

wondering if your 9yo is more of a real adult than i am, tbh

mookieproof, Tuesday, 31 December 2019 03:44 (four years ago) link

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