ILX Parenting 6: "Put Some Goddamn Pants On Before You Go Outside!" is a thing I say now

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Οὖτις, Friday, 10 July 2015 19:51 (eight years ago) link

"because I'M the parent!" is a thing *I* say now.

UYD: Oxys, Percs, Vics, Addys, Rit-Dogs and Xannys (sunny successor), Friday, 10 July 2015 20:47 (eight years ago) link

I find myself saying giving the weirdest instructions sometimes

Οὖτις, Friday, 10 July 2015 21:00 (eight years ago) link

completely frivolous post but: ex-coworker pregnant w second baby. she's naming it "Macyn" and I am pretty IA about it tbh

ugh. just call the fuckin kid mason jeeeeeeezus christ almighty

difficult-difficult lemon-difficult (VegemiteGrrl), Tuesday, 14 July 2015 19:48 (eight years ago) link

boy or girl? I'm guessing girl.

mom tossed in kimchee (quincie), Tuesday, 14 July 2015 22:50 (eight years ago) link

just intentionally mispronounce it from now on

Οὖτις, Tuesday, 14 July 2015 23:00 (eight years ago) link

"makin? like yr makin a baby?"

Οὖτις, Tuesday, 14 July 2015 23:00 (eight years ago) link

we've moved beyond the "why" stage to the "no" or simply ignoring stage which is slowly sapping my will to live and/or self-image as a nice guy

transparent play for gifs (Tracer Hand), Wednesday, 15 July 2015 12:53 (eight years ago) link

Hey all. Haven't been around for a while but K now has a baby sister, E. 👨‍👩‍👧‍👧

five six and (man alive), Thursday, 16 July 2015 00:58 (eight years ago) link

Good job.

Jeff, Thursday, 16 July 2015 01:02 (eight years ago) link

Oh yay! I was just thinking about you, man alive, and hoping you'd come back and say hello. Congratulations!

from batman to balloon dog (carl agatha), Thursday, 16 July 2015 01:45 (eight years ago) link

Aw! Nice to not be forgotten by ILXORs, at least a few nice ones.

five six and (man alive), Thursday, 16 July 2015 01:47 (eight years ago) link

yes you were missed dude

marcos, Thursday, 16 July 2015 02:12 (eight years ago) link

we even posted in the ilx milk carton thread a while back iirc

marcos, Thursday, 16 July 2015 02:13 (eight years ago) link

anyways good to have a new thread

J is starting to ask "what is ____" about everything, it is really cool, like he is really trying to get at the deeper meaning of it, e.g. he has been eating oatmeal for a good two years now but now he wants to really know "what is oatmeal???"

marcos, Thursday, 16 July 2015 02:15 (eight years ago) link

haha also xp man alive i misread your post to say "K now has a babysitter, E" so i did not comment b/c that seemed unremarkable, but yea congratulations!

marcos, Thursday, 16 July 2015 02:24 (eight years ago) link

So yeah, two kids is pretty crazy. OTOH in the final months before the birth I hustled hard and found a better job -- better pay AND more flexible with time, and that's been making things a lot easier.

five six and (man alive), Thursday, 16 July 2015 03:13 (eight years ago) link

Oh awesome! Congratulations on the new job AND the new baby!

from batman to balloon dog (carl agatha), Thursday, 16 July 2015 03:17 (eight years ago) link

yeah two kids is nuts. fwiw three is not as nuts as two is, in case you're inclined in that way

we just flew back to the usa for a couple of weeks and my kids did well, but then my youngest is 8 so why would it be bad. tons of movies on demand with the little screens, they keep bringing you food and drinks, you get to snuggle, what's not to like.

droit au butt (Euler), Thursday, 16 July 2015 12:01 (eight years ago) link

fwiw three is not as nuts as two

this needs explaination

UYD: Oxys, Percs, Vics, Addys, Rit-Dogs and Xannys (sunny successor), Thursday, 16 July 2015 17:36 (eight years ago) link

two is fucking crazy

marcos, Thursday, 16 July 2015 18:45 (eight years ago) link

I assume when you have three you let the oldest child be in charge of the other two. Parenting over!

Οὖτις, Thursday, 16 July 2015 18:46 (eight years ago) link

im dying here w/ 2, it is intense

my mom had 5 and i just can't even comprehend that

marcos, Thursday, 16 July 2015 18:48 (eight years ago) link

i think maybe people who say the jump to 3 is not a big deal is maybe because at that point the older ones are a little more manageable since they are older?

marcos, Thursday, 16 July 2015 18:49 (eight years ago) link

also some of you may recall i mentioned J's autism diagnosis on the previous thread, things were super stressful for a long while especially after F's birth but things do seem to be falling into place a little w/ his services and planning for preschool next year. we found some really incredible home-based therapists and b/c of his diagnosis J also got offered a spot at one of our city's best public schools allowing us to bypass some of the anxiety-inducing byzantine lottery process. one benefit i guess to having a kid with special needs. also J is just doing amazingly well right now and we've seen so much growth and progress, it is really hopeful.

marcos, Thursday, 16 July 2015 18:54 (eight years ago) link

Oh good! That's good to hear.

from batman to balloon dog (carl agatha), Thursday, 16 July 2015 19:21 (eight years ago) link

Thanks for the update Marcos, that's good to hear.
My friend with 3 kids says the jump to 3 is the craziest ever. You only have 2 hands for a start!

kinder, Thursday, 16 July 2015 19:44 (eight years ago) link

Yeah I've heard that 3 is the hardest - harder than two, harder than four.

LOL survey says - http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/05/07/three-children-is-most-st_n_3229032.html

I think we'll stick with one to be on the safe side.

from batman to balloon dog (carl agatha), Thursday, 16 July 2015 19:58 (eight years ago) link

http://adequateman.deadspin.com/14-things-you-will-say-to-your-kids-a-million-goddamn-t-1717985943

I would add "Put on your shoes" to this list.

Immediate Follower (NA), Thursday, 16 July 2015 20:11 (eight years ago) link

Ivy's only 19 months so some of those don't apply but we're already well on our way with "Careful," "You're fine," and "Don't eat that."

from batman to balloon dog (carl agatha), Thursday, 16 July 2015 20:16 (eight years ago) link

yeah I dunno with #3, #1 was already 6 years old, so didn't need the kind of management that newborns do, and got along well with #2 so our lives were fine. plus we knew what we were doing by that point, at least as well as we ever were going to. but when #2 was born...I don't know how we survived tbh

droit au butt (Euler), Thursday, 16 July 2015 20:44 (eight years ago) link

Oh god, "careful!" is getting a lot of use now, as well as the related "gentle hands!" F's top three words are "no", "nono" and "nonononononono".

Madchen, Thursday, 16 July 2015 20:55 (eight years ago) link

"Did you take another bite of your dinner yet?"

how's life, Thursday, 16 July 2015 21:03 (eight years ago) link

Ivy's daycare teachers use the Spanish "linda" to mean "nicely," which Ivy picked up on early so we say that instead of "gentle hands." And we say that a lot... Also my mom's old favorite: People are not for hitting. People are for loving. Usually said through gritted teeth after Ivy smacks my glasses off my face.

from batman to balloon dog (carl agatha), Thursday, 16 July 2015 21:15 (eight years ago) link

our perfect granddaughter, who always slept through the night even from birth and has never been the slightest bit difficult during year one, has FINALLY has her first tantrum, tried to scratch her mom with her little fingernails. we breathed a sigh of relief tbh, thank god she's not some pod person experiment and is actually human.

I have a couple of new Isolde pics as well, will post later

sleeve, Thursday, 16 July 2015 21:31 (eight years ago) link

Damn straight.

from batman to balloon dog (carl agatha), Thursday, 16 July 2015 22:00 (eight years ago) link

"gentle hands" wtf does that mean, like what is the situation

transparent play for gifs (Tracer Hand), Thursday, 16 July 2015 23:47 (eight years ago) link

pets?

difficult-difficult lemon-difficult (VegemiteGrrl), Thursday, 16 July 2015 23:48 (eight years ago) link

ime it is another way of saying "don't scratch my fucking face, boy"

marcos, Friday, 17 July 2015 00:06 (eight years ago) link

Yeah like "don't hit scratch slap pinch me/your dad/this other child/the cat."

from batman to balloon dog (carl agatha), Friday, 17 July 2015 00:39 (eight years ago) link

"What did I just say?" is another thing I say a lot.

Οὖτις, Friday, 17 July 2015 02:39 (eight years ago) link

I've been trying to get a little more real about "rules" lately, especially with eating, e.g. I keep repeating "we don't get something else until we finish what we have," because she has a really annoying habit of asking for something, taking a few bites and then asking for another thing. Also trying to stop snacks in the stroller and carseat so she'll actually eat her goddamn meals instead of snacking all the time, but that one is challenging (because on the morning where she DOESN'T eat her goddamn breakfast, you feel guilty sending her to school hungry).

five six and (man alive), Friday, 17 July 2015 04:51 (eight years ago) link

Also we have a grandparent who sees her every week and undermines all this

five six and (man alive), Friday, 17 July 2015 04:51 (eight years ago) link

gah, that thing when your newborn is finally asleep and completely quiet and then you keep checking every twenty minutes to make sure they're alive.

five six and (man alive), Friday, 17 July 2015 05:02 (eight years ago) link

:)

difficult-difficult lemon-difficult (VegemiteGrrl), Friday, 17 July 2015 05:19 (eight years ago) link

double congratulations, man alive!

estela, Friday, 17 July 2015 05:28 (eight years ago) link

small man still alive

wisdom be leakin out my louche douche truths (k3vin k.), Friday, 17 July 2015 05:29 (eight years ago) link

So I may have missed something, but I think Nora only woke at midnight and 3am last night. It's 7am now and she's still asleep. And it's Em's birthday.

Hey Bob (Scik Mouthy), Friday, 17 July 2015 06:18 (eight years ago) link

Ha, I slept straight through a 5am waking..,

Hey Bob (Scik Mouthy), Friday, 17 July 2015 06:24 (eight years ago) link

Happy birthday Em. I was just thinking I hadn't seen her over at the other place for a while. If it's any consolation, our sleep has gone back into a bad pattern after having a really good thing going for a couple of months. Hoping we find that groove again.

kinder, Friday, 17 July 2015 08:33 (eight years ago) link

hahaha

a likely story

longtime caller, first time listener (man alive), Wednesday, 29 March 2023 18:07 (one year ago) link

"...and that's why I no longer have a security clearance."

she loves me like a rock lobster (Ye Mad Puffin), Wednesday, 29 March 2023 18:13 (one year ago) link

Amazing

But who are we doing it versus? (sunny successor), Wednesday, 5 April 2023 17:47 (one year ago) link

four weeks pass...

My three year old daughter has a toy called Harry and she asked me “what’s his last name” and in a - not unusually - unthinking moment I said “Balls” and now she has a toy called Harry Balls.

Chuck_Tatum, Thursday, 4 May 2023 21:01 (eleven months ago) link

Our boston terrier has very…. prominent, large jowls. At a certain point I started referring to them as her meat flaps and the term stuck. I, also, was not thinking when this happened.

Cow_Art, Thursday, 4 May 2023 21:21 (eleven months ago) link

one month passes...

my six year old found some internet site with a bunch of games (i think it's called random?) and i'm not a big fan. lots of ads between the games and a couple with guns. anyone know of a good subscription based gaming sites where i won't have to worry about him stumbling on something awful?

Heez, Monday, 5 June 2023 17:25 (ten months ago) link

the youngest person on Something Awful is probably like 34 now

frogbs, Monday, 5 June 2023 17:27 (ten months ago) link

Don't know what it's like now but my kids used to play on Friv (but that's several years ago)

groovypanda, Monday, 5 June 2023 17:43 (ten months ago) link

https://www.friv.com/

groovypanda, Monday, 5 June 2023 17:43 (ten months ago) link

Nice thanks

Heez, Monday, 5 June 2023 19:49 (ten months ago) link

Apple Arcade is surprisingly good for this.

𝔠𝔞𝔢𝔨 (caek), Monday, 5 June 2023 23:05 (ten months ago) link

three months pass...

when you’re so furious at your kids ignoring your pleas to put their phones away you fish your own phone out and in a blaze of anger you turn downtime on in your own phone by accident

Tracer Hand, Monday, 18 September 2023 23:02 (six months ago) link

Got a text from my wife while I was at work the other day. Our 19-year-old (who is living at home, working 6 days a week, not attending college) had saved up $15,000 to get his pilot's license. What I didn't learn until later that afternoon was that he told her that as he was running out the door to his first flying lesson! So while I was processing all this, he was zooming around in the skies above our city. We don't have the best relationship with him - our daily interactions are usually less than 10 seconds long. "Good morning, son!" "Hi, dad." "By the way, you got a letter from the mva, and they say youreallyneedtogetyouremissionsinspected!" as he is running out the door. I'm just glad he's taking some initiative to improve himself in an interesting way.

In the meantime, I've been trying not to be too overwhelming with my daughter and school. She had a rough year in 6th grade, as far as keeping up with assignments. There was a lot of back-and-forth between me and her teachers about catching up to assignments. She could never seem to remember them. I think she has ADHD, which I have as well, but I haven't taken the steps to get her evaluated for it yet. So far the school year has been going smoothly and she's staying on top of her assignments. But I'm a nervous wreck because I'm trying to stay on top of them as well and I don't want to overwhelm her with questions. I worry that I risk coming across as a nag and pushing her away.

peace, man, Thursday, 21 September 2023 13:24 (six months ago) link

Sympathies, peace, man. Those are both tough situations (one who's literally flying away and one who may be struggling a bit but will turn out fine).

I can relate. Elder one here is 16 and generally quite sensible, but still has a lot of things to figure out. Younger one will, alas, always need extra care.

Hereward the Woke (Ye Mad Puffin), Thursday, 21 September 2023 14:12 (six months ago) link

I recommend that you take time to get her evaluated ASAP. Both of my kids have it, and they’re doing well without medication but it takes a lot of management for both of them (nothing agains meds, my kids can’t tolerate them). But in middle school testing becomes more intense and the accommodations your kid will get can be useful. The only accommodation my kid takes advantage of is the extra time for testing which helps a lot, especially with math.

The process is a pain in the ass but it’s worth it, and it can also change the nature of your “nagging” and how it’s perceived.

Cow_Art, Thursday, 21 September 2023 14:41 (six months ago) link

Yeah, understood. My plan is to see how things go for the first couple months of the school year. My involvement with her education last year had me at the breaking point, but I want to see if it was just a blip.

peace, man, Thursday, 21 September 2023 14:44 (six months ago) link

From a teacher's point of view, I'd definitely chase it up. Having at the very least a profile will alert teachers in the short term, and it will open up possibilities down the line for extra time etc. In the UK, awareness of ADD has changed hugely in the last few years and while some teachers struggle with adapting discourse, classroom arrangements and flexibility with homework etc, you'll most will be totally on your side.

As a parent, I wish we'd got it sorted sooner! We have things called EHCPs in the UK (Education health and care plans) and in some cases these run right up the age of 25, meaning classroom adaptations and exam concessions are supported by law - into university and beyond. We should totally have got our shit together and sorted this earlier.

Lastly - with both hats on - I'd say give yourself and your daughter a break. This will sound platitudinous, but I genuinely don't think you should sacrifice your relationship, or your health, for shitty schoolwork.

Slays two. Found gassed. Thinks of cat. (Chinaski), Friday, 22 September 2023 18:32 (six months ago) link

Replacing ‘you’ with ‘poo’ while singing along to the radio never gets old:

Last night you were in my room/and now my bedsheets smell like poo

Everything is pointless without poo

Madchen, Friday, 29 September 2023 05:50 (six months ago) link

The 18 year old is going to Cambodia for a holiday next month, having developed an online relaysh with a lovely Cambodian girl over the last year or 2. God I hope it doesnt end in disappointment for him - Ive been there done that twice! - but either way, this'll really grow him up a bit. Both the stepkids are a bit ... well, they dont know or care to do anything like cooking, washing their own clothes, cleaning up unless demanded... typical teens I guess. Id've got them into all that years ago (I'm sick of seeing young women have to date men who just assume their women will do everything mum did) but as per, I'm not their mother so.

Stoop Crone (Trayce), Friday, 29 September 2023 23:33 (six months ago) link

After four kids, I am about done getting teens to do much of anything, including getting up in the morning. Now that I'm down to the last one, I keep most of my powder dry for those few battles that actually matter.

immodesty blaise (jimbeaux), Friday, 29 September 2023 23:37 (six months ago) link

LOL Mr 18 will get up at 5Pm if left to his owm devices. Its a bit worrying actually, I dont want his cicadians to get all upside-down.

Stoop Crone (Trayce), Friday, 29 September 2023 23:45 (six months ago) link

I think their circadians are mostly self-adjusting. School schedules, of course, are not (although my 13-year-old's school does have the wisdom and humanity to let them start an hour later at least once a week).

immodesty blaise (jimbeaux), Friday, 29 September 2023 23:51 (six months ago) link

Both the stepkids are a bit ... well, they dont know or care to do anything like cooking, washing their own clothes, cleaning up unless demanded... typical teens I guess. Id've got them into all that years ago (I'm sick of seeing young women have to date men who just assume their women will do everything mum did) but as per, I'm not their mother so.

Yeah, with my stepson, my wife was really stuck on not giving him any chores to do when he was younger, and I really wasn't able to get her to see it any other way. Fortunately, he's developed his own work ethic and sense of responsibility. Cleans up after himself and does his own laundry consistently, at least.

With our daughter, I gave her a regular chore a few years ago and she's been great about it. I'm thinking about adding another one soon.

peace, man, Saturday, 30 September 2023 01:55 (six months ago) link

I got talked into being the soccer coach for my kid's team, even though I know very little about soccer and it's 9 3rd graders who are incredibly hard to corral or get to listen to anything. anyway, we got our asses beat today 9-0, three of the kids stared crying, two said they were quitting, one of the parents scolded me for not playing her kid enough (he's a sweet boy but he doesn't really follow the action or understand the plays, also he has a learning disability I have never heard of), idk I think I'm in over my head here

frogbs, Saturday, 30 September 2023 02:24 (six months ago) link

leaving the house without being late AND having major trauma seems to be increasingly impossible.

behold the thump (ledge), Saturday, 7 October 2023 11:56 (six months ago) link

two weeks pass...

last week i pretended to get hit in the head by my daughter's toy train for an easy laugh, pretended to faint, then i actually in reality hit my head on the chair behind me

Chuck_Tatum, Tuesday, 24 October 2023 17:17 (five months ago) link

thats some Mr. Bean shit right there

frogbs, Tuesday, 24 October 2023 17:24 (five months ago) link

three months pass...

my 15 year old really likes to stay out now. he has basketball practice from 5-7 and it takes him like an hour and a half to get back home afterwards.. because it ends late.. then he takes his time changing.. then he messes around, chatting w his friends.. all v innocuous but it drives me bananas. we don't eat together those days. everything gets pushed later. he's showering at like 9:45. today his coach asked him if he would play in the older age group's game, which was after his practice, a big thrill for him, how can he say no, and he texts me to give me the heads up, but with no ETA or anything.. he gets home, in the dark London rain, at 10:15... i mean.. i don't like it but also a little voice is like, well, he's 15, this is how it is now sometimes. idk when i was 15 i had to be home by 5:30pm and i doubt it ever occurred to me that this boundary was transgressible but he's a very different kid (doing very wholesome things by and large)

Humanitarian Pause (Tracer Hand), Tuesday, 6 February 2024 23:15 (two months ago) link

Yeah my elder kid has color guard practice. Allegedly it's either 4 to 6, or on alternate days, 6 to 9. And then dance class is 6:30 to 7:25, and voice lessons are on the weekend. And the younger one has speech therapy and swimming on alternate Fridays, unless he doesn't.

But in reality it's everything everywhere all at once.

Virginia Wolfman (Ye Mad Puffin), Wednesday, 7 February 2024 00:10 (two months ago) link

Mine used to have schedules like that. Now, they're all out on their own, except the last one. I miss the hubbub.

immodesty blaise (jimbeaux), Wednesday, 7 February 2024 00:13 (two months ago) link

So far I have dug in my heels and put limits on the amount of extra stuff the kids do. Their mom sometimes wants to pile more on and NO NO NO. They each have one activity that sometimes takes multiple days a week and temple obligations. That’s enough.

Cow_Art, Wednesday, 7 February 2024 00:27 (two months ago) link

Our next four things are working, college, driving, and housing.

None of them are optional, so we don't get to be picky. Alas. Eldest probably needs to drive. May need to work. Definitely needs college.

Younger (severely disabled) one needs something like a sheltered workshop and group housing.

Virginia Wolfman (Ye Mad Puffin), Wednesday, 7 February 2024 02:41 (two months ago) link

yeah we have something 5 days out of the week with ours, I'd try to scale it back but I didn't get to do a whole lot of that stuff when I was a kid so I'll take the bullet

frogbs, Wednesday, 7 February 2024 03:31 (two months ago) link

The 10 year old is asking for more freedom, what do you let her do? Walk to the corner store by herself (no street crossings, just around the block)? Walk to school? Stay home alone while we run out to the store?

When I was 10, I was out for hours at at time unsupervised. But I lived in a hay field.

Jeff, Wednesday, 7 February 2024 11:50 (two months ago) link

I live in London and yeah both kids were doing those things by 10. I think even by like 7 we were letting them go to the park on their own. It’s funny how quickly it goes from nerve racking to normal (and then back again if they haven’t come back even they said they would)

Humanitarian Pause (Tracer Hand), Wednesday, 7 February 2024 13:21 (two months ago) link

So another first grader told my son he was going to bring a gun to school and shoot him. This is at home room the other morning. My kid handled it well until bedtime and started freaking out about death. Had to have some really hard conversations with him.

This obviously set off some alarms and procedures for the other kid and his parents at the school and county. He’s not a real threat or anything but what the fuck are 7 year olds talking like that for. Goddamn America

Comfortably numbnuts (Heez), Wednesday, 7 February 2024 13:36 (two months ago) link

And yeah I know we said things like I’m gonna kill you at that age but this is different

Comfortably numbnuts (Heez), Wednesday, 7 February 2024 13:37 (two months ago) link

jesus christ that is terrifying. i’m so sorry

Humanitarian Pause (Tracer Hand), Wednesday, 7 February 2024 13:37 (two months ago) link

When the free-range parenting thing was a thing, I had a friend who had a 10 year old and he was buying into it, talking about what it was like when we were kids and how much more restrictive we are with our kids even though crime and scary things happening to kids was at an all-time low. I suggested that perhaps scary things happen to kids less often because we keep a closer eye on them than our parent did. His eyes widened and I could see his wheels turning.

I have no idea how that actually plays out, statistics wise. I just know that I did incredibly stupid things when I was ten, footloose and fancy-free. It's a wonder I didn't burn the damn house down. I guess it really depends on your kids and their maturity.

Cow_Art, Wednesday, 7 February 2024 13:41 (two months ago) link

Thanks. It fucked me up too if I’m being honest

Comfortably numbnuts (Heez), Wednesday, 7 February 2024 13:42 (two months ago) link

So sorry to hear about that, Heez. That's nothing a kid should have to go through. Given that we have things like the Newport News teacher shooting, it's so much scarier. I remember bullies at school in the 80s who said they were gonna kill me, but it was all just dumb bravado.

On a lighter side of that type of story, a couple of years ago, I got a call to come to the elementary school because my fifth grader was in the principal's office. Another student had found a post-it note in his locker that read "the Illuminati is coming for you" on one side with a drawing of a bloody dagger on the reverse. When the administration reviewed the surveillance video, it was my daughter who had slipped it in the locker. Apparently, they had been joking around about the Illuminati at recess for some reason and she thought he'd appreciate the joke. She didn't mean to freak him out and was distraught about it (although she didn't apologize right away and kept quiet about her involvement until the truth came out). After chatting with the teachers and the principal for half an hour, they agreed to let her off with a warning because it was obviously just a misunderstanding. Anyway, they are still friends and had a picnic together yesterday.

peace, man, Wednesday, 7 February 2024 14:52 (two months ago) link

I posted this in the mass shooting thread but the active shooter drills have definitely messed my son up - every time they do one he spends weeks talking about what he would do if a "stranger" came into the school and how he would protect his sister, but really he just asks over and over again if there are any bad guys where we live, and where they *do* live, if they would come here, etc. etc. not only that but I hear him late at night getting up and checking the locks on the doors. it terrifies him. as I guess it probably should. luckily after a couple weeks he kind of 'gets over' it, but still I can't imagine this is good for them, it's not a reality I want them to be aware of just yet

frogbs, Wednesday, 7 February 2024 15:02 (two months ago) link

That’s the thing that upsets me about it. He’s 7 and ever since this happened he’s being more mature. Hugging me more and being thoughtful. I’d rather him throw tantrums and be an asshole like before. Something was opened up to him and I should be happy he’s handling it well but I just want him to be a kid

Comfortably numbnuts (Heez), Wednesday, 7 February 2024 15:18 (two months ago) link

Pastopianism is a hell of a drug. "I did (x) and turned out fine," except some folks didn't.

Congratulations, you drank from the hose, stayed out until the streetlights came on, etc. But lots of bad things happened to lots of people during those days. Several of my friends did NOT survive.

Virginia Wolfman (Ye Mad Puffin), Wednesday, 7 February 2024 15:54 (two months ago) link

that said, in the 1970s nobody was going through the anticipatory trauma that comes from living in a society where school shootings have become normalized so

Humanitarian Pause (Tracer Hand), Wednesday, 7 February 2024 19:28 (two months ago) link

Yes. People always talk about "oh times were simpler" well maybe thats because you werent being told OMG A GUNMAN COULD BURST IN AND KILL YOU ALLevery freaking month. :(

Stoop Crone (Trayce), Thursday, 8 February 2024 04:44 (two months ago) link

even when I take out the garbage at night after he's gone to bed I come back and hear "Daddy is that you? Ok just wanted to make sure it wasn't a bad guy"

frogbs, Thursday, 8 February 2024 04:53 (two months ago) link

Oh geez :(

Stoop Crone (Trayce), Thursday, 8 February 2024 22:05 (two months ago) link

Ha got my first ever puking toddler problem to manage today!

Somehow I have avoided the other times

I myself have not puked since 1994 so it’s a wild journey! Maybe this is the week!!

I am going for the “it’s impossible to be careful with a sick toddler so I’m just not bothering to be careful“ approach

Chuck_Tatum, Wednesday, 21 February 2024 12:17 (one month ago) link


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