ILX Parenting 5: I'm a big kid now

That's right! Reading and stove :) we still play together but now, more and more, whatever play, we always play with August being Mommy and I am August.

FWIW, K is three and not potty-trained and super resistant to it, any tips appreciated. The thing is we have had several successful days where she did use the potty multiple times, but then she always wants to go back to wearing the diaper. We get told "you can't push them, they have to be ready" so we don't force her, if she insists on the diaper she wears the diaper, but now it's starting to feel late.

We didn't get our kid fully potty-trained until right before she turned 4. And my bigger kid wore pull-ups at night until he was 5, I'm pretty sure. do you have a little potty chair or do you use the kind that fits over the grown-up toilet seat?

gamification

We've done the prize thing. Stickers. Chocolate. Isn't working atm, she's resisting.

Warmer weather can help, you can let them run around without any pants on

she no longer wants to, wants a diaper

I don't have advice but I am obviously keep on learning about this topic. Do you know why she wants a diaper?

Family lore has it that I potty trained myself by hanging out on my potty seat in the bathroom with my grandfather while he pooped and read, which is disgusting. But as an in-home exhibitionist who pees with the door open (and the mother of a child who prefers to keep her eyes on me at all times), Ivy has already had lots of opportunity to watch the big people potty in action so fingers crossed for when the time comes.

I mean it seems to me that she legit doesn't want to use the potty, but also doesn't want to pee or poop on herself, so she's smart enough to figure out that the other option is a diaper. She doesn't want to risk an accident but is against the potty. Why she's against the potty I don't completely understand -- one night recently she used it several times and seemed very pleased with herself, and then it was like it never happened.

we had plenty of accidents. I mean, wet underwear everyday. poop rolling down the leg and onto the floor. I remember that toward the end I bribed her with toob toys

poop rolling down the leg and onto the floor

I thought I had the whole borderline-clinical aversion to bodily effluvia under control after 15.5 months of being barfed, drooled, peed, and pooped on but NOPE still there.

I busted out the bumbo seat for the first time yesterday solely to sit the kid in the bathroom while I took care of some business.

xp: oh yeah. and especially since she was only consuming chocolate milk at the time, her poop was just all these little marbles. They'd come out of her pants cuff and she'd kick them all over the floor. Not fun.

it never ends - V's still having "accidents" on a semi-regular basis and she's 7. I dunno how common/uncommon this is but it seems to be entirely psychological, she's too busy/engaged w whatever she's doing and then oops pooped/peed her pants. so much fun.

our littlest is 8 and she still wears pull ups at night, and since she's #3 we don't care; eventually she'll get over that but it's so not worth stress that we might have felt with the earlier kids

Sometimes there's a little part of me that suspects we've overcorrected as a society for past problems by being not insistent at all when it comes to potty training. I have a hard time grasping why it's ok to insist when it comes to everything else, but not that.

It definitely happened a lot earlier when there were no disposables and washing was done by hand. Stet's gran had each of her five children potty trained by the age of one.

Holy shit that's early!

Has anybody ever tried those blogger mom "intensive three day potty training" tactics? Where you basically hunker down with your kid for three urine soaked days and at the end, the kid is potty trained (and you are committed for a two month rest cure, presumably)?

People I know have not had good results, or at least it doesn't work as advertised -- it may effectively START potty training but it doesn't get the job done.

We found this book to be useful, if your daughter likes reading:

http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/51tyVNDzZQL._SX258_BO1,204,203,200_.jpg

There is a boys version too

Our main problem now is getting her OFF the potty: she sits there with her toys and books and gets comfy and you have to crowbar her off after half an hour

Normal behavior.

I just read somewhere that potty training attempts too early are not going to be super productive because there is something that developmentally and physiologically needs to happen with the kid that before they can be trained. Think it was in a dr sears book, so yea however you feel about dr sears ( I generally like him)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_bP0Uf3Shd0

I hate that this is about moms and not parents, because IME babies are equal opportunity about this stuff, but that aside, I am identifying strongly with this video. Especially the part about trying to pick up blocks while the baby is like *DUMP* because that happens a lot.

I feel kind of pandered to tbh but still, man, the blocks thing. Also the bath, then the food in the hair, then the bath again. And the clothes out of the dresser. All of it really except the dishwasher because our kitchen is too small to accommodate one adult, one toddler, and an open dishwasher at the same time.

there is currently a war going on over my wallet. i find loose change scattered around the house and pocket it. my kids later locate my wallet, liberate all the loose change, and we start over.

just wait til they learn how to use your credit card!

hate that fucking video. the reason she's not getting anything done is because some asshole is filming instead of HELPING

can you guys recommend some parenting blogs? my bff is getting totally neurotic reading garbage about how things never get easier and the defensively self-righteous tone of open letters to so-and-so or w/e -- it's making her miserable. she has a 16 mo old and a 6 week old. i feel like she has been pregnant for like 3 years.

I'm not sure it's quite what you're looking for, but the two I read most are Honest Toddler and Eeh Bah Mum.

thanks! i don't have any idea what i'm looking for -- i just want her to feel better, maybe get some larfs.

Only parenting type blog I read is Grounded Parents. Probably not what you're looking for though.

i dunno, that looks more to her liking than the garbage she sent me today
she's smart and science-minded, but culturally isolated in the middle of ohio

she can post here!

that would mean i would have to protect her from the rest of ilx though :-/
better not

a gentle type I guess? alas. this is a remarkably unobnoxious place to talk parenting and for the internet that's saying a lot

yeah
i wish i could confidently say, "here, these people are cool you should talk with them" but
i just can't! she's curious and she would not like what she found.

my wife reads the motherlode blog on the nyt, and she reads the comments (bless her soul) and it doesn't seem that horrible from what she says

myself, I only talk parenting on here, not even irl b/c people have a lot of opinions

I am happy with Honest Toddler and Eeh Bah Mum. I totally hated the one I found called How WE Montessori...I really liked it for all of a day and bookmarked it. It became obnoxious and it's not really anything this blogger did, just my reaction to her perfection.

I've been hearing"Mommy, Mommy, Mommy" a lot and love it but it keeps from getting online.

our new baby son was born on sunday!!!! everybody is doing great, my wife is exhausted obviously but no major issues. bummer that the hospital has a "no siblings under 12" visitation rule because of flu season so J can't come and meet his new brother F just yet. I've been going home for a few hours during the day to spend some time with him while my inlaws come to the hospital with my wife and F

congratulations!!!

Awwww congratulations!!!!! I'm glad everybody is doing well! I will look forward to an update in the rolling photo quarantine!

congrats marcos!

babies rule, congrats!

Congrats!

congrats!

congratulations!