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― Sons Of The Redd Desert (Ken L), Sunday, 18 June 2006 13:06 (twenty years ago)

my dad always made me mow the lawn. maybe that's why I went urban.

happy fathers day dudes

― m coleman (lovebug starski), Sunday, 18 June 2006 13:10 (twenty years ago)

Happy Father's Day! (no lawn mowing here, just hanging with family all day...)

― Sara R-C (Sara R-C), Sunday, 18 June 2006 13:14 (twenty years ago)

I didn't know Andrew had a kid.

Yeah, um...did I miss something?

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Sunday, 18 June 2006 13:18 (twenty years ago)

Dudes, father's day was last week. Well, here anyway. :-)

Thanks, Beth, for explaining. :-)

― Nathalie (stevie nixed), Sunday, 18 June 2006 13:43 (twenty years ago)

andrew got married, right?

aldo's kids totally have a 'just humoring dad' look on their face!

― teeny (teeny), Sunday, 18 June 2006 16:06 (twenty years ago)

I'd love that was the case, but it was their idea.

― aldo_cowpat (aldo_cowpat), Sunday, 18 June 2006 19:33 (twenty years ago)

kids who appreciate kubrick, some dads have all the luck!

― teeny (teeny), Sunday, 18 June 2006 19:41 (twenty years ago)

I'd post here, but I don't post on ILX anymore, do I?

Two chilluns, one with the boogie (Miranda, age 2) and one like his dad with no boogie (Eric, age 5).

Neither of them like anything really interesting, though Eric was rocking along to Bardo Pond's BUFO ALVARIUS/AMEN 29:15 this afternoon, but he said "he didn't like the music".

― Matt Maxwell (Matt M.), Sunday, 18 June 2006 22:02 (twenty years ago)

oh I forgot to mention my kid is now crawling too, which is fairly ridiculous.

― teeny (teeny), Monday, 19 June 2006 11:03 (twenty years ago)

I am "the best daddy in the world", so ner!

― PJ Miller (PJ Miller 68), Monday, 19 June 2006 11:09 (twenty years ago)

Oh wow! Teeny, you must be so proud! We're constantly looking at Ophelia on the baby-gym screaming "Look! She moved a few centimeters!" It's all just by accident of course, but we're so proud of her anyway. And we're also terrified thinking she'll not reach her milestones anymore and just be like this for the rest of her life. hahahah She's also much more *independent*: she can play for half an hour (and then suddenly she'll scream twice and right after that fall asleep).

We're still seriously thinking about a second baby. We've pretty much made up our mind. The only problem is that I'm already having panic attacks thinking sth will go wrong now. Silly, I know, but hell I'm a pessimist. :-( Also, I need to check with my OBGYN about when we can start trying to conceive. I don't wanna fuck up my body nor risk the baby's health. (Research has shown that having a second baby before a year has passed, can result in premature babies with lower weight.)

Ophelia has started to scream again. She loves to use her voice, shouting really loudly. Also when she's woken up and still alone in her room. I just let her do this for about 15 minutes. It's so funny. Then I come into the room and she throws her legs in the air laughing. Not laughing out loud just yet. She's on the brink.

She doesn't turn around completely. Her whole body flips over just not her one shoulder. So it's not official yet. hah!

Anyway, yeah, I am so fucking in love with Ophelia.

― Nathalie (stevie nixed), Monday, 19 June 2006 11:20 (twenty years ago)

By the way, my favourite picture of Ophelia at the moment:

http://static.flickr.com/48/163659876_15bbfbae8f.jpg?v=0

She's skyping with my parents who live in Japan. They talk to her and she grins or mumbles a bit.

― Nathalie (stevie nixed), Monday, 19 June 2006 11:25 (twenty years ago)

Not nearly as good, but on a similar theme (this was when Ava was four months old)...

http://static.flickr.com/13/19322906_6a89267ed9.jpg

― Michael Jones (MichaelJ), Monday, 19 June 2006 21:42 (twenty years ago)

Newsflash: Edith can walk!

― PJ Miller (PJ Miller 68), Tuesday, 20 June 2006 09:58 (twenty years ago)

definitely some resemblence there, Andrew.

Hah! She's not biologically mine. She's my partner's daughter, but I call her my own for simplicity's sake.

― Andrew (enneff), Tuesday, 20 June 2006 10:10 (twenty years ago)

http://www.fqmagazine.co.uk/images/sce/About_image_Mourinho.jpg

I saw this today in the opticians waiting room. It made me feel sad somehow.

I haven't checked this thread for a while cos I've been too busy, but some of these pictures are beautiful. Fuck it, no, all of them are beautiful, what am I saying.

― NickB (NickB), Tuesday, 20 June 2006 10:19 (twenty years ago)

FQ, the first in a new genre of men’s magazine, developed entirely for family-oriented men who’ve grown up and subsequently grown out of the stable of lads mags on offer today.

Targeting all fathers and men whose lives and perspective have changed as they’ve entered fatherhood. FQ is set to revolutionise the men’s lifestyle market by celebrating parenthood and lifestyle changes that come along with it. Solely catering for today’s modern man, FQ reflects the lives and aspirations of men who have grown out of ‘lads mags’ and require a more sophisticated read to suit their newly acquired tastes and interests.

I still can't believe it's not a spoof.

― NickB (NickB), Tuesday, 20 June 2006 10:21 (twenty years ago)

I hope it features pictures of lovely ladies covered in baby food.

Incidentally, I was criticised (obliquely) by another dad on Sunday, because I was sitting on the ground at the playground. Apparently this is a bad example, because I would get my trousers dirty and have to wash them.

However, I am proud to fly the flag for punk rock.

― PJ Miller (PJ Miller 68), Tuesday, 20 June 2006 10:44 (twenty years ago)

Eh? Being able to roll around in the dirt again is half the point of being a dad, I thought. You should have chucked sand at him (perhaps served with optional wedgie).

― NickB (NickB), Tuesday, 20 June 2006 11:03 (twenty years ago)

I used to get Parenting magazine, and, the way it was so specifically catered to the moms (articles like "how to get back in your bikini" and somesuch), I actually really look forward to FQ. What does FQ even stand for?

And I'll tell you what, for some reason, nothing quite goes together better in photos than kids and artillery. Somewhere I have a picture of 9 year old me sitting in a Blackhawk helicopter (from an airshow). And one of my favorite pictures of my son (I'll try to dig it up from my parents' house this weekend), he is standing on top of a tank, pointing and yelling.

― mummy wrapped in bacon (nickalicious), Tuesday, 20 June 2006 12:15 (twenty years ago)

Father's Quarterly, I suppose, from Gentleman's Quarterly. Not quarterly at all though.

Yeah, next time I will kick Boring Dad's head in, the boring c*nt.

― PJ Miller (PJ Miller 68), Tuesday, 20 June 2006 12:19 (twenty years ago)

he was probably just jealous as you'd won Best Dad Ever award yet again (although i'm not sure who judges said award, i certainly wasn't asked. far be it from me to suggest nepotism but...)

― koogy wonderland (koogs), Tuesday, 20 June 2006 12:36 (twenty years ago)

Quick update: Emma's 5th grade graduation sleepover party featured NINE of her best friends at our house; they watched "High School Musical" (at least four of them knew every word and dance routine) and "School of Rock" (which at least two of them refused to watch at first because they HATE JACK BLACK, but they got over it because the other seven LOVE JACK BLACK) and had a dance-off, which Emma won with her interpretive beatnik performance called "Alone." Only one emo meltdown, which was pretty ace. She's off to junior high next year, gulp.

Sammy is still Sammy: obsessed with Broadway (lately, "Annie" and "Fiddler on the Roof" and "Singin' in the Rain"), with writing plays (his latest was a kind of origin story of Hitler, showing how he became evil because of a 2000 year old curse inflicted on his family by a pissed-off pharaoh), with baseball (he could be quite a good little infielder in the David Eckstein mode if he really stuck with it), and with hating George Bush.

[We might not be done.]

― Haikunym (Haikunym), Tuesday, 20 June 2006 12:45 (twenty years ago)

Aw thread cuteness reaaching critical mass again!

Btw I can totally buy the pharoah thing.

― Archel (Archel), Tuesday, 20 June 2006 12:48 (twenty years ago)

We just did our first solid food eating *experiment*. It was actually a big success. She definitely had a WTF experience but she ate a few spoonfuls! I'm so frigging proud of my daughter.

― Nathalie (stevie nixed), Tuesday, 20 June 2006 13:43 (twenty years ago)

yay feely, way to eat!

― Haikunym (Haikunym), Tuesday, 20 June 2006 13:44 (twenty years ago)

More baby pictures from the vault, on a horticultural theme:
Tucker (now 21)

Nigel, who's turning 24 on 7/16. I'm getting him an iPod.

There's actually an ancient picture of ME with a peony, too. Runs in the family.

― Beth Parker (Beth Parker), Tuesday, 20 June 2006 23:39 (twenty years ago)

i spent father's day at bonnaroo. my wife called and said the kid missed me and had made me a present -- O THE GUILT! (actually, kid was at bonnaroo for a few hours the day before, but i couldn't imagine keeping him there overnight.) anyway, the present was some homemade chocolate truffles (actually made by my sister-in-law) presented to me in a tupperware container with a big fingerpainted handprint on it. cute.

latest kid feat: making cow noises. i am entertained.

― gypsy mothra (gypsy mothra), Wednesday, 21 June 2006 00:33 (twenty years ago)

Nathalie, she is gorgeous!!

― youn (youn), Wednesday, 21 June 2006 00:42 (twenty years ago)

i spent father's day at bonnaroo
Take him camping! We took our boys to the Winterhawk bluegrass festival in Ancramdale, NY for years and years, until WE got sick of the discomforts of camping and the crowds (leaving Martha's Vineyard in mid-July to go to a crowded festival? What were we thinking?). Now they rent a minivan, load it up with camping gear and go without us. Not for the music—they couldn't care less—but for all the friends they made there, other kids who were dragged there by their parents.

― Beth Parker (Beth Parker), Wednesday, 21 June 2006 00:50 (twenty years ago)

yeah i definitely plan to take him camping. maybe more in the mountains, tho, and less in a big hot field full of 20-year-olds with 3-foot bongs. (very friendly 20-year-olds, i should add -- the bonnaroo crowd was nice. during the couple hours z was there, he got lots of smiles, people taking his picture, one guy even gave him an inflatable monkey to dance with.)

― gypsy mothra (gypsy mothra), Wednesday, 21 June 2006 00:54 (twenty years ago)

Now my kids ARE the bong guys.

― Beth Parker (Beth Parker), Wednesday, 21 June 2006 00:56 (twenty years ago)

This is the moment to share this story. Our boys, 12 and 14 at the time, I think, were acting squirrelly, so we did some detective work and followed their footprints in the snow. They had made a tent of sorts in our neighbor's woods, out of trash bags and sticks. Inside was a bottle of liquor that they'd gotten by taking a little bit out of every bottle in their grandmother's fully-stocked liquor cabinet. Even they couldn't drink it. Also, there was a bong constructed out of my older son's empty Prozac prescription bottles. Why oh why did we throw it out? We had to SET A GODDAMN EXAMPLE!

(the Prozac was prescribed for ADD after Ritalin made him lose weight, appear visibly drugged, and become anemic. He's off all those helpful pharmaceuticals now, thank you v. much.)

― Beth Parker (Beth Parker), Wednesday, 21 June 2006 01:08 (twenty years ago)

oh, the pharmaceutical thing. i have a younger brother who's just now coming to resent the wide range of drugs he was prescribed for assorted things from the age of 12 on. he thinks most of them didn't help anything, and a lot of them had bad effects. why did anyone ever think it was a good idea to mess with adolescent brain chemistry? there's this whole generation of kids who grew up popping pills. not that i blame any parents -- including my own, who were just trying to help my brother -- but i think i'm going to be pretty circumspect about anybody trying to sign up my kid as a marketing opportunity for the drug industry.

― gypsy mothra (gypsy mothra), Wednesday, 21 June 2006 01:30 (twenty years ago)

Nathalie, she is gorgeous!!

Oh thanks! I just thought it was me, the mother, who thinks she's so pretty.;-)

This morning we came in the room and she was on her belly. WTF!

Beth, you have such cute sons!

― Nathalie (stevie nixed), Wednesday, 21 June 2006 05:14 (twenty years ago)

Look out Natalie—one minute they're rolling over, the next minute they're toddling down the road! I always had to have a fenced yard. My boys had wanderlust as soon as they could crawl.
The pharmaceutical thing is so hard. If your kid's in trouble you're even more vulnerable to the medical world's "blah blah blah, fully tested, perfectly safe, no long term effects, blah blah blah." In reality, they know NEXT TO NOTHING about these drugs, and as soon as something, like Prozac, has been around long enough to really have been monitored, the patent runs out so the companies start pushing something else.
I know I referred to ADD upthread, but that was lazy shorthand for a whole bunch of stuff that was going on with him. I don't really approve of that catch-all diagnosis. A lot of it has to do with getting the kids medicated to make things easier for teachers, who more often than not have their own kids and are seriously overextended. Americans are so afraid of paying taxes that the public schools will never get the kind of teacher-student ratios that work. We should just go back to the spinster schoolteachers who were pouring all of their sublimated sex drive into their work, and were allowed to smack the little bastards once in a while (just kidding about that last—I'd go ballistic).
Speaking of blah blah blah. I could go on.

― Beth Parker (Beth Parker), Wednesday, 21 June 2006 12:25 (twenty years ago)

oh man I had such a day with the kid yesterday. 6-month doctor checkup, everything is good, he weighed in at 20.5 lbs. Got home, put him to bed, and then when he woke up, I brought him into our bedroom for a round of foot-eating. As I was twisting him around on my lap, he gave me a big kick and pushed right off! Thank god for the new yorker summer fiction issue because it kind of cushioned his fall but he fell right on his head and was super pissed. No bump, just a little pink at point of impact, but I was still on the phone to the doctor to make sure they didn't want to see him. Once I got over my initial mortification everything was fine.

My husband came home early from work (unrelated) and so I went to the grocery store by myself and there was this HOT MOM there with her son and I totally flirted with them. This kid was four and he was so cute, skinny with jug ears and coke-bottle glasses. I told the mom her kid was cute and he totally struck up a conversation with me in the checkout line. Among the things I learned:

"I wear glasses because I can't see small things very well."
Me too. I think they look good on you, men with glasses are handsome. Mom: "See, I told you!"

"I like Batman. I like all the superheroes actually. [significant pause] Even the Justice League."
I feel exactly the same way.

"When I was little my dad called me Elvis because...because...because...Mom, why did he call me Elvis?"
Mom: "Because your hair was as black as mine." [she totally looked like Joan Jett in the 80s, HOT MOM HOT MOM]

"Do you have a son?"
Why yes I do, thanks for asking, I appreciate the opportunity to let your mom know that I'm a parent too and not just some random baby-crazy stranger.

He made his mom drive by me in the parking lot so he could say goodbye. I gave him the devil horns.

― teeny (teeny), Wednesday, 21 June 2006 12:58 (twenty years ago)

EROTIQUE

― Haikunym (Haikunym), Wednesday, 21 June 2006 13:00 (twenty years ago)

Cyrus is just now at the stage where he's rapidly developing language. Every couple of days he seems to add a new word to his vocabulary. Now we've got titty-tat, hi, bye bye, night night, light, car, uh-oh, mama, dada, up, out, bottle, ball....

Oh, so much fun!!

Last week was not fun. He had croup and was barking like a seal. His breathing was so laboured, it was pretty scary.

― Maria :D (Maria D.), Wednesday, 21 June 2006 13:57 (twenty years ago)

I'm totally jealous of you, Teeny, why don't you adopt me and Ophelia? We'll be good, I swear!

Maria, long time no... uh read? It's great to ~~hear~~ read everything's going great (apart from the croup - boo!).

― Nathalie (stevie nixed), Wednesday, 21 June 2006 14:12 (twenty years ago)

haha omg that story is awesome, teeny! Lukas is always helping me flirt with hot moms when we go grocery shopping.

In fact, grocery shopping with the boy, apart from the obligatory hot moms, is always a treat these days. He's nothing like me & my sister's were at his age ("mom, we NEED this, it has a free toy inside! [30 seconds later] no actually we need THIS!"), he's patient, he asks politely if he sees something he wants me to buy, he's always eager to push the cart (at like 4'8" or however friggin tall he is now, it's no problem), and lately he's been totally obsessed with expiration dates, which for some reason I find hilarious, especially when we get into the canned foods. Just the awed expressions on his face..."woah, dad, this doesn't expire until 2012!!!!!".

― mummy wrapped in bacon (nickalicious), Wednesday, 21 June 2006 14:33 (twenty years ago)

Also, that was funny of him to say "even the Justice League" when Batman is IN the Justice League!

― mummy wrapped in bacon (nickalicious), Wednesday, 21 June 2006 14:55 (twenty years ago)

OMG I've never posted no pics of the boy on this thread. This one is kinda older (as the date stamp confirms), and it's totally on my myspace, but I love it, and most of y'all haven't seen it:

http://i7.photobucket.com/albums/y254/nickstravaganza/LukasEasterBunny.jpg

― mummy wrapped in bacon (nickalicious), Wednesday, 21 June 2006 15:12 (twenty years ago)

Why he was wearing a jacket in Texas, I have no idea.

― mummy wrapped in bacon (nickalicious), Wednesday, 21 June 2006 15:14 (twenty years ago)

Very cool. Is he about to punch the rabbit?

(I know I've been an avid reader of this thread anyway but now I'm up the duff myself there'll REALLY be no getting rid of me...)

― Archel (Archel), Wednesday, 21 June 2006 15:20 (twenty years ago)

Oh, here's one from his recent 7th birthday party. He was so excited to open these presents that he didn't bother wiping the pizza sauce off his face:

http://i7.photobucket.com/albums/y254/nickstravaganza/100_0936.jpg

― mummy wrapped in bacon (nickalicious), Wednesday, 21 June 2006 15:47 (twenty years ago)

What a cute boy! :-)

― Nathalie (stevie nixed), Wednesday, 21 June 2006 18:45 (twenty years ago)

Nickalicious, m'friend, you remain the coolest single dad I know. :-)

― Ned Raggett (Ned), Wednesday, 21 June 2006 19:03 (twenty years ago)

Hey Maria if you wouldn't mind sharing I would really really be interested in your experience breastfeeding with your second. I'm remembering that right, you didn't with your first? My sister in law is about to have her third and is interested in trying to breastfeed for the first time..her second had problems with colic and formula tolerance etc. I fucking love breastfeeding but I know it can be a different set of challenges from formula, and I would love to hear from someone who's been there.

― teeny (teeny), Wednesday, 21 June 2006 19:43 (twenty years ago)

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