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hey! so my two boys love each other, they're sort of each others' best friends but man, it is like everything is amped to 11 when they're around each other. the playing, the fighting, the play-fighting, the crying, the not-listening. when they are apart? BLISS. CALM. COMMUNICATION. SHOES GET PUT ON.

what is the deal here? do we just have to ride this thing out? is there anything we can do? coping strategies?

illegal economic migration (Tracer Hand), Sunday, 26 June 2016 10:59 (seven years ago) link

ride it out, what you describe is the same for me, and I have two teens & a tween; and the love is the most important thing (though if you live in an apartment them shutting the fuck up when needed is critical too)

droit au butt (Euler), Sunday, 26 June 2016 12:49 (seven years ago) link

i was hoping they'd grow out of this craziness

illegal economic migration (Tracer Hand), Sunday, 26 June 2016 13:02 (seven years ago) link

when I left today all three of them were playing in the same minecraft world, and periodically one of them messes something up and they erupt, but but I love seeing them work together.

droit au butt (Euler), Sunday, 26 June 2016 13:05 (seven years ago) link

totally dodged this one

El Tomboto, Sunday, 26 June 2016 13:06 (seven years ago) link

it's really the best but perhaps all is not the best in this best of all possible worlds

droit au butt (Euler), Sunday, 26 June 2016 13:08 (seven years ago) link

My brother is a bit less than two years older than I am. We were frequently at odds with one another from about ages 2 and 4 until we got to ages 15 and 17. We did outgrow it at last.

a little too mature to be cute (Aimless), Monday, 27 June 2016 04:54 (seven years ago) link

The bf's two kids adore each other and big bro always looks out for lil bro, but christ he can be the worst little condescending shit when little bro is having a meltdown. "youre too old to be crying over that shut up you idiot". Kids are weirdos :)

Stoop Crone (Trayce), Monday, 27 June 2016 05:02 (seven years ago) link

We always get along better when we're altogether when we make sure that they both get quality one on one time with each parent - it's as if they don't need to compete with each other for attention when they're together because they know their relationship with each parent is strong and valued.

Holidays were always a crunch point with so much bickering but when we went away when Molly had chickenpox we had to split them up as she couldn't go swimming etc, so they both had quality time with both Chris and I, and they really enjoyed each other's company when they were together

vickyp, Tuesday, 28 June 2016 10:13 (seven years ago) link

Interesting.. I will see if we can do that better

illegal economic migration (Tracer Hand), Tuesday, 28 June 2016 10:23 (seven years ago) link

one year passes...

Nora is getting a sibling. I am terrified.

Hey Bob (Scik Mouthy), Monday, 4 September 2017 10:47 (six years ago) link

congrats! same here - when is d day for you? Does Em ever post on the other forum any more?

kinder, Monday, 4 September 2017 11:57 (six years ago) link

Congrats to you too!

D-day is end of Jan / start of Feb; we're nearly 18 gone weeks I think.

Was that the SH forum? I'll ask her.

Hey Bob (Scik Mouthy), Monday, 4 September 2017 11:59 (six years ago) link

God that's the same as me, sometimes I think we live parallel lives (think you were selling your flat around when we were).

kinder, Monday, 4 September 2017 12:03 (six years ago) link

Nice to know you guys had sex the day before my birthday, too...

Hey Bob (Scik Mouthy), Monday, 4 September 2017 13:00 (six years ago) link

(We sold our flat in summer/autumn 2012, and our house in summer/autumn 2016, for the record...)

Hey Bob (Scik Mouthy), Monday, 4 September 2017 13:04 (six years ago) link

Em says are you on instagram? She's batgirlbob if you are.

Hey Bob (Scik Mouthy), Monday, 4 September 2017 13:37 (six years ago) link

will look her up, cheers. you cannot extrapolate anything about our sex life sadly!

kinder, Monday, 4 September 2017 14:17 (six years ago) link

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