ILX Parenting 5: I'm a big kid now

Normal behavior.

I just read somewhere that potty training attempts too early are not going to be super productive because there is something that developmentally and physiologically needs to happen with the kid that before they can be trained. Think it was in a dr sears book, so yea however you feel about dr sears ( I generally like him)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_bP0Uf3Shd0

I hate that this is about moms and not parents, because IME babies are equal opportunity about this stuff, but that aside, I am identifying strongly with this video. Especially the part about trying to pick up blocks while the baby is like *DUMP* because that happens a lot.

I feel kind of pandered to tbh but still, man, the blocks thing. Also the bath, then the food in the hair, then the bath again. And the clothes out of the dresser. All of it really except the dishwasher because our kitchen is too small to accommodate one adult, one toddler, and an open dishwasher at the same time.

there is currently a war going on over my wallet. i find loose change scattered around the house and pocket it. my kids later locate my wallet, liberate all the loose change, and we start over.

just wait til they learn how to use your credit card!

hate that fucking video. the reason she's not getting anything done is because some asshole is filming instead of HELPING

can you guys recommend some parenting blogs? my bff is getting totally neurotic reading garbage about how things never get easier and the defensively self-righteous tone of open letters to so-and-so or w/e -- it's making her miserable. she has a 16 mo old and a 6 week old. i feel like she has been pregnant for like 3 years.

I'm not sure it's quite what you're looking for, but the two I read most are Honest Toddler and Eeh Bah Mum.

thanks! i don't have any idea what i'm looking for -- i just want her to feel better, maybe get some larfs.

Only parenting type blog I read is Grounded Parents. Probably not what you're looking for though.

i dunno, that looks more to her liking than the garbage she sent me today
she's smart and science-minded, but culturally isolated in the middle of ohio

she can post here!

that would mean i would have to protect her from the rest of ilx though :-/
better not

a gentle type I guess? alas. this is a remarkably unobnoxious place to talk parenting and for the internet that's saying a lot

yeah
i wish i could confidently say, "here, these people are cool you should talk with them" but
i just can't! she's curious and she would not like what she found.

my wife reads the motherlode blog on the nyt, and she reads the comments (bless her soul) and it doesn't seem that horrible from what she says

myself, I only talk parenting on here, not even irl b/c people have a lot of opinions

I am happy with Honest Toddler and Eeh Bah Mum. I totally hated the one I found called How WE Montessori...I really liked it for all of a day and bookmarked it. It became obnoxious and it's not really anything this blogger did, just my reaction to her perfection.

I've been hearing"Mommy, Mommy, Mommy" a lot and love it but it keeps from getting online.

our new baby son was born on sunday!!!! everybody is doing great, my wife is exhausted obviously but no major issues. bummer that the hospital has a "no siblings under 12" visitation rule because of flu season so J can't come and meet his new brother F just yet. I've been going home for a few hours during the day to spend some time with him while my inlaws come to the hospital with my wife and F

congratulations!!!

Awwww congratulations!!!!! I'm glad everybody is doing well! I will look forward to an update in the rolling photo quarantine!

congrats marcos!

babies rule, congrats!

Congrats!

congrats!

congratulations!

congrats!!

Congratulations to you all!

WOOOO HOOO! it's meconium time!

Congratulations!

Congratulations on sweet new baby! :)

Well done marcos congrats

thanks everybody!

thank god the meconium is over with by now

also whoa a toddler is way harder than a newborn tbh, at least this newborn, not what I expected. J requires waaaaay more attentions and support than the new one

I know have "it's time for the meconium" in my head to the cadence of "it's time for the percolator"

Three months of insane colic followed by a month of reasonable peace was starting to feel good until this teething bullshit started. Fucking hell.

Aha. Exactly. No teething yet but some 'wonder week' bullshit or maybe that's just what he's like now idk
4-month sleep regression too! Although tbh that's not as bad as I was expecting. I have massive dark circles though so perhaps I'm in denial.

Fun fact: if a toddler eats a lot of blueberries, she will have purple, vaguely blueberry scented poop. It is upsetting.

the purple poople greeters

so J was given a provisional diagnosis on the autism spectrum a couple weeks ago. we got the report right before our second baby was born, it is all a little overwhelming right now. we're plannig out all kinds of services right now and working an agency. thinking about preschool is tough and stressful now.

any other folks here have a kid on the spectrum?

I don't have any experience with kids on the spectrum, but I'm posting to be supportive. That sounds very overwhelming, but it's great that you're lining up services and working with an agency.

thanks carl for the support, I appreciate it! this is all so new to me. my wife used to work with kids on the spectrum and she suspected something was up with J for a while, my stance was more "he might be developing differently but he is only two so let's wait and see" but the developmental pediatrician was pretty convincing in helping me see a larger pattern of things that was already very apparent to my wife. the doctor did say that a diagnosis can be helpful to obtain very beneficial services even if the diagnosis is lifted when the child is older, so we'll see what happens

The earlier you can provide interventions the easier it is on kid as far as learning how to cope/function, right? So that's good.

I have no experience whatsoever but I believe spotting it early is good. Best wishes Marcos

Yes, all the best Marcos and family.

All the best, marcos

My kids caught human metapneumovirus last week and were in the hospital from Saturday until yesterday, where they were also diagnosed with pneumonia. They came home last night and aside from the coughing, I don't know if anyone would have known that they were even sick.

Arg scary! I'm glad they are home and okay.

right now my mom is feeding them while I pretend to work from home